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liamw wrote:As a guy, I have a bad habit of telling the whole truth about my past, I rather air that crap out, than have it show up years down the road and catch my partner blind. And I normally tell it all early. Its sent some people running for the hills, its left other in awe that I was so honest about it.

I like you.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think the guy is a jerk for telling Ted. If I were Ted, I'd hope he'd clue me in too that the girl I was seeing was pulling trains at sporting events.

But keep your chin up. If you need a moral booster, I can arrange a hotel meeting where you can blow my friends and I. Bring that friend of yours too.

Typical douche hypocrite. Will trash a woman for doing the same thing to others he's willing to have done. Yup, you're marriage material

If a woman is fine with me doing it, so be it. That is her business. If she holds it against me....fine again.

liamw wrote:As a guy, I have a bad habit of telling the whole truth about my past, I rather air that crap out, than have it show up years down the road and catch my partner blind. And I normally tell it all early. Its sent some people running for the hills, its left other in awe that I was so honest about it.

Anonymous wrote:This is just too embarassing.

I'm in a great, healthy and fun relationship with a terrific man. "Ted" and I have been together for about a year and a half and we're both serious about our futures together.

So this is my situation. Earlier this week I joined Ted at one of his firm's functions. All pretty normal - he's invited me a bunch of times already. Well this time though I recognized another guy who was there. At some point we were all in a group and Ted introduced me to him. I'm not sure if he recognized me.

A bit before I met Ted, a girlfriend and I went to a sporting event (can't give details). We met there some guys who invited us to join them in a corporate private box. Well we all got pretty "inebriated" and I guess inhibitions went away. My girlfriend and I ended up giving o r a l to some of the guys there.

When I got up the next day I was mortified at what had happened. My girlfriend and I have sworn to never ever ever tell anyone, which obviously I haven't. But now one of those guys saw me at the function.

If he blabs or tells anyone about that time I would be mortified especially if Ted finds out. So I don't know whether I should do anything like maybe tell Ted "something" or not. I'm scared and I think could really use some advice. I don't know if I'm imagining it or something but I think Ted has been acting different somehow this week.

Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP, the relationship is likely over. I think it is less because of WHAT you did and more so because of WHO you did. Ted sounds like he's in a profession where impressions and networking is important. Having a girlfriend and bringing her to events and knowing people are whispering that she's the one at the nigh of the sports event doesn't look good for him.

Plus he's also probably upset that he gave you a very clear opening to be honest and you weren't. How would he ever trust you now?

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Anonymous wrote:I've been off the board for a few days because well things are just not so good. When Ted said he wanted to chat we did and he asked me if I knew the guy he introduced me to. I said no and tried to be casual about things and asked him why he asked. He basically said that the guy mentioned that he had met me before. He also said it was at a certain sports event and Ted knows I went to that event. ALso the other guy jerk mentioned that I was there with my girlfriend and Ted knows her.

Anyway, I didn't want to open a can of worms so i was unsure about things but Ted didn't buy it. He didn't tell me anything else so I don't know if the jerk went into details or not. Ted has just been distant these past few days and I don't know what to do or how to behave or what to say.

an early PP guy here - he knows or has a very strong feeling you (and your GF) were the girls in his friends' story/escapade. he gave you chance to come clean but you didn't step up. you're projecting your anger on his "jerk" friend - but that anger is misdirected, make no mistake about that.

I hate to say it but he's really thinking about your relationship - whether or not he can accept things. Your out-of-control night is now causing him to evaluate whether there is a darker (wilder) side to you he never saw or considered. From what you described, he's not the type of guy who would want to be a girl who partied hard (even if for one night but now there's real doubt in his mind).

You have a choice - to come clean (to a large degree) and let the chips fall where they may. Or try to continue hiding this and let his self doubt or his concern fester into something that will make a real relationship very unlikely.

it really sucks you have to face this OP, but the more you try to lie or hide the truth the worse it will be in the end. GL

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think the guy is a jerk for telling Ted. If I were Ted, I'd hope he'd clue me in too that the girl I was seeing was pulling trains at sporting events.

But keep your chin up. If you need a moral booster, I can arrange a hotel meeting where you can blow my friends and I. Bring that friend of yours too.

Typical douche hypocrite. Will trash a woman for doing the same thing to others he's willing to have done. Yup, you're marriage material

Anonymous wrote:I don't think the guy is a jerk for telling Ted. If I were Ted, I'd hope he'd clue me in too that the girl I was seeing was pulling trains at sporting events.

But keep your chin up. If you need a moral booster, I can arrange a hotel meeting where you can blow my friends and I. Bring that friend of yours too.

Anonymous wrote:I don't think the guy is a jerk for telling Ted. If I were Ted, I'd hope he'd clue me in too that the girl I was seeing was pulling trains at sporting events.

But keep your chin up. If you need a moral booster, I can arrange a hotel meeting where you can blow my friends and I. Bring that friend of yours too.