No, not with DH. But I have an abusive ex-fiance who did everything physically and mentally in the book to wear me down. I got out, but he also stalked me for 18 years and counting. Less of an issue now than when I was in the process of leaving (escaping? basically going into witness protection?) but I did and do continue to think about the satisfaction I would feel if he just died. If you can just let them go, divorce is most obvious but if there's a lot of abuse like the mine, I totally get it. It's final.

Anonymous wrote:Dang, you just gon' wish the man dead? Like, out loud? Fo' shame!!

Yup! And just like that everyone’s problems went away.

Anonymous wrote:

It is posters like these two that prove true evil exists in our world. It makes my skin crawl to know that these women could be my neighbors, or that my kids might play with their kids.

There is a hell on earth, and their husbands are living in it.

Yes abusive narc husbands are indeed a living hell. Forget.

It is time for you to learn how to read. The OP said her DH was a "jerk." You made up the "abusive narc" part to justify your own evil.

An abusive husband is very different from a "jerk" husband. Wishing the father of your children was dead (which is what the OP is doing here) is evil.

No one above was talking about OP. They were talking about “posters who want their husband dead.”
And then someone provided an example.
And yes some “fathers of children”, so by label only, are indeed evil.

Dang, you just gon' wish the man dead? Like, out loud? Fo' shame!!

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Anonymous wrote:

I do - DH is a jerk and I can't stand being with him. Yet, I don't want a divorce as that would made DD sad.

Yes wish I was widowed asap or divorced with full custody and he moves far away.

It is posters like these two that prove true evil exists in our world. It makes my skin crawl to know that these women could be my neighbors, or that my kids might play with their kids.

There is a hell on earth, and their husbands are living in it.

Yes abusive narc husbands are indeed a living hell. Forget.

You should hear what your ex-husband says about you.

It is posters like these two that prove true evil exists in our world. It makes my skin crawl to know that these women could be my neighbors, or that my kids might play with their kids.

There is a hell on earth, and their husbands are living in it.

Yes abusive narc husbands are indeed a living hell. Forget.

It is time for you to learn how to read. The OP said her DH was a "jerk." You made up the "abusive narc" part to justify your own evil.

An abusive husband is very different from a "jerk" husband. Wishing the father of your children was dead (which is what the OP is doing here) is evil.

I did. We separated as it seemed like a right thing to do. They were so messed up that they took themself out. Can you imagine having to live with it. Our kid lived with it.
No, it wasn't present when we met and dated. All developed later. Couldn't help because for them, everyone else was special and they were norm. Couldn't ask for help from courts as they would have taken the kid out and everyone with them.
Would have been impossible to get the kid out as it is very hard to prove why one parent is not suitable all of a sudden.
Family stayed out and tried to work with whatever came their way.

Anonymous wrote:No, I would never wish that on anyone. Life is too short to be miserable. Either get the marriage help you need to live amicably or separate IMO.

I have teenagers and I don't think they could handle the financial shock to their system. I only have a few more years, thank god.

Oh my god. No. I am close with a few people who lost their parents to death as children and they are much more deeply affected than children of divorce.

I love my husband and am terrified he will die before his time.

I strongly suggest you get a divorce. You don’t even want your husband to be ALIVE. That is not normal!

No and in fact something bad happening to him is a fear of mine. We’ve been together 15 years and we still enjoy each other’s company. He is a great, involved father. I realize it would be unlikely that I’d ever get this lucky twice.

I’m sorry for those of you in situations so bad that you fantasize about being a widower.

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Anonymous wrote:I do - DH is a jerk and I can't stand being with him. Yet, I don't want a divorce as that would made DD sad.

I do, but I think a parents death would also gut my kids.

Me too. Although my kids are old enough now to see that he is a jerk. I don't think they would be sad in the "I miss my dad every day" way but I think it would be hard to process his death and the complicated relationship he had with his family members.

When I began to think about how nice it would be if exDH had an accident so that I wouldn't have to be married anymore without having to have the divorce conversation, I began to seriously think about ending my marriage.

Anonymous wrote:Divorcing a manipulative, vindictive and abusive narcissist is hell. If he died it would be a lot easier. For me anyway.

+1

No, that's my worst nightmare.

Anonymous wrote:

I do - DH is a jerk and I can't stand being with him. Yet, I don't want a divorce as that would made DD sad.

Yes wish I was widowed asap or divorced with full custody and he moves far away.

It is posters like these two that prove true evil exists in our world. It makes my skin crawl to know that these women could be my neighbors, or that my kids might play with their kids.

There is a hell on earth, and their husbands are living in it.

Yes abusive narc husbands are indeed a living hell. Forget.