Anonymous wrote:Nursing is hard, nursing is grueling. Yeah, whatever. So is being a garbageman. Does that mean OP should encourage the kid to be a garbageman?

No, but she shouldn't tolerate him disrepecting garbagemen, either. Nor should you, or other people might think you are both ignorant and a jerk.

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Anonymous wrote:Nursing is hard, nursing is grueling. Yeah, whatever. So is being a garbageman. Does that mean OP should encourage the kid to be a garbageman?

Hey but if there were no garbage men to pit up your garbage--what would you then? Stop putting down honest jobs that society needs. I dare say, we probably need for nurses and garbage men, then some of these made up STEM positions.

^^Need more nurses

Anonymous wrote:Nursing is hard, nursing is grueling. Yeah, whatever. So is being a garbageman. Does that mean OP should encourage the kid to be a garbageman?

Hey but if there were no garbage men to pit up your garbage--what would you then? Stop putting down honest jobs that society needs. I dare say, we probably need for nurses and garbage men, then some of these made up STEM positions.

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Anonymous wrote:Op how do you all talk about and teach family values? Have you talked about and incorporated gratitude? He just seems to take everything for granted, honestly.

He absolutely does take things for granted. When I try to teach him about budgeting and not wasting money, he will say " we have lots of money".
Of course I teach family values. Maybe he needs to volunteer.

This is where religious upbringing helps. Do you belong to a church? Attend, and model the behavior. Ask him what he's thankful for. My guess is this never happened.

Alternately, make him get a job and start paying for things. Mow lawns, whatever.

Or do both.

Sounds like he's been handed everything.

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Anonymous wrote:Not all teens are jerks. Sounds like OP's kid knows no boundary. It's parents job to establish and communicate boundaries. It's called parenting.

What you have written above is so unhelpful. If you know so much about setting boundaries, why don't you give the OP specific advice. What specifically would you say in response to her son? What specifically would you do to discourage this behavior? You have a lot of judgment to pass but nothing helpful to contribute. The OP knows she needs to set boundaries but asked for help in doing this. She is parenting the best she can. There but by the grace of God go you...

I assume that poster has a 4 year old, but thinks she knows everything about parenting teens.

If question where the boundaries were when the kid was 4.

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like the kid needs to be taken down a peg or 5. First he gets an after school job and works the summer. Second stop with the gifted and IQ shit. He is lazy, so that does no matter. He says he is going to make more money vs you, laugh at him. Asking what college he is going to get into? If he names a college have him bring up admission profile. If he is so smart, have him figure out what his grades need to be to have a good chance of admission. In other words, don't take shit from him. When he takes about you, shut it down. It's not about you, you are an adult. It's about him.

Right.
What's with pp saying "you must have a 4 yr old" to another who said this?! You need to shut it down. I tell my kids that saying those things will not be accepted and there are consequences. Why would you not respond immediately the first time he put you down OP?

I see so many parents allowing bad behavior.
If you can't do that, then tell him he hurt your feelings and that nursing is an important profession where you are helping to save lives.

Sounds like the kid needs to be taken down a peg or 5. First he gets an after school job and works the summer. Second stop with the gifted and IQ shit. He is lazy, so that does no matter. He says he is going to make more money vs you, laugh at him. Asking what college he is going to get into? If he names a college have him bring up admission profile. If he is so smart, have him figure out what his grades need to be to have a good chance of admission. In other words, don't take shit from him. When he takes about you, shut it down. It's not about you, you are an adult. It's about him.

Nursing is hard, nursing is grueling. Yeah, whatever. So is being a garbageman. Does that mean OP should encourage the kid to be a garbageman?

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Anonymous wrote:This is OP: I would be proud if he was a nurse.

Good grief, set your sights for him higher.

Quit thinking about how to stomp on his self-esteem just because your ego is bruised.

So what's so lowly about being a nurse?
I'm a nurse and I would bet the farm my annual income exceeds yours.

Is nurse the highest status or highest paid profession? NO. Therefore she should encourage him to aim higher.

And I bet your nurse income does not exceed mine.

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Anonymous wrote:Not all teens are jerks. Sounds like OP's kid knows no boundary. It's parents job to establish and communicate boundaries. It's called parenting.

What you have written above is so unhelpful. If you know so much about setting boundaries, why don't you give the OP specific advice. What specifically would you say in response to her son? What specifically would you do to discourage this behavior? You have a lot of judgment to pass but nothing helpful to contribute. The OP knows she needs to set boundaries but asked for help in doing this. She is parenting the best she can. There but by the grace of God go you...

I assume that poster has a 4 year old, but thinks she knows everything about parenting teens.

Anonymous wrote:Not all teens are jerks. Sounds like OP's kid knows no boundary. It's parents job to establish and communicate boundaries. It's called parenting.

What you have written above is so unhelpful. If you know so much about setting boundaries, why don't you give the OP specific advice. What specifically would you say in response to her son? What specifically would you do to discourage this behavior? You have a lot of judgment to pass but nothing helpful to contribute. The OP knows she needs to set boundaries but asked for help in doing this. She is parenting the best she can. There but by the grace of God go you...

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Anonymous wrote:This is OP: I would be proud if he was a nurse.

Good grief, set your sights for him higher.

Quit thinking about how to stomp on his self-esteem just because your ego is bruised.

So what's so lowly about being a nurse?
I'm a nurse and I would bet the farm my annual income exceeds yours.

OP: sounds like your son could use some volunteer work in a hospital to learn how hard it is.

To you, thank you. We need more nurses. The first time I was hospitalized with a serious bowel infection, I had a bunch of inexperienced residents around me at a teaching hospital in another state. Their supervisory doctor knew nothing about amoebas. The nurse took it about herself to call the doctor who had diagnosed me (but was off the teaching rotation) and get me back on the correct antibiotics after they had been cancelled by the teaching doctor.

Nurses: the people who really look after you...

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Anonymous wrote:Why Is OP getting flack for using the word "gifted"?
Did anyone read the other thread about making students gifted? Everyone is using that work, but OP is bashed for it.

There is lots of gifted jealousy.

Yes, and also people are taking out the frustrations of their shitty commute and high mortgage, or their boredom and inability to get a job on OP.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh, it's my my lowly profession that pays for his private school BTW.

Maybe he doesn't respect you because you often say senseless things like this?

+1. Your profession is not lowly. In fact it is one of the professions I respect the most. It's actual useful work instead of the COMPLETE BS that many working professionals engage in. For evidence, I refer you to the recent thread on office gobbledygook.