Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just wait until your firstborn launches…

As a boy mom, it’s really hard to watch your son build a new life far from home and imagine what the future will look like when grandchildren are born and you only see your beloved son and his family once or twice a year.

Sigh.

I imagine it might be different with a daughter.

I have 2 sons. Older one in college and been dating same girl for 3 years. They are planning on getting married (yes, I know that things change!). Her mom is checked out. She spends holidays with us. I think it is a gross generalization to assume all daughters live near home and their family has access while sons move away and their families never see them.
FWIW, we live 2.5 hour drive from DHs family and we spend all holidays with them. My family is across the country. See them every other year.

Bor one person said "all"

Of course it's not all.

It is definitely "most"

Based on what factual basis do you make this claim?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just wait until your firstborn launches…

As a boy mom, it’s really hard to watch your son build a new life far from home and imagine what the future will look like when grandchildren are born and you only see your beloved son and his family once or twice a year.

Sigh.

I imagine it might be different with a daughter.

I have 2 sons. Older one in college and been dating same girl for 3 years. They are planning on getting married (yes, I know that things change!). Her mom is checked out. She spends holidays with us. I think it is a gross generalization to assume all daughters live near home and their family has access while sons move away and their families never see them.
FWIW, we live 2.5 hour drive from DHs family and we spend all holidays with them. My family is across the country. See them every other year.

Wishful thinking on your part. It may be a gross generalization, but it is also more the rule than the exception. Especially when the grandkids arrive. You will never replace your son’s girlfriend’s mother in that regard.

I actually think this is changing more. I would agree that in general with my parents generation (late 40’s into 50’s birth year), that this is true more often that not. Though amongst my peers, I see it being a lot more equal with grandkid access for both parents of sons and daughters. I have a lot of peers whose husbands parents are as involved grandparents if not more than the wives.

It is not changing to favor the husband's family and especially not his mother.
.what is changing is that girls are now rejecting their own families too, with the same passion as they used to reserve exclusively for the mother in law.

Because they discover that they are the long term healthcare plan.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just wait until your firstborn launches…

As a boy mom, it’s really hard to watch your son build a new life far from home and imagine what the future will look like when grandchildren are born and you only see your beloved son and his family once or twice a year.

Sigh.

I imagine it might be different with a daughter.

I have 2 sons. Older one in college and been dating same girl for 3 years. They are planning on getting married (yes, I know that things change!). Her mom is checked out. She spends holidays with us. I think it is a gross generalization to assume all daughters live near home and their family has access while sons move away and their families never see them.
FWIW, we live 2.5 hour drive from DHs family and we spend all holidays with them. My family is across the country. See them every other year.

Wishful thinking on your part. It may be a gross generalization, but it is also more the rule than the exception. Especially when the grandkids arrive. You will never replace your son’s girlfriend’s mother in that regard.

I actually think this is changing more. I would agree that in general with my parents generation (late 40’s into 50’s birth year), that this is true more often that not. Though amongst my peers, I see it being a lot more equal with grandkid access for both parents of sons and daughters. I have a lot of peers whose husbands parents are as involved grandparents if not more than the wives.

It is not changing to favor the husband's family and especially not his mother.
.what is changing is that girls are now rejecting their own families too, with the same passion as they used to reserve exclusively for the mother in law.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just wait until your firstborn launches…

As a boy mom, it’s really hard to watch your son build a new life far from home and imagine what the future will look like when grandchildren are born and you only see your beloved son and his family once or twice a year.

Sigh.

I imagine it might be different with a daughter.

I have 2 sons. Older one in college and been dating same girl for 3 years. They are planning on getting married (yes, I know that things change!). Her mom is checked out. She spends holidays with us. I think it is a gross generalization to assume all daughters live near home and their family has access while sons move away and their families never see them.
FWIW, we live 2.5 hour drive from DHs family and we spend all holidays with them. My family is across the country. See them every other year.

Bor one person said "all"

Of course it's not all.

It is definitely "most"

Based on this thread, some of you should not have children, or be anywhere near children. Say, are any of you named Linda from accounting?

Anonymous wrote:I have one of each. I love my son and daughter! I can’t imagine life without either.

well, of course. You love the kids you have.

I think it's hard to imagine what life would be like with only sons or only daughters if you have both.

FWIW, I have both. I had a boy first, and I would've been happy either with another boy or a girl. There are pros/cons to having same gender siblings.

I will say that I am happy to have at least one girl, even though she has been more difficult than my son. I'm not a girlie girl, but I do like some girly things, and it's fun to do some stuff with her. Also, I do find that girls tend to be closer to their parents than boys. That's true in both DH's and my family - the daughters are the ones who stay or move closer to the parent.

I feel so sorry for all the poor boy-moms out there. It must be terrible being stuck with those futureless little monsters.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just wait until your firstborn launches…

As a boy mom, it’s really hard to watch your son build a new life far from home and imagine what the future will look like when grandchildren are born and you only see your beloved son and his family once or twice a year.

Sigh.

I imagine it might be different with a daughter.

I have 2 sons. Older one in college and been dating same girl for 3 years. They are planning on getting married (yes, I know that things change!). Her mom is checked out. She spends holidays with us. I think it is a gross generalization to assume all daughters live near home and their family has access while sons move away and their families never see them.
FWIW, we live 2.5 hour drive from DHs family and we spend all holidays with them. My family is across the country. See them every other year.

Wishful thinking on your part. It may be a gross generalization, but it is also more the rule than the exception. Especially when the grandkids arrive. You will never replace your son’s girlfriend’s mother in that regard.

I actually think this is changing more. I would agree that in general with my parents generation (late 40’s into 50’s birth year), that this is true more often that not. Though amongst my peers, I see it being a lot more equal with grandkid access for both parents of sons and daughters. I have a lot of peers whose husbands parents are as involved grandparents if not more than the wives.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just wait until your firstborn launches…

As a boy mom, it’s really hard to watch your son build a new life far from home and imagine what the future will look like when grandchildren are born and you only see your beloved son and his family once or twice a year.

Sigh.

I imagine it might be different with a daughter.

I have 2 sons. Older one in college and been dating same girl for 3 years. They are planning on getting married (yes, I know that things change!). Her mom is checked out. She spends holidays with us. I think it is a gross generalization to assume all daughters live near home and their family has access while sons move away and their families never see them.
FWIW, we live 2.5 hour drive from DHs family and we spend all holidays with them. My family is across the country. See them every other year.

Wishful thinking on your part. It may be a gross generalization, but it is also more the rule than the exception. Especially when the grandkids arrive. You will never replace your son’s girlfriend’s mother in that regard.

Anonymous wrote:Watch the Netflix series “ Adolescence.”

It exposes what boys are really like today, and also why no one wants to have one.

You again? Has no one explained the concept of fiction to you yet?

I have one of each. I love my son and daughter! I can’t imagine life without either.

Anonymous wrote:I started having kids 20 years ago (I have four, boys and girls) and this has been a frequent topic of articles and conversations since well before then. The most common theme is, "boys are much more likely to be diagnosed with x,y,z"

I think it is extremely weird to have strong feelings about your child's sex. If you are open to having children, you are taking a HUGE leap of faith and committing to accepting whatever comes. Male-female is the least of it.

As far as stereotypes go, I want to add that my most hyperactive, handful, athletic, active child is a girl and my calmest, most grounded, peace-maker child is a boy. You get what you get.

I only have two, but same here. I’m just glad I have two healthy kids and I love being mom to both of them!

Didn't read the article but daughters are the ones who do the heavy lifting when parents age. My brother is great but he has no idea what I do for our mother and what my husband and I did for my father when he was dying. Maybe is geography because he's 2 hours away but he doesn't get the finances, healthcare management, household management, finding a caregiver, keeping her active, and the list goes on. I also have a teenager so I'm truly sandwiched between my daughter and my mother.

Anonymous wrote:Just wait until your firstborn launches…

As a boy mom, it’s really hard to watch your son build a new life far from home and imagine what the future will look like when grandchildren are born and you only see your beloved son and his family once or twice a year.

Sigh.

I imagine it might be different with a daughter.

I have 2 sons. Older one in college and been dating same girl for 3 years. They are planning on getting married (yes, I know that things change!). Her mom is checked out. She spends holidays with us. I think it is a gross generalization to assume all daughters live near home and their family has access while sons move away and their families never see them.
FWIW, we live 2.5 hour drive from DHs family and we spend all holidays with them. My family is across the country. See them every other year.

I prefered boys. I worried to much about SA and didn’t want my child to experience that.