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Anonymous wrote:DH pays regular child support, $500 per kid per month for three kids. The rest of the year she nickel and dimes us for every expense. If DH won't pay half she says "well you can't do x,y,or z bc your dad won't pay." He pays half for all of the expenses for the expensive club sports during the school year, but when he asks her to pay for half their sports camps when we have them on the summer she refuses. She sent the kids up in the summer fresh after a lice infestation and didn't tell us until DSD was itching her scalp uncontrollably and I called her to ask why. She won't pay anything for the lice treatment. She also sent DSD to us with a fungal infection under her arm untreated, bc she doesn't wash their swimsuits regularly. When I called her to get the docs number to get a referral she said to just go to CVS minute clinic and that it was covered. Well it wasn't, and now that the $50 tab was mailed to her houseshe is hounding DH to pay it. She never pays DH back for her half of the plane tix for the kids either. She just says she can't afford it even though her take home pay is now more than his. She is just so cheap and manipulative and uses the kids to extort money from us. I just hate it.

Sounds like my DH's ex. We also paid 100% of college for both kids on top of all the other expenses. I begged DH to force her to help pay or have the kids get partial loans but he said that he was not going to let the kids suffer just because of his ex - which I totally understand . And that if they were still married he would have still paid for all their college instead of forcing them to get loans.

I hope your DH has the college piece figured out because that was a very expensive time in our lives and it will be for you guys as well. My youngest step daughter has one year of college left and then we are DONE! I told DH that if he even for one minute thought about possibly paying for grad school that it was serious deal-breaker for us. and I'm not joking.

Anonymous wrote:DH pays regular child support, $500 per kid per month for three kids. The rest of the year she nickel and dimes us for every expense. If DH won't pay half she says "well you can't do x,y,or z bc your dad won't pay." He pays half for all of the expenses for the expensive club sports during the school year, but when he asks her to pay for half their sports camps when we have them on the summer she refuses. She sent the kids up in the summer fresh after a lice infestation and didn't tell us until DSD was itching her scalp uncontrollably and I called her to ask why. She won't pay anything for the lice treatment. She also sent DSD to us with a fungal infection under her arm untreated, bc she doesn't wash their swimsuits regularly. When I called her to get the docs number to get a referral she said to just go to CVS minute clinic and that it was covered. Well it wasn't, and now that the $50 tab was mailed to her houseshe is hounding DH to pay it. She never pays DH back for her half of the plane tix for the kids either. She just says she can't afford it even though her take home pay is now more than his. She is just so cheap and manipulative and uses the kids to extort money from us. I just hate it.

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Anonymous wrote:I will say this... Just bc I am frustrated about an issue and aired my frustration on an anonymous internet form does not mean the issue affects me to the extent that I need therapy. I just enjoy reading the views of others, positive and negative, and some of them are really funny. But reading some of the profoundly bitter, angry, resentful, mean, and negative responses is actually eye opening. I thought I was just venting about the ex, being seeing some of the hatred and anger you ladies carry does actually give me a glimpse into how the ex must feel. Thank you for showing me your true, honest, angry, and bitter selves- it does give me some context for how the ex feels.

What a delusional statement. You think you're giving a burn to everyone else, and you are just making it clear how bitter YOU ARE by taking any opportunity to insult your husband's ex. Take some responsibility and a real look in the mirror and think about why so many people are reacting negatively to you.

Listen it's been fun, but I mean what I said and I think ya'll have swarmed into "attack" mode and riling you up (which is easy) now just seems mean. The Republicans just retook the House and the Sentae. We've got some real problems coming up. Thanks and have a great night.

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Anonymous wrote:I will say this... Just bc I am frustrated about an issue and aired my frustration on an anonymous internet form does not mean the issue affects me to the extent that I need therapy. I just enjoy reading the views of others, positive and negative, and some of them are really funny. But reading some of the profoundly bitter, angry, resentful, mean, and negative responses is actually eye opening. I thought I was just venting about the ex, being seeing some of the hatred and anger you ladies carry does actually give me a glimpse into how the ex must feel. Thank you for showing me your true, honest, angry, and bitter selves- it does give me some context for how the ex feels.

What a delusional statement. You think you're giving a burn to everyone else, and you are just making it clear how bitter YOU ARE by taking any opportunity to insult your husband's ex. Take some responsibility and a real look in the mirror and think about why so many people are reacting negatively to you.

Anonymous wrote:I will say this... Just bc I am frustrated about an issue and aired my frustration on an anonymous internet form does not mean the issue affects me to the extent that I need therapy. I just enjoy reading the views of others, positive and negative, and some of them are really funny. But reading some of the profoundly bitter, angry, resentful, mean, and negative responses is actually eye opening. I thought I was just venting about the ex, being seeing some of the hatred and anger you ladies carry does actually give me a glimpse into how the ex must feel. Thank you for showing me your true, honest, angry, and bitter selves- it does give me some context for how the ex feels.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow. I just read the past few pages and I feel utter contempt for OP.

And I actually agree with the previous posters that you, OP, need some mental help. I can't even imagine feeling resentful and angry and sanctimonious about my husband paying for half of his children's haircuts.

Shudder.

IKR... she is so mindlessly stubborn about refusing to acknowledge the ex's perspective. It's really unbelievable. Mental help would be a good thing for her.

Or maybe I should just send the ex a check every month.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow. I just read the past few pages and I feel utter contempt for OP.

And I actually agree with the previous posters that you, OP, need some mental help. I can't even imagine feeling resentful and angry and sanctimonious about my husband paying for half of his children's haircuts.

Shudder.

IKR... she is so mindlessly stubborn about refusing to acknowledge the ex's perspective. It's really unbelievable. Mental help would be a good thing for her.

Anonymous wrote:Wow. I just read the past few pages and I feel utter contempt for OP.

And I actually agree with the previous posters that you, OP, need some mental help. I can't even imagine feeling resentful and angry and sanctimonious about my husband paying for half of his children's haircuts.

Shudder.

Anonymous wrote:Wow. I just read the past few pages and I feel utter contempt for OP.

And I actually agree with the previous posters that you, OP, need some mental help. I can't even imagine feeling resentful and angry and sanctimonious about my husband paying for half of his children's haircuts.

Shudder.

Anonymous wrote:While I do feel your pain and find your gripes valid, I do agree with the poster who said you should've considered the weight of his baggage before marrying him .

It really is too draining.

Don't know what else to tell you toots!

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Anonymous wrote:Pp these are horrible sentiments to take such pleasure in the hypothetical pain of another. Get off this forum and go to therapy!

OP needs to go to therapy for her total lack of compassion to her husband's ex.

As the OP, I award you the "lamest comeback" award. And that was in 12 pages so that takes some talent. Well done!

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Anonymous wrote:Pp these are horrible sentiments to take such pleasure in the hypothetical pain of another. Get off this forum and go to therapy!

OP needs to go to therapy for her total lack of compassion to her husband's ex.