So you 'take your wife for a walk'? LOL! I would worry about a relationship where my husband thought about me kind of like the dog!

Anonymous wrote:Maybe not terribly helpful in this thread, but one of my favorite things the last year or two is that my wife & I started taking walks together. The kids just reached an age where we can leave them alone for awhile and, after dinner, we take the dog on a mile or two walk. Some low impact exercise & bonding time.

We do the same thing. The main reason I do it is to get her out to exercise because otherwise the odds are that she will not.

I personally go to the gym most days because I work out more intensively and also do weights. I do the evening walk mainly to make sure she gets some exercise more for health reasons than weight loss.

Maybe not terribly helpful in this thread, but one of my favorite things the last year or two is that my wife & I started taking walks together. The kids just reached an age where we can leave them alone for awhile and, after dinner, we take the dog on a mile or two walk. Some low impact exercise & bonding time.

Who knows if the OP is still around, but if he is, here are my two cents.

I would love to lose weight, though I don't have the same amount as OP's wife does. I want to lose around 10 pounds, and try to figure out how to deal with my post-partum stomach which is not pleasant (I have a short torso so the baby pushed waaayy out, causing stretchiness). I am so, so tired from being at work all day and then coming home and dealing with cleaning, laundry, etc. Like tired to the bone. I have talked to my husband about us both starting to exercise because I think we both need to be healthy for the kids. This is what I think would help me despite my insane tiredness: establish a routine. If I knew that at 8:30 pm five nights a week I would go exercise, and that my DH had my back and encouraged me to do it, I think it would help a ton. It is too easy to blow it off but if it is like an appointment, it might work better. My husband and I are trying to set this up now, but I think it will be helpful.

Also, wine is your friend re: sex. As I mentioned, my stomach is not that of a super model. I am extremely self-conscious about it and hate it. The thought of getting naked and exposing the stomach is super upsetting to me, which is my own self esteem issue. This is one reason I really want to exercise in the hopes of helping my stomach. But in the meantime, I will drink a glass of wine or two to loosen myself up and get my mind off my horrible stomach. DH has not once said anything negative about my body, including my stomach, and has given me no reason to think he thinks it's awful, but I just find it so unpleasant myself. Greasing the wheels with some wine helps me block out my self esteem issues and get down to business.

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Anonymous wrote:

No, I can get laid whenever I want! I have plenty to talk about, but it is funny to laugh about the bitter and pressed men who have issues regarding women, and yet still desperately want to get laid. Pathetic!

Laugh it up. When you're 50, single and with a dusty, unused box, I'll be 50 and fucking women 20 years younger than me.

Laugh it up.

LOL! Bitch please!

Plenty of 50 year old women are fucking 30 year old guys! And the great thing about being a woman is you get to get laid in your 20s, 30s, 40s AND 50s! Stay pressed!

Actually, the study you linked to does not support your statement. NYT article is purely about exercise but in fact the most important thing for weight loss is diet. Besides that, only fat people need to worry about weight loss. Non fat people just need to maintain a health weight. So why are all these spouses getting fat at all? Thats pretty lazy and unattractive.

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No, I can get laid whenever I want! I have plenty to talk about, but it is funny to laugh about the bitter and pressed men who have issues regarding women, and yet still desperately want to get laid. Pathetic!

Laugh it up. When you're 50, single and with a dusty, unused box, I'll be 50 and fucking women 20 years younger than me.

Laugh it up.

Anonymous wrote:Most men and women are not attracted to someone who looks like she is preparing for a role as sumo wrestler.

If you are really fat - male or female - you are just not attractive. Everyone - other than a few who have medical issues - can lose weight. It is a question of whether they are motivated enough and have the self-discipline to do so.

There was a thread recently on the expectant mothers forum where pregnant women were posting and literally bragging about how they had indulged themselves with some of the foods that are laden with calories. Now these are the same women who will rationalize how they inevitably put on weight because they have had children! Being pregnant is not a pass for eating like there is no tomorrow.

Actually, it's much more difficult for women to lose weight than men. It's not as cut and dry as you are making it out.
http://www.nytimes.com/2010/04/18/magazine/18exercise-t.html?pagewanted=1&_r=0

Most men and women are not attracted to someone who looks like she is preparing for a role as sumo wrestler.

If you are really fat - male or female - you are just not attractive. Everyone - other than a few who have medical issues - can lose weight. It is a question of whether they are motivated enough and have the self-discipline to do so.

There was a thread recently on the expectant mothers forum where pregnant women were posting and literally bragging about how they had indulged themselves with some of the foods that are laden with calories. Now these are the same women who will rationalize how they inevitably put on weight because they have had children! Being pregnant is not a pass for eating like there is no tomorrow.

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Anonymous wrote:Who is watching the kids, cooking dinner, driving the kids around, doing homework and bedtime routine while she works out?

Nice try! Is this your excuse?

Yup. There are very rare circumstances in life where it is truly impossible to fit in a workout - most people could put in 30 minutes on the treadmill 3-5 times a week but don't really want to, so they cling to the "I don't have time." Also, you can get a lot done just by eating healthy food and not grazing on high-carb, empty-calorie snacks and other junk.

Anonymous wrote:God you people (I assume women) are vicious. OP has a right to be concerned health-wise and if nothing else not attracted to his "new" wife. I wouldn't like it if my husband gained 50lbs either. That is a lot of weight.

Same here. DH and I keep reasonably fit for each other. We wouldn't stop loving each other because of the extra weight of course but it would certainly impact our attraction to each other.