Anonymous wrote: Why sugarcoat?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here,
I just wanted to post a small update. My cousin removed the offending message and replaced it with a simple adults only message. At this point I am not sure why he even bothered. He had it posted there for so long.
The relatives he uninvited can now attend the party as long as they don't bring their kids. From my understanding they plan on attending. I also heard they were taken to task by my aunt for being so entitled and expecting babysitting. She told them to never bring up the topic again. She took her son to task for his rudeness. That is where the party stands now.
Your aunt should check herself. She sounds very controlling.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What 21 year old wants a bunch of older relatives with kids at their 21st birthday?
Isn't the 21st usually celebrated in a bar/club with peers?
Exactly! The whole thing sounds like an one set of older cousins want to have a drunk-fest pretending they’re still 21, while another set are thinking of this as a family party celebrating with cake and ice cream.
Anonymous wrote:What 21 year old wants a bunch of older relatives with kids at their 21st birthday?
Isn't the 21st usually celebrated in a bar/club with peers?
Anonymous wrote:I received a group invite via facebook to a relatives 21st birthday party in March. It is being hosted by her brother and cousin. They are renting an event space and will have a DJ and open bar. From the website it looks like they are going all out. I am very much looking forward to the party. It never even crossed my mind to bring my child to a party like this. There was an updated message posted in the invite. My cousin wrote this:
"I have received some inquiries about if children were allowed at the party. I should have been clear at the beginning I suppose but this is not a party for kids. I have even had some cheap people go as far as to ask me to provide a "party room" for kids with babysitting at the venue. I want to make something absolutely clear. Children are NOT welcome. Keep your monsters at home. I will not pay for any sort of babysitting service. I uninvited certain members of my own family for being so presumptions from this party. Anyone else asks me to provide free babysitting your invitation will be rescinded. This is a 21st birthday party not a wedding."
I understand completely that some family members were out of line. I completely get that. I also think that has to be one of the rudest messages from a host I have ever read. I know he is upset but I feel he was out of line. It has created a *** storm. His own mother is apologizing for his rude message and neither host will remove the message from the facebook group invite. I was thinking of calling the second host and ask her to remove it. My husband says to stay out of it. What should I do?
Anonymous wrote:OP here,
I just wanted to post a small update. My cousin removed the offending message and replaced it with a simple adults only message. At this point I am not sure why he even bothered. He had it posted there for so long.
The relatives he uninvited can now attend the party as long as they don't bring their kids. From my understanding they plan on attending. I also heard they were taken to task by my aunt for being so entitled and expecting babysitting. She told them to never bring up the topic again. She took her son to task for his rudeness. That is where the party stands now.
Anonymous wrote:OP, are you the same type of poster/attendee who can't be happy for a newly married couple, and tend to call brides "Bridezilla", by chance? This seems very similar to me.