Anonymous wrote:Instead of a weekend what about a couple days during the week?
When I was a kid my grandfather would come stay at our house when my parents went somewhere. He'd get us on the school bus and relax all day. Then when we got home he'd take us to McDonald's or someplace like that for dinner! Less overwhelming than a whole weekend since there's breaks built in.

This. My parents live 25 min away and they can’t deal with my kids’ activities during the school year, but I register them for a full day (9-4) camp 5 min from my parents’ house and drop them off Sunday night and pick them up Friday. It’s only 5 days a year, but we’re child free. We take off work and do house projects together and go out to dinner every night.

Instead of a weekend what about a couple days during the week?
When I was a kid my grandfather would come stay at our house when my parents went somewhere. He'd get us on the school bus and relax all day. Then when we got home he'd take us to McDonald's or someplace like that for dinner! Less overwhelming than a whole weekend since there's breaks built in.

Anonymous wrote:Go someplace that has really good kid activities and care. We went to a resort once in Turks and Caicos that had Nannie’s available.

Do you have siblings? My sister watched our kid when we went on long weekends.

Or travel with another family and kids play together and parents take turns watching all of them at once.

First of all, it's nannies.

Second of all, a few hours of childfree time is not the same as having no children in your hotel room. Duh.

DH and I have five kids and we get away 1-2 times/year and have since the beginning. Nanny.

Many resort hotels have a kids' club. You can also bring a nanny on vacation with you. Consider doing staycations while kids are in school/daycare. There may be other relatives. Cultivate a great nanny who can stay with the kids for a couple of days.

If you can afford it, send kids to sleepaway camp and take a vacation then. Otherwise we only look one three night trip without kids. We have no family to help.

When our kids were young we would always travel with them. A few times we'd go to a Club Med that had a kids club which they loved. Often, when they were in the kids club we'd take "naps".

Go someplace that has really good kid activities and care. We went to a resort once in Turks and Caicos that had Nannie’s available.

Do you have siblings? My sister watched our kid when we went on long weekends.

Or travel with another family and kids play together and parents take turns watching all of them at once.

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Anonymous wrote:When a married couple really want to get away for a weekend they will find a way. Everything else is just an excuse to avoid doing it. My husband knows that with no kids around hotel sex after a date night is as good as it gets.

+1000

If you don't want to spend time alone with your spouse maybe take a good look at your marriage.

+2000

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Anonymous wrote:Once your kids are in elementary school ask a young child-free teacher (that you know) or a young woman from your office.

Obviously so many variables but my parents did this in the 1980s for their kids.

Also - once they are in middle you can ask friends, and offer a swap.

Jesus Christ do not do this. It’s effed up on so many levels.

+1 lol What childless young woman would want to do this for just someone they know. You aren't even family or a bff.

Anonymous wrote:We have two children and never vacation without them. Spouse gets work travel and that is the only non-family travel either one of us takes.

There are lots of trips that you can take children on that offer fun child only activities so you can get a couple-only meal. Do some research. Highly recommend.

But OP doesn’t want a “meal,” or a walk on the beach, or to reconnect. He just wants sex.

Anonymous wrote:When a married couple really want to get away for a weekend they will find a way. Everything else is just an excuse to avoid doing it. My husband knows that with no kids around hotel sex after a date night is as good as it gets.

+1000

If you don't want to spend time alone with your spouse maybe take a good look at your marriage.

Anonymous wrote:I do have parents who took mine when they were younger but also sleepaway camps - my kids loved those and we took couples-only trips during them.

This too, but please only if your kids do well at sleep away camp. Don’t force it. The other kids can tell when it’s forced.

We have two children and never vacation without them. Spouse gets work travel and that is the only non-family travel either one of us takes.

There are lots of trips that you can take children on that offer fun child only activities so you can get a couple-only meal. Do some research. Highly recommend.

Pauvre vous. Tant pis.