Anonymous wrote:Is this how much divorce mentally affect women? I don't think men are as devastated when their marriage ends.

She didn't have to write a book. She just needed a you her stallion with a good D and forget about the loser

Or maybe because she is wealthy she thought it can't happen to her?

Every woman should never utter "I don't think he would ever do this to me" when their husband cheats on them. Men cheat and they will never stop. It doesn't matter if you are waitress, a CEO, a billionaire, a Prime minister, a spy. If a man is going to cheat on you, he will do so.

Anonymous wrote:My boss is having an affair with a much younger woman. She doesn't work for our company. But the man is having the time of his life (his words not mine) with his young flame. He said that she knows that he is married and she asked for the first time last weekend to leave his wife for her. He said he is going to end it because she went there.

People are wild. In the meantime his poor wife is at home probably making his sandwiches every day, taking care of him when his sick and take care of their kids as well.

Now the craziest thing in all of this is that there is 99% chance that if he get caught she will just tell him they should go to therapy and will face zero consequences.

I feel bad for some of you married people.

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Anonymous wrote:Is this how much divorce mentally affect women? I don't think men are as devastated when their marriage ends.

She didn't have to write a book. She just needed a you her stallion with a good D and forget about the loser

Or maybe because she is wealthy she thought it can't happen to her?

Every woman should never utter "I don't think he would ever do this to me" when their husband cheats on them. Men cheat and they will never stop. It doesn't matter if you are waitress, a CEO, a billionaire, a Prime minister, a spy. If a man is going to cheat on you, he will do so.

You’re dead wrong and a quick search will prove it:

“Higher Male Regret: Studies by Avvo and others show men reporting regret (around 32-39%) more than women (around 27%) after divorce.”

Anonymous wrote:Is this how much divorce mentally affect women? I don't think men are as devastated when their marriage ends.

She didn't have to write a book. She just needed a you her stallion with a good D and forget about the loser

Or maybe because she is wealthy she thought it can't happen to her?

Every woman should never utter "I don't think he would ever do this to me" when their husband cheats on them. Men cheat and they will never stop. It doesn't matter if you are waitress, a CEO, a billionaire, a Prime minister, a spy. If a man is going to cheat on you, he will do so.

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Anonymous wrote:Why did she even marry him? I have a friend an immigrant from Eastern Europe. She married a trust funder and they have the opposite arrangement: her earnings are only hers and he pays rent/mortgage. She only marginally contributes to living expenses.
She’s a lawyer and already amassed a fortune, saving every year almost $200k and dumping it in stocks

Good arrangement, seems fair. Since Belle was the trustfund baby in this situation, that explains the pre-nup. Not going to cry for a woman who didn't work for years and has millions in real estate.

She had no idea when she signed the prenup that he would go on to make that much money. Always risks in that respect.

It’s unclear to me how big her trusts and inheritance actually are though …

At least $10m if she was able to buy him out of both houses.

What’s maddening is not him retaining his earnings it’s him pocketing the appreciation on houses and emptying her trusts (which are HIS kids trusts in the end). Where her lawyers were looking ? It’s a predatory prenup and they should have advised better to state that appreciation on whatever is funded with trust remains in trust

Who knows how it was reviewed? Belle has a BA from Harvard and a law degree from NYU, but she says she was "in love" and nothing else mattered at that point. Plus, if you've never had to worry about money in your life, it probably didn't register to her that one day she may need to worry when her husband fleeces her for all her assets.

They were engaged in 3 months and married soon after. Definitely a rush job

The way he seduced her when she was living with her boyfriend. He is all red flags.

I ak guessing she figured she would be the wealthier one and figured he could keep what he earned since he grew up poorer. I dont think the prenup specified that she pay half of expenses, I think he just enforced it as “fair” and she went along with it thinking why would it matter, they were in it together.

When they met, she was making more than him in terms of paycheck as a more senior law firm associate (plus she had family money).

I don’t feel bad for her. I’ve known so many women in these circles and they are incredibly focused on their lifestyle and social life. Very little attention is paid to their husband and they don’t live what most people would consider a normal life.

From knowing some of the husbands, it’s also obvious they aren’t that happy. It’s as if they are just pawns in life and their wives run around frantically from one social event to another. It’s all about the next luxury vacation, dressing kids in expensive British looking clothing, attending parties that are photographed and private school admissions. From the outside it looks fabulous but I can tell some of the husbands would prefer a nice girlfriend who gives them attention and wants to have sex instead of take photos on a boat off Nantucket.

I do sympathize with her since this is the only world she knows and she likely has no idea why he left her. It’s very obvious to me!

I don’t judge him for marrying money. Any man who is ambitious enough to work in finance in NY and command those earnings is going to want the finer things in life and try to capitalize on marriage. This goes with the territory. You can’t have it both ways.

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Anonymous wrote:The husband’s family is a piece of work. His brother wrote his own Modern Love column a few years ago about how his wife begged him to find a girlfriend when she started developing early-onset Alzheimer’s and described the Thanksgiving meal with his wife and lady love at the same table.

No, seriously? They’re brothers?! That piece was so messed up.

Anonymous wrote:The husband’s family is a piece of work. His brother wrote his own Modern Love column a few years ago about how his wife begged him to find a girlfriend when she started developing early-onset Alzheimer’s and described the Thanksgiving meal with his wife and lady love at the same table.

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Anonymous wrote:I have to hand it to her ex. He ran an impressive operation all these years. Got a wealthy wife to fund his lifestyle, used her family connections to build his career, spent his spare time banging young women, kept all his cash and then skedaddled the minute he got busted.

After he left her, he moved into a 2 BR condo. Yes, NYC real estate is expensive, but I wouldn't be surprised if he spend his hedge fund earnings on "other things." She says he had "brushes with the law" as a teen.

Isn't that one of the hallmarks of sociopaths? I'm in the middle of a similar kind of divorce from a similar kind of person. Less money at stake but now I think he used me as a stepping stone. I'm convinced my ex would have maintained the charade had I not confronted him. This personality type can't bear to be unmasked so they run away. The way Belle writes about Henry I maintain he probably didn't have plans to leave her but once he was found out he had to hit reboot on a new life. It was helpful to me when she wrote that his vengeance ultimately didn't seem personal. I mean it's a small consolation when you're on the receiving end of said vengeance but in her case and mine, these men have to burn it all down rather than actually address the issues.

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Anonymous wrote:I have to hand it to her ex. He ran an impressive operation all these years. Got a wealthy wife to fund his lifestyle, used her family connections to build his career, spent his spare time banging young women, kept all his cash and then skedaddled the minute he got busted.

After he left her, he moved into a 2 BR condo. Yes, NYC real estate is expensive, but I wouldn't be surprised if he spend his hedge fund earnings on "other things." She says he had "brushes with the law" as a teen.

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Anonymous wrote:Covid seems to have triggered a lot of abrupt marriage breakdowns. The British cookbook author Bee Wilson also wrote about how her husband abruptly walked out one day during the beginning of the pandemic, after bringing her her usual tea in bed and sending her his daily I love you text with 5 heart emojis. She says that he later left her a letter admitting there was another woman, and then she learned that he had used one of her recipes to make dinner to impress the OW.

This is so so classic. My husband used much of our past and things I had introduced him to, with his AP. It's eerie how often a man will take his girlfriend to the special romantic spot he always went with his wife.