Anonymous
Post 09/23/2015 13:27     Subject: Is the redhead kid who calls me dad actually mine?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP:

To quote Michael Jackson--

"the kid is not your son"


So what's your game plan?


Pretty sure that post is *to* OP, not from him.
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2015 13:25     Subject: Is the redhead kid who calls me dad actually mine?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The kid is going to learn eventually. You people are in some fantasy land. Many families are messy. Mine sure as hell was.


Ah so because your family was screwed up you think everyone's should be. The kid won't find out unless the dad tests. I would protect the kid. No question.


So the man is supposed to live with that kind of a cloud over his life to spare the feelings of his child? You're crazy



What cloud? You mean the kid? That's not a cloud, that's a person. Divorce the wife. Don't mess with the kid.


Agree. Big hugs to you OP. You suspected this all along but confirmation must be so hard on you.
Do the right thing but also work on a transition plan where the real father can stay involved.
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2015 13:23     Subject: Is the redhead kid who calls me dad actually mine?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I hope he's yours biologically OP. Every man on here knows what you're feeling. A lot of judgemental women on this thread


The "judgemental women" are mostly concerned about this poor child. The adults can survive but to do something like this to a child who loves him and only knows him as daddy is just wretched. He has gone this long with his suspicions, why drag the kid into it like this? Just divorce the wife and be done with it.


+1000

None of this is the kid's fault. Protect him and get over yourself OP. Divorce if you have to but don't upset the father relationship.


None of this is your fault. But, I have a fantasy about cuckolding men and then forcing them to raise other people's children. You should have no desires of your own. Your every waking thought should be altruism and compassion, especially towards children to whom you are not even related. I'm just a self-righteous person who has never been in your position, but I am judging you all the same.

Fixed it for ya.


What? You're a nutball whose obsessed with "cuckolding". I have never cheated and wouldn't. But I would never abandon a child I had raised and loved. Has nothing with "fantasies of cuckolding". Get help.
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2015 13:21     Subject: Is the redhead kid who calls me dad actually mine?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The kid is going to learn eventually. You people are in some fantasy land. Many families are messy. Mine sure as hell was.


Ah so because your family was screwed up you think everyone's should be. The kid won't find out unless the dad tests. I would protect the kid. No question.


So the man is supposed to live with that kind of a cloud over his life to spare the feelings of his child? You're crazy



What cloud? You mean the kid? That's not a cloud, that's a person. Divorce the wife. Don't mess with the kid.
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2015 13:20     Subject: Is the redhead kid who calls me dad actually mine?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The kid is going to learn eventually. You people are in some fantasy land. Many families are messy. Mine sure as hell was.


Ah so because your family was screwed up you think everyone's should be. The kid won't find out unless the dad tests. I would protect the kid. No question.


You a man?


No. What's your point? That women care more about kids?
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2015 13:19     Subject: Is the redhead kid who calls me dad actually mine?
Anonymous wrote:OP:

To quote Michael Jackson--

"the kid is not your son"


Too bad you'll have to keep paying child support.
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2015 13:11     Subject: Is the redhead kid who calls me dad actually mine?
Anonymous wrote:OP:

To quote Michael Jackson--

"the kid is not your son"


So what's your game plan?
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2015 13:06     Subject: Is the redhead kid who calls me dad actually mine?
If it turns out not to be yours, perhaps your son could call the OM "Sperm Daddy" or "Real Daddy" and OP could be called "Wallet Daddy." That should work.
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2015 13:04     Subject: Is the redhead kid who calls me dad actually mine?
OP:

To quote Michael Jackson--

"the kid is not your son"
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2015 08:12     Subject: Re:Is the redhead kid who calls me dad actually mine?
Tomorrow is here OP! Don't forget to inform us of the results. You can maybe call in, instead of waiting for the mail. I hope the little chap is yours!
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2015 18:54     Subject: Is the redhead kid who calls me dad actually mine?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If the child was fathered by someone else, will that be cause enough for divorce OP? If yes, you need marriage counseling more than a paternity test. Let a professional help you work out the distrust in your relationship and what the best steps for you and all of your children are.


Well, no. If the child was fathered by someone else, he needs to find a wife who isn't an oath breaker.


My bad, I meant to type "If not" meaning...

Not everyone considers cheating cause for a divorce, so IF IT ISN'T enough for OP to initiate divorce proceedings then therapy is more helpful than a paternity test.
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2015 16:31     Subject: Is the redhead kid who calls me dad actually mine?
OP here.

Results back tomorrow.
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2015 16:30     Subject: Re:Is the redhead kid who calls me dad actually mine?

Update please! Did OP mention a date that he would get the results back?
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2015 13:00     Subject: Is the redhead kid who calls me dad actually mine?
Sounds like the marriage is down the tubes regardless of the outcome of the test.

If it comes back that OP is the bio dad, he's STILL be suspicious and resentful of his DW.

All this time I've considered the OP to be straight-up, but right now I'm wondering about the alternate scenario where he has a paranoid streak.
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2015 08:44     Subject: Is the redhead kid who calls me dad actually mine?
Anonymous wrote:If the child was fathered by someone else, will that be cause enough for divorce OP? If yes, you need marriage counseling more than a paternity test. Let a professional help you work out the distrust in your relationship and what the best steps for you and all of your children are.


Well, no. If the child was fathered by someone else, he needs to find a wife who isn't an oath breaker.