Anonymous wrote:Uuuunh, not every man (or woman) thinks of first-date sex just as a notch. Some men and women are bona-fide adults and actually think of people, first-date-sex or not, as people.

Adulthood: It's kind of a "thing."

Sorry I'm not as open minded as you. I like to stick it after I know somebody for a bit.

Uuuunh, not every man (or woman) thinks of first-date sex just as a notch. Some men and women are bona-fide adults and actually think of people, first-date-sex or not, as people.

Adulthood: It's kind of a "thing."

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Anonymous wrote:Slept with him on the first date. I hope he calls again or did sleeping together so quickly just screw up those chances?

Slept with my husband 3 hours after we met. We have been married for 10 years!

Some guys have all the luck. Were you on The Bachelor?

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Anonymous wrote:Slept with him on the first date. I hope he calls again or did sleeping together so quickly just screw up those chances?

Slept with my husband 3 hours after we met. We have been married for 10 years!

Good for you. You should be proud.

She definitely shouldn't be ashamed.

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Anonymous wrote:Slept with him on the first date. I hope he calls again or did sleeping together so quickly just screw up those chances?

Slept with my husband 3 hours after we met. We have been married for 10 years!

Good for you. You should be proud.

Anonymous wrote:Slept with him on the first date. I hope he calls again or did sleeping together so quickly just screw up those chances?

Slept with my husband 3 hours after we met. We have been married for 10 years!

Oh my gosh, this thread! So much drama!

Did the OP ever give an update?

I had sex with my husband on the 2nd date! I tried SO HARD not to, but we were irresistibly attracted to each other and he wore me down. I was laying in bed at 6 am, having been up all night making out, thinking to myself: I have to go to work on no sleep. I don't think I can go to work sexually unsatisfied AND exhausted. So I did it

Super sexual urgency is not a bad place to start a relationship. Helps marriage during hard times.

If you want my two cents - the key is somehow discerning in a short time if there is a true connection. If nothing "special" happened during the date, and you didn't feel like you were both recognizing someone who could be important, then he'll probably forget about you post-early-date-sex.

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Anonymous wrote:Did he enjoy the date?

Did he enjoy the sex?

Did you?

I think he did have fun - the date and sex.

He did not spend the night because of an early morning work commitment.

Kissed goodbye and said he'd text me.

He may reach out but these don't sound promising IMO.

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Anonymous wrote:I'll bite. Ones who aren't insecure.

So any guy who would prefer a mate that hasn't slept with 50 other guys is insecure?

...yeah? If you genuinely feel that way, you've flat-out failed at life, sorry kid.

Meh. Look, I've been on the other side through this, but 50 is a pretty big number. I'm not sure even I could fault someone from being skeptical about someone who has had 50 partners.

Do you actually count them? Do you know if you slept with 11 or 12? Or 20 or 22?

If a woman has sex with a guy she doesn't care about seeing again, and waits to have sex with the guy with longterm potential, she's called a lot of very nasty names. Just an observation.

I pretty much tried to sleep with every girl I met as fast I could. Lots in the first couple dates.
This all changed when I met my wife, I knew she was the one so I waited and after a month of dating, she initiated and we have been happily married for 13 years.

My view is, as long as there is an understanding going forward (for our relationship), and she is disease free, then it does not matter. Heck, she may have learned something.

In my single days, I had intimate contact (defined as more than kissing unto and including intercourse...I can break it down further...) with women 15 times within two hours of meeting them. I do not judge the women, anymore than I judge me. These are all good memories...well almost all...one was really bad...

Of those 15 women, I went on to date two for a while, once for about 2 years...

When I met my wife, we did not sleep with each other quickly. That had no impact on our long term relationship, but in our case, there were some logistic issues...

Anonymous wrote:Any guy that used the term "cum bucket" has serious issues and should be avoided, by restraining order if needed.

Just as a bit of advice, using it discredits whatever else you were trying to say. There are some dudes who think any woman who doesn't give it to them are dirty, worthless whores. That is not the kind of dude that I'd like to be anywhere near. They're scary, and think women are some kind of currency that validates them to other men. Fuck that!

I have a feeling it won't be the first time one has been filed against him...

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Anonymous wrote:Slept with him on the first date. I hope he calls again or did sleeping together so quickly just screw up those chances?

I did it all the time. My philosophy was , "why waste time if he isn't any good in bed."

Of course my philosophy about you would be, "why waste my time on an intellectually shallow cum bucket?"

It's none of your business. Really. Your reaction is bizarre.

Any guy that used the term "cum bucket" has serious issues and should be avoided, by restraining order if needed.

Just as a bit of advice, using it discredits whatever else you were trying to say. There are some dudes who think any woman who doesn't give it to them are dirty, worthless whores. That is not the kind of dude that I'd like to be anywhere near. They're scary, and think women are some kind of currency that validates them to other men. Fuck that!