Anonymous
Post 11/20/2012 22:19     Subject: Re:pregnant at 47
thanks it's good to know we have a safe place here
Anonymous
Post 11/20/2012 21:24     Subject: Re:pregnant at 47
Anonymous wrote:I started an over 50 TTC thread but it got a lot of bad posts, like pp. Looking for support from those in late 40's s early 50's TTC


PP, try your thread again. And this time, when the nasty comes out, report to Jeff. Jeff tries very hard to keep the fertility board a safe and nice place. He absolutely will intervene with nasty posters whom he would tolerate elsewhere. He's done it for me on a number of occasions. Name calling and nastiness is for other forums, not this one. Good luck in your fertility journey!
Anonymous
Post 11/20/2012 21:00     Subject: Re:pregnant at 47
I started an over 50 TTC thread but it got a lot of bad posts, like pp. Looking for support from those in late 40's s early 50's TTC
Anonymous
Post 11/10/2012 12:43     Subject: pregnant at 47
PP, Don't worry about us "old ass" women with children. The same motivation that compelled us to have children at old age will also be the same motivation that compels us to muster up the energy to give time and attention to our kids.

A 25 year old may have more energy but that doesn't necessarily translate to being a better mother at 25.

It's a personal choice and one that does not require your judgment.
Anonymous
Post 11/10/2012 08:22     Subject: pregnant at 47
I am one of those poor kids too. But I will say even though I had a wonderful childhood too, I never wanted to be an older parent. I wanted to be a younger parent and tried very hard to be one. Now at almost 36, no living children.

There is nothing desirable though about being too old to enjoy your kids and grand kids. While you may not be " old" while they are young, odds are you won't be able to enjoy them as long as someone who had kids at 25. And it also sucks when all of your friends have 8 year olds at least and you don't even have a child yet.
Anonymous
Post 11/10/2012 06:43     Subject: pregnant at 47
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why did all you old ass women[i] wait so long to have babies. People will think you are the grandma and not the mom. Poor kids!


So - I would be one of those "Poor kids!" to which you were referring. My mother had me at 44 at a time when it wasn't very common for older women to have young children. Dad was almost 50 when I was born - and I have a younger brother. We had the absolute BEST childhood. At that point in their lives, they were financially comfortable and able to expose my brother and I to all kinds of unique travel and cultural experiences. If I could choose, I would opt for older parents each time.
Anonymous
Post 11/10/2012 00:25     Subject: pregnant at 47
Anonymous wrote:Why did all you old ass women[i] wait so long to have babies. People will think you are the grandma and not the mom. Poor kids!


PP, was this really necessary? I had my second at 45. I spent a lot of time improving my life and took my time in finding the right man rather than simply marrying somebody to avoid being single. I'm a much better mother to my two kids now than I could ever have been at age 38. I am a lawyer but I also studied holistic and alternative medicine and used that to get pregnant at my "old ass" age.

This post is one of the reasons "old ass" women with children may dislike providing beneficial advice to younger infertile women on this forum. They aren't sure if they can ever deliver genuinely helpful advice and avoid the scrutiny, judgment, and, dare I say it...jealousy.

I have lots of advice and suggestions on how to get pregnant. I've been to the best IVF clinic in the world. I've had the privilege of having the world's best IVF expert help me get pregnant and can share the advice he offered me. But I've grown tired of these kind of comments.
Anonymous
Post 11/10/2012 00:12     Subject: Re:pregnant at 47
OMG so true, I'm glad i waited to have kids even if it was more challenging, I think I'm a better mother bc of the challenges we endured.
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2012 20:47     Subject: pregnant at 47
Great post-PP! Agree.
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2012 20:42     Subject: pregnant at 47
Anonymous wrote:Why did all you old ass women wait so long to have babies. People will think you are the grandma and not the mom. Poor kids!


I was too busy working on me. I lived in Europe and sowed my oats, learned to speak one foreign language fluently and others well, went to graduate school and got a Ph.d and then wrote a book. Older mothers are accomplished people who raise similarly accomplished children. I could have been a Walmart cashier and had a kid at 23 but life has a lot more to offer than that.
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2012 19:35     Subject: Re:pregnant at 47
We started at 28 and after 8 failed IUI's and 2 NCIVF's we finally have a BFP.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2012 22:43     Subject: Re:pregnant at 47
Infertility can affect couples in their 20's and 30's, my DH and I started ttc at 27, and we were not successful until both 34.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2012 10:00     Subject: Re:pregnant at 47
Anonymous wrote:Agree with PP, but it really bugs me that a 47 yr old could be successful and I'm only 38 and have several cycles of BFN's


But there are 28 year olds out there who are struggling with fertility and would say the same thing seeing a 38 year old have success.

This is not a valued statement at all ... but 38 simply is not young when you are in the fertility game.
Anonymous
Post 11/05/2012 23:03     Subject: Re:pregnant at 47
Anonymous wrote:Agree with PP, but it really bugs me that a 47 yr old could be successful and I'm only 38 and have several cycles of BFN's


PP, don't feel bad. It's all about probability. Just keep on trying, it will happen for you, too.
Anonymous
Post 11/05/2012 22:58     Subject: Re:pregnant at 47
Agree with PP, but it really bugs me that a 47 yr old could be successful and I'm only 38 and have several cycles of BFN's