Anonymous
Post 04/05/2013 13:51     Subject: Can I highlight my baby's hair this summer?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So I just waltz into a therapist's office and say I've been thinking about how my daughter would look with blonde streaks in her hair and it has been brought to my attention that this is not normal?


How about you start with the fact that you starve yourself, that you are excessively concerned with appearances, and that you have major body image issues that you'd like to work on before your daughter starts getting warped by them?


In the past, therapy has been all about making me fat. I don't want my kid to grow up having a fat mom, either. There are no good options.


So there's something inherently wrong with growing up with a fat mom? I'll take a fat mom to one that has issues any day. Not to mention - I don't believe a therapist wants you to get fat.
Anonymous
Post 04/05/2013 13:47     Subject: Can I highlight my baby's hair this summer?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So I just waltz into a therapist's office and say I've been thinking about how my daughter would look with blonde streaks in her hair and it has been brought to my attention that this is not normal?


How about you start with the fact that you starve yourself, that you are excessively concerned with appearances, and that you have major body image issues that you'd like to work on before your daughter starts getting warped by them?


In the past, therapy has been all about making me fat. I don't want my kid to grow up having a fat mom, either. There are no good options.


You are really far gone then b/c this quote is complete and utter bullshit. No therapist is going to try and make you "fat." Your mind is what's telling you that, honey. Look up a BMI chart and then you'll see what is normal versus what is truly "fat."
Anonymous
Post 04/05/2013 13:43     Subject: Can I highlight my baby's hair this summer?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So I just waltz into a therapist's office and say I've been thinking about how my daughter would look with blonde streaks in her hair and it has been brought to my attention that this is not normal?


How about you start with the fact that you starve yourself, that you are excessively concerned with appearances, and that you have major body image issues that you'd like to work on before your daughter starts getting warped by them?


In the past, therapy has been all about making me fat. I don't want my kid to grow up having a fat mom, either. There are no good options.
Anonymous
Post 04/05/2013 13:32     Subject: Can I highlight my baby's hair this summer?
Anonymous wrote:So I just waltz into a therapist's office and say I've been thinking about how my daughter would look with blonde streaks in her hair and it has been brought to my attention that this is not normal?


How about you start with the fact that you starve yourself, that you are excessively concerned with appearances, and that you have major body image issues that you'd like to work on before your daughter starts getting warped by them?
Anonymous
Post 04/05/2013 13:26     Subject: Can I highlight my baby's hair this summer?
ChipotleLady wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP not sure ir you're still reading but PLEASE don't do that. I made caipirinhas last summer and forgot to wash my hands before going back to the pool and got horrible blisters where the lemon juice had ran down my hands and between my fingers. It was horrible. I can't imagine a baby with those blisters on her scalp.

You must slather your child in sunscreen (including ears and behind the neck) or make them wear a rash guard and sun hat if they're going to be out in the sun.

Children can die from severe sun exposure they dehydrate very easily. Please talk to your pediatrician.


Thank you for sharing your experience. That alone is enough to make me not try it. I absolutely do not want to do anything that could harm her.


I'm glad I could help.

It was so painful I don't even let my children drink lemonade out in the sun without washing their face with water afterwards scared they'll get burns in case they have drips of the lemon juice on their face.


Wait, don't you have some disease or something
Anonymous
Post 04/05/2013 13:26     Subject: Re:Can I highlight my baby's hair this summer?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I wish I knew the person who identified this OP as the 500 calorie a day OP so I could buy her a drink. Rock on!


Can someone link that thread? TIA!


This one? http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/292566.page


Definitely the same person.
Anonymous
Post 04/05/2013 13:25     Subject: Can I highlight my baby's hair this summer?
ChipotleLady wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP not sure ir you're still reading but PLEASE don't do that. I made caipirinhas last summer and forgot to wash my hands before going back to the pool and got horrible blisters where the lemon juice had ran down my hands and between my fingers. It was horrible. I can't imagine a baby with those blisters on her scalp.

You must slather your child in sunscreen (including ears and behind the neck) or make them wear a rash guard and sun hat if they're going to be out in the sun.

Children can die from severe sun exposure they dehydrate very easily. Please talk to your pediatrician.


Thank you for sharing your experience. That alone is enough to make me not try it. I absolutely do not want to do anything that could harm her.


I'm glad I could help.

It was so painful I don't even let my children drink lemonade out in the sun without washing their face with water afterwards scared they'll get burns in case they have drips of the lemon juice on their face.


HI, chipotle lady!
Anonymous
Post 04/05/2013 13:22     Subject: Can I highlight my baby's hair this summer?
Anonymous wrote:So I just waltz into a therapist's office and say I've been thinking about how my daughter would look with blonde streaks in her hair and it has been brought to my attention that this is not normal?


You need to make an appointment first, but yeah, that's it.

Anonymous
Post 04/05/2013 13:21     Subject: Can I highlight my baby's hair this summer?
Between this and the other thread that you started, there are a lot of different things that you can use to begin your therapy session. Start out with your eating disorder, and work from there.

There is nothing wrong with therapy, lots of us have done it. Each and every one of us has had to do some sort of work on ourselves at one point or another, but it's important to recognize when it's necessary and take appropriate action.
Anonymous
Post 04/05/2013 13:18     Subject: Can I highlight my baby's hair this summer?
I'd start with the 500 calories a day, personally.
Anonymous
Post 04/05/2013 13:14     Subject: Can I highlight my baby's hair this summer?
So I just waltz into a therapist's office and say I've been thinking about how my daughter would look with blonde streaks in her hair and it has been brought to my attention that this is not normal?
Anonymous
Post 04/05/2013 11:00     Subject: Can I highlight my baby's hair this summer?
Anonymous wrote:I don't see her as flawed at all. I just dont want her to feel about herself what I feel about myself, I guess, and I dont want her to feel the pain of being perceived as less than perfect by others. I want to shield her from all of that, and I want her to love herself because she really is wonderful.


OP - I still can't believe this is all serious, but if it is please reread what you wrote here and think about what you are projecting onto your child. Everything you're describing is your issue. You will recreate it in your child in some vain attempt to heal yourself. Please realize that you are not shielding her by doing this - you are perpetuating your pattern.

A good therapist could help you work through this very quickly. It would be the greatest gift you could give your children AND yourself.
Anonymous
Post 04/05/2013 10:42     Subject: Can I highlight my baby's hair this summer?
I think hair extensions (blonde, of course) would be a nice touch.
Anonymous
Post 04/05/2013 10:25     Subject: Can I highlight my baby's hair this summer?
If OP starves herself, that is exactly what she is going to teach her child. It's a never-ending cycle.
Anonymous
Post 04/05/2013 10:19     Subject: Can I highlight my baby's hair this summer?
Anonymous wrote:I don't see her as flawed at all. I just dont want her to feel about herself what I feel about myself, I guess, and I dont want her to feel the pain of being perceived as less than perfect by others. I want to shield her from all of that, and I want her to love herself because she really is wonderful.


But no one is perfect. In fact I try to tell my DD that. I am not a perfect mother and I make mistakes. I let my child know I am not perfect. I don't think trying to live up to perfection is healthy. It just sets you up to fail. I understand you don't want your child to get hurt in anyway. I think that is normal - but she will be hurt if she tries to be "perfect" and cannot (because no one can).