Op, it's a bunch of bitter, feminist, man-hating angry women on her for which a man can never do anything right unless he is completely subject her will and always caters to her desires.

Not the place for healthy, proper, well-adjusted relationship advice or perspective, but all good if you're having a bit of fun.

Anonymous wrote:Op just can’t stop lying. Pg8 she said she doesn’t drink!

She said that she contributed to the downpayment and now she says she doesn’t. Troll.

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Anonymous wrote:35 is hardly old to have another kid, especially around here. Second at 37. Sex one time. Many people here have first, second and third kids between 35-42.

yeah but its not a given

OP here. My doctor said I was a geriatric pregnancy because I was 35 when I gave birth. She said any subsequent births will be geriatric and considered high risk because of age.

Uh, do you live in the DMV? Tons of pregnancies over 35.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, if your plan is to go to work full time and still take care of baby and house and food all 100%, I think your friends were right, too. But being a happy doormat isn’t a bad life, if that’s what you want.

I’m not going back to work FT. I was asked if I worked or something like that and I said I did. I’ve worked FT until I went on maternity leave. I will be working from home PT.

My husband is amazing. He works really hard and that’s why I was able to take an extended maternity leave and now work PT. He encourages me to take time for myself like going to get my hair done, get a message, go on trip with friends. I don’t worry about taking out the trash or any outside work or repairs because he handles it all.

What is your childcare plan when you are working from home part time?

I was able to take four months of maternity leave because I saved my leave and planned ahead, not because I was dependent on a man to pay for it. I'm happily married (15 years) and my husband is my equal partner in all ways so I'm not jealous of your set up (it actually sounds dangerous because you're going to be financially dependent on this guy).

Your post just sounds very 1950s to me. If that works for you, then that's fine. I just hope you're protected in all ways should he decide he no longer wants to be married to you.

OP here. I am more traditional and I don’t mind it. I like my career but I’ve always wanted to be a wife and a mother first.

I will be going back to work 20 hours a week. We have lots of family help.

My husband won’t F me over but I’m good. I came into the marriage with a large savings account that I worked for since I was a teen. I’ve invested some and kept the other in a savings account. He told me to keep it for myself. We used joint funds from me working and his savings to buy our home. My name is on everything. I fully trust my husband.

Your husband told you to keep it for yourself? No kidding. It’s yours. Premarital property is yours in a divorce (as long as you’re not dumb enough to comingle it). He wasn’t being extra nice or doing anything amazing—that’s just the law.

OP here. He didn’t keep his money to himself. He used his money to buy my ring, pay for our wedding, and buy me a car. Most of our savings is his money that he had before we started dating.

That is nice. And since it was not yet marital property, it really was a gift to you (unless he's on the car title too). But you're missing the point. He's not Mr. Generous by "letting" you keep your premarital assets separate. They were always yours and it's not up to him. That isn't a gift to you. This kind of naivete is maybe why you're getting pushback.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, if your plan is to go to work full time and still take care of baby and house and food all 100%, I think your friends were right, too. But being a happy doormat isn’t a bad life, if that’s what you want.

I’m not going back to work FT. I was asked if I worked or something like that and I said I did. I’ve worked FT until I went on maternity leave. I will be working from home PT.

My husband is amazing. He works really hard and that’s why I was able to take an extended maternity leave and now work PT. He encourages me to take time for myself like going to get my hair done, get a message, go on trip with friends. I don’t worry about taking out the trash or any outside work or repairs because he handles it all.

What is your childcare plan when you are working from home part time?

I was able to take four months of maternity leave because I saved my leave and planned ahead, not because I was dependent on a man to pay for it. I'm happily married (15 years) and my husband is my equal partner in all ways so I'm not jealous of your set up (it actually sounds dangerous because you're going to be financially dependent on this guy).

Your post just sounds very 1950s to me. If that works for you, then that's fine. I just hope you're protected in all ways should he decide he no longer wants to be married to you.

OP here. I am more traditional and I don’t mind it. I like my career but I’ve always wanted to be a wife and a mother first.

I will be going back to work 20 hours a week. We have lots of family help.

My husband won’t F me over but I’m good. I came into the marriage with a large savings account that I worked for since I was a teen. I’ve invested some and kept the other in a savings account. He told me to keep it for myself. We used joint funds from me working and his savings to buy our home. My name is on everything. I fully trust my husband.

Your husband told you to keep it for yourself? No kidding. It’s yours. Premarital property is yours in a divorce (as long as you’re not dumb enough to comingle it). He wasn’t being extra nice or doing anything amazing—that’s just the law.

OP here. He didn’t keep his money to himself. He used his money to buy my ring, pay for our wedding, and buy me a car. Most of our savings is his money that he had before we started dating.

These are rich people problems, why rest of us are getting riled up?

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Anonymous wrote:35 is hardly old to have another kid, especially around here. Second at 37. Sex one time. Many people here have first, second and third kids between 35-42.

yeah but its not a given

OP here. My doctor said I was a geriatric pregnancy because I was 35 when I gave birth. She said any subsequent births will be geriatric and considered high risk because of age.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, if your plan is to go to work full time and still take care of baby and house and food all 100%, I think your friends were right, too. But being a happy doormat isn’t a bad life, if that’s what you want.

I’m not going back to work FT. I was asked if I worked or something like that and I said I did. I’ve worked FT until I went on maternity leave. I will be working from home PT.

My husband is amazing. He works really hard and that’s why I was able to take an extended maternity leave and now work PT. He encourages me to take time for myself like going to get my hair done, get a message, go on trip with friends. I don’t worry about taking out the trash or any outside work or repairs because he handles it all.

What is your childcare plan when you are working from home part time?

I was able to take four months of maternity leave because I saved my leave and planned ahead, not because I was dependent on a man to pay for it. I'm happily married (15 years) and my husband is my equal partner in all ways so I'm not jealous of your set up (it actually sounds dangerous because you're going to be financially dependent on this guy).

Your post just sounds very 1950s to me. If that works for you, then that's fine. I just hope you're protected in all ways should he decide he no longer wants to be married to you.

OP here. I am more traditional and I don’t mind it. I like my career but I’ve always wanted to be a wife and a mother first.

I will be going back to work 20 hours a week. We have lots of family help.

My husband won’t F me over but I’m good. I came into the marriage with a large savings account that I worked for since I was a teen. I’ve invested some and kept the other in a savings account. He told me to keep it for myself. We used joint funds from me working and his savings to buy our home. My name is on everything. I fully trust my husband.

Your husband told you to keep it for yourself? No kidding. It’s yours. Premarital property is yours in a divorce (as long as you’re not dumb enough to comingle it). He wasn’t being extra nice or doing anything amazing—that’s just the law.

Or maybe she did commingle it already, if it's what he used to "buy her a house". So if that's true, she's actually a bit worse off for having done so.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, if your plan is to go to work full time and still take care of baby and house and food all 100%, I think your friends were right, too. But being a happy doormat isn’t a bad life, if that’s what you want.

I’m not going back to work FT. I was asked if I worked or something like that and I said I did. I’ve worked FT until I went on maternity leave. I will be working from home PT.

My husband is amazing. He works really hard and that’s why I was able to take an extended maternity leave and now work PT. He encourages me to take time for myself like going to get my hair done, get a message, go on trip with friends. I don’t worry about taking out the trash or any outside work or repairs because he handles it all.

What is your childcare plan when you are working from home part time?

I was able to take four months of maternity leave because I saved my leave and planned ahead, not because I was dependent on a man to pay for it. I'm happily married (15 years) and my husband is my equal partner in all ways so I'm not jealous of your set up (it actually sounds dangerous because you're going to be financially dependent on this guy).

Your post just sounds very 1950s to me. If that works for you, then that's fine. I just hope you're protected in all ways should he decide he no longer wants to be married to you.

OP here. I am more traditional and I don’t mind it. I like my career but I’ve always wanted to be a wife and a mother first.

I will be going back to work 20 hours a week. We have lots of family help.

My husband won’t F me over but I’m good. I came into the marriage with a large savings account that I worked for since I was a teen. I’ve invested some and kept the other in a savings account. He told me to keep it for myself. We used joint funds from me working and his savings to buy our home. My name is on everything. I fully trust my husband.

Why are you trying to make it out like you’re a little baby and he’s taking care of you? You say here that you are paying/paid for the house, but you keep using verbiage that HE bought YOU a house? Why do you use language that robs you of your adult agency? Trying to remain childlike is such a weird flex

Daddy issues ..

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. Cry harder folks.

Ok so you're entirely too much in the right-leaning online world. That's your main problem.

Explain again how he managed to buy you a house with your money, because I still don't understand it.

Bought a house with her money and put his name on the title.

She got scammed!

OP here. My name is on the house and all accounts.

Some people are being rude on here.

I have my own savings before marriage and some of my salary tucked away that is hate mine. The salary I’ve been earning since marriage has gone into a savings account. My husband used his money ( I know it’s our money) to buy the home for us. He bought me a car and paid for our wedding on his own.

It’s our money but I say he bought me a house have he wanted a different home but settled to make me happy. Both of our names are on the deed and on all accounts.

That's not what you said before. You said it was paid for partially with your earnings. Why are you changing the story?

And why can't you say "he went with the house I preferred" or literally anything more accurate than the fictional story that you're telling about Mr Benevolent Patriarch?

OP here. I said he paid for the house with savings. You guys fan with it that I paid to because I put my salary into savings. Different savings accounts.

In the last post on page 7, you said "We used joint funds from me working and his savings to buy our home." And since he is joint owner of the home, he half owns it, so at best he partially "bought you" less than half a home. So for you to say he bought you a home is untrue. Why do you feel the need to say it? He agreed to exchange joint assets for a different joint asset, and he deferred to you on aesthetics because he doesn't really care about that. That's nice, but it's not really that big a deal. Stop acting like he's the Prince of Manly Generosity. He's a regular man who is nice to his wife.

If you grew up in a socially conservative culture you might not realize how weird this constant catering to the male ego seems to people who didn't grow up that way. Men might like it if they're young or insecure, and there's always some face-saving rationale when challenged, like that the wife is "the neck that turns the head". But not everyone goes for that kind of thing. It seems like you went on vacation with women who aren't used to this kind of thing and find it disingenuous and off-putting and they were a little grossed out by your Surrendered Wife routine and wanted to warn you that it can have some real down sides.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, if your plan is to go to work full time and still take care of baby and house and food all 100%, I think your friends were right, too. But being a happy doormat isn’t a bad life, if that’s what you want.

I’m not going back to work FT. I was asked if I worked or something like that and I said I did. I’ve worked FT until I went on maternity leave. I will be working from home PT.

My husband is amazing. He works really hard and that’s why I was able to take an extended maternity leave and now work PT. He encourages me to take time for myself like going to get my hair done, get a message, go on trip with friends. I don’t worry about taking out the trash or any outside work or repairs because he handles it all.

What is your childcare plan when you are working from home part time?

I was able to take four months of maternity leave because I saved my leave and planned ahead, not because I was dependent on a man to pay for it. I'm happily married (15 years) and my husband is my equal partner in all ways so I'm not jealous of your set up (it actually sounds dangerous because you're going to be financially dependent on this guy).

Your post just sounds very 1950s to me. If that works for you, then that's fine. I just hope you're protected in all ways should he decide he no longer wants to be married to you.

OP here. I am more traditional and I don’t mind it. I like my career but I’ve always wanted to be a wife and a mother first.

I will be going back to work 20 hours a week. We have lots of family help.

My husband won’t F me over but I’m good. I came into the marriage with a large savings account that I worked for since I was a teen. I’ve invested some and kept the other in a savings account. He told me to keep it for myself. We used joint funds from me working and his savings to buy our home. My name is on everything. I fully trust my husband.

Why are you trying to make it out like you’re a little baby and he’s taking care of you? You say here that you are paying/paid for the house, but you keep using verbiage that HE bought YOU a house? Why do you use language that robs you of your adult agency? Trying to remain childlike is such a weird flex

Op just can’t stop lying. Pg8 she said she doesn’t drink!

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Anonymous wrote:35 is hardly old to have another kid, especially around here. Second at 37. Sex one time. Many people here have first, second and third kids between 35-42.

yeah but its not a given

But it is not uncommon either

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Anonymous wrote:OP, if your plan is to go to work full time and still take care of baby and house and food all 100%, I think your friends were right, too. But being a happy doormat isn’t a bad life, if that’s what you want.

I’m not going back to work FT. I was asked if I worked or something like that and I said I did. I’ve worked FT until I went on maternity leave. I will be working from home PT.

My husband is amazing. He works really hard and that’s why I was able to take an extended maternity leave and now work PT. He encourages me to take time for myself like going to get my hair done, get a message, go on trip with friends. I don’t worry about taking out the trash or any outside work or repairs because he handles it all.

What is your childcare plan when you are working from home part time?

I was able to take four months of maternity leave because I saved my leave and planned ahead, not because I was dependent on a man to pay for it. I'm happily married (15 years) and my husband is my equal partner in all ways so I'm not jealous of your set up (it actually sounds dangerous because you're going to be financially dependent on this guy).

Your post just sounds very 1950s to me. If that works for you, then that's fine. I just hope you're protected in all ways should he decide he no longer wants to be married to you.

OP here. I am more traditional and I don’t mind it. I like my career but I’ve always wanted to be a wife and a mother first.

I will be going back to work 20 hours a week. We have lots of family help.

My husband won’t F me over but I’m good. I came into the marriage with a large savings account that I worked for since I was a teen. I’ve invested some and kept the other in a savings account. He told me to keep it for myself. We used joint funds from me working and his savings to buy our home. My name is on everything. I fully trust my husband.

Your husband told you to keep it for yourself? No kidding. It’s yours. Premarital property is yours in a divorce (as long as you’re not dumb enough to comingle it). He wasn’t being extra nice or doing anything amazing—that’s just the law.

Anonymous wrote:35 is hardly old to have another kid, especially around here. Second at 37. Sex one time. Many people here have first, second and third kids between 35-42.

yeah but its not a given