Anonymous
09/03/2025 14:27
Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Anonymous wrote:Your height and weight are fine. Your problem is that single men in your age range either a) already have kids, b) do not want kids, or c) want kids and are looking to date younger. They see that you’re 38 and want kids and they are deducing that you will want/need to get married and pregnant quickly and that’s a lot of pressure considering they haven’t even met you yet.
I agree with this. There might be men in their late 30s or early 40s who are in the same situation, but they aren't going to be the norm.
Anonymous
09/03/2025 14:26
Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:38 is pretty old in the eyes of most men in the age group she is looking at. She needs to up the age to mid 50s.
Ew. I wish the gross old men would stop trying to troll op.
Right? OP is a million times better off being single than with an old man. Old men = baggage, liabilities, and a reminder that death is imminent. Avoid them.
But beggars can't be choosers, so...
Who's begging? If the options are alone or be with a nasty old saggy ball uneducated misogynistic short loser, maybe it's still better to be alone.
If you're a 38 year old woman and you don't have kids yet and you want to, then yes you are a beggar.
The best men are taken, and many of the available ones will choose someone younger than you.
So yeah you can be alone. Or you can make some compromises. How badly do you want kids?
Why would you want to compromise on the FATHER OF YOUR CHILDREN? [Because you're out of time and out of optimum choices]
You are so delusional. You'd be better off compromising on your dating partner or husband. But the father of your children? Why are we compromising on the DNA that literally creates another human? [You are delusional. You think a 38yo woman can be uncompromising AND still have children. She can't. She will have to compromise in some way.]
No, do not date some old fugly man just so you can have kids.
No, do not date some alcoholic who can't keep a job man just so you can have kids.
No, do not date someone lacking brain cells just so you can have kids.
No, do not date someone abusive or mean just so you can have kids. [Who said anything about marrying someone fugly/alcoholic/stupid/abusive? Only you. Because you are trying to frame the debate in a dishonest way. She's not going to get the best possible guy she could have gotten in an ideal world when she was 25. But that doesn't mean her choice is down to "fugly/alcoholic/stupid/abusive or nothing".]
I really think you do not know the reality of today when you are encouraging women to settle for subpar men just to have kids. I mean, it's actually so obvious that you're telling women to settle for men like you, but clearly no one wants that.
[The reality of today for a woman of 38 who wants to have kids is that she won't get the same guy she could have gotten 10-15 years ago. That is a fact. I'm sorry you hate it, but it is still a fact. And hey if you want to personalize it, it's actually so obvious that you are trying to convince other women not to settle because you want to sabotage them so that there are more men available for you.]
Lol! You are so delusional. I'm happily married. I encourage women not to settle for losers so they don't end up like many dcum posters on here - whinging about how their man doesn't lift a finger, yells at them, cheats on them, loses his job, doesn't take care of his own children, etc etc. Being pickier to start instead of settling will avoid a lot of these. Encouraging women to settle for one of these losers just so you think you and your ilk might have a chance doesn't actually better OPs situation. You aren't giving advice in good faith.
OP would be better off using a sperm donor, getting to pick exact height, IQ, education status, etc and then find a man for companionship if she so chooses.
Anonymous
09/03/2025 14:22
Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:118 pounds at 5'0 is a normal BMI for a woman.
It’s not thin though. For reference I am 5’8” and 124. BMI 18. That is slim. She is a full 8 inches shorter and only 6 pounds lighter. She may still be plenty attractive but slim she is not.
You are clinically underweight. Please don’t bring this ana shit into DCUM.
+1.
The pretty ones always get attacked.
Thin doesn't equal pretty. That's just rank stupidity.
Exactly. No man will turn a woman who is 118 lbs down and the anorexic moron just needs to shut it.
I think it's a man cosplaying as a woman. They forget (aka don't know) how much boobs weigh. They are idolizing childrens' bodies, not womens.
Anonymous
09/03/2025 14:22
Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Your height and weight are fine. Your problem is that single men in your age range either a) already have kids, b) do not want kids, or c) want kids and are looking to date younger. They see that you’re 38 and want kids and they are deducing that you will want/need to get married and pregnant quickly and that’s a lot of pressure considering they haven’t even met you yet.
Anonymous
09/03/2025 14:20
Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:118 pounds at 5'0 is a normal BMI for a woman.
It’s not thin though. For reference I am 5’8” and 124. BMI 18. That is slim. She is a full 8 inches shorter and only 6 pounds lighter. She may still be plenty attractive but slim she is not.
You are clinically underweight. Please don’t bring this ana shit into DCUM.
+1.
The pretty ones always get attacked.
Thin doesn't equal pretty. That's just rank stupidity.
Exactly. No man will turn a woman who is 118 lbs down and the anorexic moron just needs to shut it.
Anonymous
09/03/2025 14:13
Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:118 pounds at 5'0 is a normal BMI for a woman.
It’s not thin though. For reference I am 5’8” and 124. BMI 18. That is slim. She is a full 8 inches shorter and only 6 pounds lighter. She may still be plenty attractive but slim she is not.
You are clinically underweight. Please don’t bring this ana shit into DCUM.
+1.
The pretty ones always get attacked.
Thin doesn't equal pretty. That's just rank stupidity.
Anonymous
09/03/2025 14:10
Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:38 is pretty old in the eyes of most men in the age group she is looking at. She needs to up the age to mid 50s.
Ew. I wish the gross old men would stop trying to troll op.
Right? OP is a million times better off being single than with an old man. Old men = baggage, liabilities, and a reminder that death is imminent. Avoid them.
But beggars can't be choosers, so...
Who's begging? If the options are alone or be with a nasty old saggy ball uneducated misogynistic short loser, maybe it's still better to be alone.
If you're a 38 year old woman and you don't have kids yet and you want to, then yes you are a beggar.
The best men are taken, and many of the available ones will choose someone younger than you.
So yeah you can be alone. Or you can make some compromises. How badly do you want kids?
Why would you want to compromise on the FATHER OF YOUR CHILDREN? [Because you're out of time and out of optimum choices]
You are so delusional. You'd be better off compromising on your dating partner or husband. But the father of your children? Why are we compromising on the DNA that literally creates another human? [You are delusional. You think a 38yo woman can be uncompromising AND still have children. She can't. She will have to compromise in some way.]
No, do not date some old fugly man just so you can have kids.
No, do not date some alcoholic who can't keep a job man just so you can have kids.
No, do not date someone lacking brain cells just so you can have kids.
No, do not date someone abusive or mean just so you can have kids. [Who said anything about marrying someone fugly/alcoholic/stupid/abusive? Only you. Because you are trying to frame the debate in a dishonest way. She's not going to get the best possible guy she could have gotten in an ideal world when she was 25. But that doesn't mean her choice is down to "fugly/alcoholic/stupid/abusive or nothing".]
I really think you do not know the reality of today when you are encouraging women to settle for subpar men just to have kids. I mean, it's actually so obvious that you're telling women to settle for men like you, but clearly no one wants that.
[The reality of today for a woman of 38 who wants to have kids is that she won't get the same guy she could have gotten 10-15 years ago. That is a fact. I'm sorry you hate it, but it is still a fact. And hey if you want to personalize it, it's actually so obvious that you are trying to convince other women not to settle because you want to sabotage them so that there are more men available for you.]
Anonymous
09/03/2025 14:04
Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:38 is pretty old in the eyes of most men in the age group she is looking at. She needs to up the age to mid 50s.
Ew. I wish the gross old men would stop trying to troll op.
Right? OP is a million times better off being single than with an old man. Old men = baggage, liabilities, and a reminder that death is imminent. Avoid them.
But beggars can't be choosers, so...
Who's begging? If the options are alone or be with a nasty old saggy ball uneducated misogynistic short loser, maybe it's still better to be alone.
If you're a 38 year old woman and you don't have kids yet and you want to, then yes you are a beggar.
The best men are taken, and many of the available ones will choose someone younger than you.
So yeah you can be alone. Or you can make some compromises. How badly do you want kids?
Why would you want to compromise on the FATHER OF YOUR CHILDREN? You are so delusional. You'd be better off compromising on your dating partner or husband. But the father of your children? Why are we compromising on the DNA that literally creates another human?
No, do not date some old fugly man just so you can have kids.
No, do not date some alcoholic who can't keep a job man just so you can have kids.
No, do not date someone lacking brain cells just so you can have kids.
No, do not date someone abusive or mean just so you can have kids.
I really think you do not know the reality of today when you are encouraging women to settle for subpar men just to have kids. I mean, it's actually so obvious that you're telling women to settle for men like you, but clearly no one wants that.
Subpar men???
Did you forget that this thread is about a short, fat, single, old woman that can't get a date?
So, who, pray tell, is 'sub par'?
She's short and single but that's it. You insulting her to make yourself feel better doesn't actually work for adults. Isn't your bridge calling?
Anonymous
09/03/2025 14:00
Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:38 is pretty old in the eyes of most men in the age group she is looking at. She needs to up the age to mid 50s.
Ew. I wish the gross old men would stop trying to troll op.
Right? OP is a million times better off being single than with an old man. Old men = baggage, liabilities, and a reminder that death is imminent. Avoid them.
But beggars can't be choosers, so...
Who's begging? If the options are alone or be with a nasty old saggy ball uneducated misogynistic short loser, maybe it's still better to be alone.
If you're a 38 year old woman and you don't have kids yet and you want to, then yes you are a beggar.
The best men are taken, and many of the available ones will choose someone younger than you.
So yeah you can be alone. Or you can make some compromises. How badly do you want kids?
Why would you want to compromise on the FATHER OF YOUR CHILDREN? You are so delusional. You'd be better off compromising on your dating partner or husband. But the father of your children? Why are we compromising on the DNA that literally creates another human?
No, do not date some old fugly man just so you can have kids.
No, do not date some alcoholic who can't keep a job man just so you can have kids.
No, do not date someone lacking brain cells just so you can have kids.
No, do not date someone abusive or mean just so you can have kids.
I really think you do not know the reality of today when you are encouraging women to settle for subpar men just to have kids. I mean, it's actually so obvious that you're telling women to settle for men like you, but clearly no one wants that.
Subpar men???
Did you forget that this thread is about a short, fat, single, old woman that can't get a date?
So, who, pray tell, is 'sub par'?
Anonymous
09/03/2025 13:56
Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:38 is pretty old in the eyes of most men in the age group she is looking at. She needs to up the age to mid 50s.
Ew. I wish the gross old men would stop trying to troll op.
Right? OP is a million times better off being single than with an old man. Old men = baggage, liabilities, and a reminder that death is imminent. Avoid them.
But beggars can't be choosers, so...
Who's begging? If the options are alone or be with a nasty old saggy ball uneducated misogynistic short loser, maybe it's still better to be alone.
If you're a 38 year old woman and you don't have kids yet and you want to, then yes you are a beggar.
The best men are taken, and many of the available ones will choose someone younger than you.
So yeah you can be alone. Or you can make some compromises. How badly do you want kids?
Why would you want to compromise on the FATHER OF YOUR CHILDREN? You are so delusional. You'd be better off compromising on your dating partner or husband. But the father of your children? Why are we compromising on the DNA that literally creates another human?
No, do not date some old fugly man just so you can have kids.
No, do not date some alcoholic who can't keep a job man just so you can have kids.
No, do not date someone lacking brain cells just so you can have kids.
No, do not date someone abusive or mean just so you can have kids.
I really think you do not know the reality of today when you are encouraging women to settle for subpar men just to have kids. I mean, it's actually so obvious that you're telling women to settle for men like you, but clearly no one wants that.
Anonymous
09/03/2025 13:52
Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, if you get your BMI down to 20 and get better pics you will get plenty of interest. Sorry to say it, but I get way more attention from men with a BMI of 19 than I got when I had a BMI of 23. They are so shallow.
Men wanting a certain weight is shallow but women wanting a certain height is not?
Height is something you can't change. Weight is a result of lifestyle choices and can be changed.
Height is something you can change now. Surgery is expensive, but you certainly can change it if you are so inclined.
Yeah thanks for the totally dishonest comparison. Getting height changing surgery is just like not putting food in your mouth.
Sorry shorty, you can't just blame everyone else now. If you dont like being short you can change it. I'm sure you'll still continue to blame women for not liking you for it though.
Anonymous
09/03/2025 13:50
Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:38 is pretty old in the eyes of most men in the age group she is looking at. She needs to up the age to mid 50s.
Ew. I wish the gross old men would stop trying to troll op.
Right? OP is a million times better off being single than with an old man. Old men = baggage, liabilities, and a reminder that death is imminent. Avoid them.
But beggars can't be choosers, so...
Who's begging? If the options are alone or be with a nasty old saggy ball uneducated misogynistic short loser, maybe it's still better to be alone.
If you're a 38 year old woman and you don't have kids yet and you want to, then yes you are a beggar.
The best men are taken, and many of the available ones will choose someone younger than you.
So yeah you can be alone. Or you can make some compromises. How badly do you want kids?
Absolutely not. Not when women can be SMBC. I'd rather be alone than with some of the husbands pp have. There are worse things than being alone, and being with a bad man is far far worse.
Anonymous
09/03/2025 13:40
Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:38 is pretty old in the eyes of most men in the age group she is looking at. She needs to up the age to mid 50s.
Ew. I wish the gross old men would stop trying to troll op.
Right? OP is a million times better off being single than with an old man. Old men = baggage, liabilities, and a reminder that death is imminent. Avoid them.
But beggars can't be choosers, so...
Who's begging? If the options are alone or be with a nasty old saggy ball uneducated misogynistic short loser, maybe it's still better to be alone.
Not to state the obvious, but why is misogyny mentioned in every thread on DCUM? It's become this meaningless insult (like short dick energy). So your (implicit) argument is that older men are necessarily losers and misogynistic? Or only older men without a college degree? Or only older men who are short (and maybe without a college degree)?
To state the obvious, DCUM defines "misogyny" as even the slightest criticism of women or the suggestion that women must take any responsibility for their choices or the assertion that a woman must accept something less than total freedom to have whatever she wants instantly given to her.
No, it’s not. Misogyny is an assumption that partnered woman is somehow superior to single one.
Women have total freedom to stay single if they don’t want to sleep and bore kids with men available to them. For many women it’s better than tolerating sex with a 10+ older fat man every day
Anonymous
09/03/2025 12:50
Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:38 is pretty old in the eyes of most men in the age group she is looking at. She needs to up the age to mid 50s.
Ew. I wish the gross old men would stop trying to troll op.
Right? OP is a million times better off being single than with an old man. Old men = baggage, liabilities, and a reminder that death is imminent. Avoid them.
But beggars can't be choosers, so...
Who's begging? If the options are alone or be with a nasty old saggy ball uneducated misogynistic short loser, maybe it's still better to be alone.
Not to state the obvious, but why is misogyny mentioned in every thread on DCUM? It's become this meaningless insult (like short dick energy). So your (implicit) argument is that older men are necessarily losers and misogynistic? Or only older men without a college degree? Or only older men who are short (and maybe without a college degree)?
To state the obvious, DCUM defines "misogyny" as even the slightest criticism of women or the suggestion that women must take any responsibility for their choices or the assertion that a woman must accept something less than total freedom to have whatever she wants instantly given to her.
Anonymous
09/03/2025 12:48
Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, if you get your BMI down to 20 and get better pics you will get plenty of interest. Sorry to say it, but I get way more attention from men with a BMI of 19 than I got when I had a BMI of 23. They are so shallow.
Men wanting a certain weight is shallow but women wanting a certain height is not?
Height is something you can't change. Weight is a result of lifestyle choices and can be changed.
Height is something you can change now. Surgery is expensive, but you certainly can change it if you are so inclined.
Yeah thanks for the totally dishonest comparison. Getting height changing surgery is just like not putting food in your mouth.