Anonymous wrote:My grandmother was in her 40s when she had my father and died in her 90s....I think the natural ability to have children at that age generally means you don't age as quickly.

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Anonymous wrote:Kids want young parents.

Not mine. They love having a stay at home mom who isn’t chasing career heights but instead can spend time with them. They also like the financial security we provide, and our ability to pay for excellent education and their expensive hobbies. None of that would’ve been possible in my 20s & 30s.

They would prefer all that with younger parents. My mother is 35 years older than me (I am the youngest of 3) and I still felt she was too old of a grandmother and couldn’t help me with my kids the way I see other younger grandparents doing. I get sad thinking she wouldn’t be here much longer and see my kids graduate from high school. She is now in her 80s and can barely do much.

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Anonymous wrote:Kids want young parents.

Not mine. They love having a stay at home mom who isn’t chasing career heights but instead can spend time with them. They also like the financial security we provide, and our ability to pay for excellent education and their expensive hobbies. None of that would’ve been possible in my 20s & 30s.

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Anonymous wrote:Congratulations to her. 44 is way too old to be having a baby. I say that as a 45-year-old.

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Should she terminate then?

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Should she terminate then?

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Anonymous wrote:It won't feel good to be the oldest mom at high school graduation... in her 60s.

Natalie Portman at 60 is gojng to look younger than me at 50. I could kid myself and say that isn’t true, but I know it’s not.
My family has longstanding history of having babies well into 40s without trying, so this isn’t that big a deal to me. I got my tubes tied at 40 because I didn’t want to risk it. My mom, sister and niece all had babies in their 40s, as did my great grandmothers. (My grandmothers didn’t because both had reproductive medical injury in their 30s that prevented further pregnancy.)

It's not about looks, at all. It's hard to relate to moms who are 20 years younger than you no matter how you look. You're a totally different generation.

Who cares? She's a movie star. They won't relate to her anyway.

By your 40s, you kind of get over that need to be in lockstep with your kids' peers' moms. Honestly I don't relate to most of them anyway, and we had kids at similar ages. People's lives are different and it separates you. Most of my good friends are from before I had kids and I'm sure that's doubly true if you are recognizably famous and have a kid in your 40s (which is common for famous people). She already has her people and is not going to go haunting mommy and me classes looking for a lifelong friend.

No matter how you spin it, her kid's friends moms will be significantly younger. Her kid will have friends even if she's a "movie star" and she will still have to navigate that world. You can cheer this on all you want, but I feel sorry for a kid with a geriatric mom.

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Anonymous wrote:Women who actually CARE about other women's reproductive health and their choices need to care about the narrative of celebrity geriatric pregnancies.

You may think only "mouth breathers" think a woman can easily get pregnant at 44, but many women do, especially impressionable young women who were raised in the "you can have it all" generation that witnessed many, many celebrities having children in their 40s without sharing all the details of how they got that pregnancy.

No one needs to share how their babies were conceived

I agree that privacy should be honored, but also, there is a degree of harm when celebrities share the pregnancy but not the years of fertility treatments, purchased eggs, and other medical intervention needed to get pregnant. Statistically speaking, the vast majority of women who wait to have children until their 40s will be unable to do so without a tremendous amount of expensive and invasive medical intervention. We are creating a generation of women who think they are going to win the lottery.

Most women who have kids in their 40s are not having their FIRST kid in their 40s. They aren't "waiting" until they're 40s to have children. They have a track record of good fertility, which makes it more likely that they can get pregnant in their 40s naturally without intervention.