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Anonymous wrote:Yes there are because while a man who is say 35 can have up to 3 quality women to choose from, the same cannot be said for women. And I say this as guy who recently got married. I am 38 and I have more friends that are single than married. For most of them their current girlfriends or the ones they have dated in the past have or have had better career than them.

Men drop out of the dating market if they are not happy in their career. Unfortunately we see a very disturbing trend among men between 30 and 45. They are chronically underemployed, have substance abuse issues, and in poor physical and mental shape
And they have significantly less friends than men their peers in the past. Career satisfaction is really important for a man's ego. If he feels that he has been a failure career wise, he is very unlikely to enter the dating market. So women are waiting for men that don't exist today and that will probably not exist tomorrow either.

I think a lot of women will sadly end up single forever. Not because they are picky or not trying hard enough, but because there are simply not enough qiality men to choose from.

Now I am sure you have taken stats 101, so.if you are the exception I am not talking about you. You are an outlier.

It's funny that as I'm reading this, I'm wishing I was one of those ladies who never got married. Marriage sucks badly for women. Like really badly. I was so much better off emotionally, financially, in every way before I let DH put a ring on it and suck the joy from me. The marriage rate is going to get a lot lower because there's just very little in it for a woman who has her shit together.

Ill probably surprised some of you with my comments but you are right. We have a daughter who is in college. While I think myself as a great husband, I am aware of my shortcomings. And if my daughter's choice is to marry a man like me she is better of staying single. I say this because after many years I now realize how much DW has been the one keeping the marriage alive. There are fantastic husbands our there who put in equal efforts, but I don't know if they are the majority though.

So, you're aware that you're a shitty husband dragging down the team, but you have no intention of doing anything beyond continuing as you have. How do men like you feel no shame? It's a serious question because my ex was a shamelessly selfish idiot too and I always thought to myself that if I were him, my conscience wouldn't let me be such a user. But he felt perfectly good about himself.

Calm down lady. You have a lot anger in you. He was self reflecting and is probably doing the work and realizing he still needs to keep improving. Can you imagine if every husband self reflected? Wow.

Good for PP for self-reflection. Women like above are actually not appreciating enough when men do the progress and they stay angry and bitter forever.

Where in his post did you see anything in his post that suggests he's making "progress"? Or are your standards so low that you think a man who admits he's a poor choice deserves applause for not lying?

accepting your mistakes is a very good start and work half done. There is no change if you wouldn't take accountability.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes there are because while a man who is say 35 can have up to 3 quality women to choose from, the same cannot be said for women. And I say this as guy who recently got married. I am 38 and I have more friends that are single than married. For most of them their current girlfriends or the ones they have dated in the past have or have had better career than them.

Men drop out of the dating market if they are not happy in their career. Unfortunately we see a very disturbing trend among men between 30 and 45. They are chronically underemployed, have substance abuse issues, and in poor physical and mental shape
And they have significantly less friends than men their peers in the past. Career satisfaction is really important for a man's ego. If he feels that he has been a failure career wise, he is very unlikely to enter the dating market. So women are waiting for men that don't exist today and that will probably not exist tomorrow either.

I think a lot of women will sadly end up single forever. Not because they are picky or not trying hard enough, but because there are simply not enough qiality men to choose from.

Now I am sure you have taken stats 101, so.if you are the exception I am not talking about you. You are an outlier.

It's funny that as I'm reading this, I'm wishing I was one of those ladies who never got married. Marriage sucks badly for women. Like really badly. I was so much better off emotionally, financially, in every way before I let DH put a ring on it and suck the joy from me. The marriage rate is going to get a lot lower because there's just very little in it for a woman who has her shit together.

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Anonymous wrote:Never should have banned polygamy.

Speaking of someone from polygamous country, I always giggle when men say this. In polygamy, the topmost fifth or sixth of men have multiple wives.

The bottom half (literally half) of men have no wives.

The men in the middle who are not quite top-tier each have one wife.

Every now and then, that one wife married to a middling man sees a chance to be a wealthy man's second or third wife and leaves with her children to do just that. It's also not unusual for a man to end up raising a child quietly fathered by a wealthy man. He deals with it because if he doesn't, his wife will leave with the kids and just go ahead and be that wealthier boyfriend newest wife. He won't be able to find a new wife easily because there are major financial startup costs in polygamous societies to taking a new wife. Women don't just come cheap for some stupid ring the way they do over here. If he shuts up, however, then the wealthy man will kick him some cash for the use of his wife.

Honestly, I married an American and it was an error. If this was my birth country, I would've left my husband to be a very wealthy man's third wife in a heartbeat. I wouldn't even have to have sex with my new husband all that often because the other wives would share that rotation. If he nagged me too often, I'd just find him another wife to distract him and keep enjoying his money.

Polygamy is actually a very good deal for women from a financial and hypergamy standpoint, contrary to what western countries claim. It's only when to bring in things like "love," morality and how Jesus wants monogamy that the case is made that women "suffer."

I say this all the time, and people think I am crazy.

With polygamy, the women who are single here would have been married. The bottom men would still be single either way while more women would be married.

And working women will not be at a financial disadvantage in polygamy, because women get to keep their assets and their income earned in the marriage while men get to share theirs with all the wives.

I could use a co-wife who loves cooking

Now the girlbosses are romanticizing polygamy. You can't make this up.

Ah yes, let’s all pretend we want to live in Senegal with our sharia law sister wives and various kids everywhere. That’s the ticket. Our IMF shared hubby can jet around fertilizing more kids and working on papers….

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Anonymous wrote:Never should have banned polygamy.

Speaking of someone from polygamous country, I always giggle when men say this. In polygamy, the topmost fifth or sixth of men have multiple wives.

The bottom half (literally half) of men have no wives.

The men in the middle who are not quite top-tier each have one wife.

Every now and then, that one wife married to a middling man sees a chance to be a wealthy man's second or third wife and leaves with her children to do just that. It's also not unusual for a man to end up raising a child quietly fathered by a wealthy man. He deals with it because if he doesn't, his wife will leave with the kids and just go ahead and be that wealthier boyfriend newest wife. He won't be able to find a new wife easily because there are major financial startup costs in polygamous societies to taking a new wife. Women don't just come cheap for some stupid ring the way they do over here. If he shuts up, however, then the wealthy man will kick him some cash for the use of his wife.

Honestly, I married an American and it was an error. If this was my birth country, I would've left my husband to be a very wealthy man's third wife in a heartbeat. I wouldn't even have to have sex with my new husband all that often because the other wives would share that rotation. If he nagged me too often, I'd just find him another wife to distract him and keep enjoying his money.

Polygamy is actually a very good deal for women from a financial and hypergamy standpoint, contrary to what western countries claim. It's only when to bring in things like "love," morality and how Jesus wants monogamy that the case is made that women "suffer."

I say this all the time, and people think I am crazy.

With polygamy, the women who are single here would have been married. The bottom men would still be single either way while more women would be married.

And working women will not be at a financial disadvantage in polygamy, because women get to keep their assets and their income earned in the marriage while men get to share theirs with all the wives.

I could use a co-wife who loves cooking

Now the girlbosses are romanticizing polygamy. You can't make this up.

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Anonymous wrote:Never should have banned polygamy.

Speaking of someone from polygamous country, I always giggle when men say this. In polygamy, the topmost fifth or sixth of men have multiple wives.

The bottom half (literally half) of men have no wives.

The men in the middle who are not quite top-tier each have one wife.

Every now and then, that one wife married to a middling man sees a chance to be a wealthy man's second or third wife and leaves with her children to do just that. It's also not unusual for a man to end up raising a child quietly fathered by a wealthy man. He deals with it because if he doesn't, his wife will leave with the kids and just go ahead and be that wealthier boyfriend newest wife. He won't be able to find a new wife easily because there are major financial startup costs in polygamous societies to taking a new wife. Women don't just come cheap for some stupid ring the way they do over here. If he shuts up, however, then the wealthy man will kick him some cash for the use of his wife.

Honestly, I married an American and it was an error. If this was my birth country, I would've left my husband to be a very wealthy man's third wife in a heartbeat. I wouldn't even have to have sex with my new husband all that often because the other wives would share that rotation. If he nagged me too often, I'd just find him another wife to distract him and keep enjoying his money.

Polygamy is actually a very good deal for women from a financial and hypergamy standpoint, contrary to what western countries claim. It's only when to bring in things like "love," morality and how Jesus wants monogamy that the case is made that women "suffer."

I say this all the time, and people think I am crazy.

With polygamy, the women who are single here would have been married. The bottom men would still be single either way while more women would be married.

And working women will not be at a financial disadvantage in polygamy, because women get to keep their assets and their income earned in the marriage while men get to share theirs with all the wives.

I could use a co-wife who loves cooking

Now the girlbosses are romanticizing polygamy. You can't make this up.

I wrote that, and I am not a girl boss. I was partially kidding -- I couldn't do polygamy unless the second wife had a very low sex drive and did not want children. I come from a country with polygamy, and the step/half sibling/children thing sucks. And with my sex drive, I don't see how I will be getting enough if I had to share unless the man was a dog.

you are sick and selfish. and unfunny.

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Anonymous wrote:Never should have banned polygamy.

Speaking of someone from polygamous country, I always giggle when men say this. In polygamy, the topmost fifth or sixth of men have multiple wives.

The bottom half (literally half) of men have no wives.

The men in the middle who are not quite top-tier each have one wife.

Every now and then, that one wife married to a middling man sees a chance to be a wealthy man's second or third wife and leaves with her children to do just that. It's also not unusual for a man to end up raising a child quietly fathered by a wealthy man. He deals with it because if he doesn't, his wife will leave with the kids and just go ahead and be that wealthier boyfriend newest wife. He won't be able to find a new wife easily because there are major financial startup costs in polygamous societies to taking a new wife. Women don't just come cheap for some stupid ring the way they do over here. If he shuts up, however, then the wealthy man will kick him some cash for the use of his wife.

Honestly, I married an American and it was an error. If this was my birth country, I would've left my husband to be a very wealthy man's third wife in a heartbeat. I wouldn't even have to have sex with my new husband all that often because the other wives would share that rotation. If he nagged me too often, I'd just find him another wife to distract him and keep enjoying his money.

Polygamy is actually a very good deal for women from a financial and hypergamy standpoint, contrary to what western countries claim. It's only when to bring in things like "love," morality and how Jesus wants monogamy that the case is made that women "suffer."

I say this all the time, and people think I am crazy.

With polygamy, the women who are single here would have been married. The bottom men would still be single either way while more women would be married.

And working women will not be at a financial disadvantage in polygamy, because women get to keep their assets and their income earned in the marriage while men get to share theirs with all the wives.

I could use a co-wife who loves cooking

Now the girlbosses are romanticizing polygamy. You can't make this up.

I wrote that, and I am not a girl boss. I was partially kidding -- I couldn't do polygamy unless the second wife had a very low sex drive and did not want children. I come from a country with polygamy, and the step/half sibling/children thing sucks. And with my sex drive, I don't see how I will be getting enough if I had to share unless the man was a dog.