Anonymous wrote:Married 30 years. We will tease each other about crushes. We are very open about who we find hot.

Secrecy is what allows this to build and cross the line.

So do you continue to see the crushes after you know about them? Do you watch each other more carefully knowing that they have a crush?

Bit of truth in every joke.

Exactly. Joking and openness are great tools, but they don’t necessarily erase the feelings. I wish my spouse could see it that way too, but he tends to take it more personally than I’d like.

Anonymous wrote:Married 30 years. We will tease each other about crushes. We are very open about who we find hot.

Secrecy is what allows this to build and cross the line.

I agree with sharing and joking it about it, but that doesn’t necessarily stop the crush.

Married 30 years. We will tease each other about crushes. We are very open about who we find hot.

Secrecy is what allows this to build and cross the line.