Anonymous
12/22/2024 11:46
Subject: Middle/high school pick-up parents: this is what you actually do with your time?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don't have to read the thread to know the responses because this thread is so common.
1. Brayden has sports practice/music lesson/tutoring exactly 20 minutes after school dismissal. Mom needs to be the first person in line, otherwise he will be late.
2. Brayden's little sister has one of the above things exactly 20 minutes after school dismissal and OP needs to be first in line to pick him up in order to get the sibling to her activity.
3. Mom is coming straight from pilates/yoga/orange theory/work and it's not worth it to go home first.
4. It's the only time Mom gets to listen to her favorite podcast/the latest Emily Henry audio book.
5. Mom doesn't like waiting (e.g. she'd rather sit with the car off and parking brake on than wait in line)
6. Brayden doesn't like waiting so mom has to be first.
Let me know if I missed anything!!
My kids take the bus, but when we did Kiss and Ride during Covid, I showed up 5 minutes after the bell rang and sailed through the line. Some people just don't understand that kiss and ride is a well oiled machine and once it gets going, it moves really quickly. No need to show up until the line is already moving.
I just read the whole thread - I think we hit everything except #2!
I have 3 kids and #2 is real in my house. I usually can’t or won’t make it to be first in line and will often be a little late. On some days, I have to pick all 3 in a row and drop off and it never goes perfectly smoothly. We live in a high traffic area and I have 3 kids in 3 different schools, all in high traffic areas. The lights before my kids’s schools are terrible and can take 10-20 min alone due to traffic.
This is a nice list, but I'd add 7. Because I know someone who is like this:
7. You are too anxious to carpool with your neighbor 2 doors down, and too anxious to let precious Brayden ride the bus, and you have nothing better to do, so you get to school ridiculously early and wait in your car for Brayden. This is my neighbor whose kid is in the magnet program with mine.
I can imagine you sitting in your darkened living room, peering from behind your curtains and thinking these lovely thoughts as your neighbor leaves for pick up.
Why are you so into your neighbor’s business? I WFH and have no idea what my neighbors do for school transportation.
It’s not at all shocking that neighbor mom doesn’t want Brayden in a car with this lunatic.
NP. My kids walk/take public transit but this thread has helped show me what I have long believed, which is that a lot of carpool moms are absolutely crazy lunatics kids need to stay far away from. No thank you.
So weird to be so up in your neighbors’ business that you track their comings and goings.
Anonymous
12/22/2024 11:15
Subject: Middle/high school pick-up parents: this is what you actually do with your time?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Because it is their alone/quiet/lizard time away from work at home spouses and/or kids still at home with a sitter.
If you have the time, you should be taking a walk or doing something actually relaxing or actually productive. You’re probably shoveling food in your face while you sit.
You sound jealous they have the time to do this.
DP but why on earth would someone be jealous that you have time to....sit in a car and do nothing. I work full time, I make time during the day to take a 20 minute walk around the neighborhood. That is much more pleasant to me than sitting in the car waiting for my kid. Your defensiveness about this is so bizarre!
This is such a hilariously pathetic attempt at a flex.
DP here. Better than "I have an hour a day to sit in a non moving carline" flex.
The difference is no one is bragging about sitting in the carpool lane. They’re just minding their own business, being judged by OP and her ilk who seem to be under the impression that walking for 20 whole minutes around their boring suburban neighborhood every day is just SO impressive
Anonymous
12/22/2024 10:47
Subject: Middle/high school pick-up parents: this is what you actually do with your time?
This is a really weird thing to be angry about. This is it? Do you read the news? Live in reality. This is just embarrassing and even more embarrassing that people have been debating this for 13 pages now.
Anonymous
12/22/2024 10:40
Subject: Middle/high school pick-up parents: this is what you actually do with your time?
I do this and it is Glorious (though I turn my car off). I get to the line calmly, work on my laptop or phone or call a friend, and then leave without chaos or incident. I generally get to avoid the moms who speed and cut-off as though we are thick in city traffic running from a street takeover mob. I one time had a mom who blew past me from behind as I stopped at a stop sign. I like to avoid that kind of nuts.
Now my wait is made more amusing thinking of you all tsk tsking me...so thank you.
Now my wait is made more amusing thinking of you all tsk tsking me...so thank you.
Anonymous
12/22/2024 10:29
Subject: Middle/high school pick-up parents: this is what you actually do with your time?
Each and every one of you who says you turn your car off while you sit is a liar.
Anonymous
12/22/2024 10:24
Subject: Middle/high school pick-up parents: this is what you actually do with your time?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Because it is their alone/quiet/lizard time away from work at home spouses and/or kids still at home with a sitter.
If you have the time, you should be taking a walk or doing something actually relaxing or actually productive. You’re probably shoveling food in your face while you sit.
You sound jealous they have the time to do this.
DP but why on earth would someone be jealous that you have time to....sit in a car and do nothing. I work full time, I make time during the day to take a 20 minute walk around the neighborhood. That is much more pleasant to me than sitting in the car waiting for my kid. Your defensiveness about this is so bizarre!
This is such a hilariously pathetic attempt at a flex.
DP here. Better than "I have an hour a day to sit in a non moving carline" flex.
Anonymous
12/22/2024 09:03
Subject: Middle/high school pick-up parents: this is what you actually do with your time?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don't have to read the thread to know the responses because this thread is so common.
1. Brayden has sports practice/music lesson/tutoring exactly 20 minutes after school dismissal. Mom needs to be the first person in line, otherwise he will be late.
2. Brayden's little sister has one of the above things exactly 20 minutes after school dismissal and OP needs to be first in line to pick him up in order to get the sibling to her activity.
3. Mom is coming straight from pilates/yoga/orange theory/work and it's not worth it to go home first.
4. It's the only time Mom gets to listen to her favorite podcast/the latest Emily Henry audio book.
5. Mom doesn't like waiting (e.g. she'd rather sit with the car off and parking brake on than wait in line)
6. Brayden doesn't like waiting so mom has to be first.
Let me know if I missed anything!!
My kids take the bus, but when we did Kiss and Ride during Covid, I showed up 5 minutes after the bell rang and sailed through the line. Some people just don't understand that kiss and ride is a well oiled machine and once it gets going, it moves really quickly. No need to show up until the line is already moving.
I just read the whole thread - I think we hit everything except #2!
I have 3 kids and #2 is real in my house. I usually can’t or won’t make it to be first in line and will often be a little late. On some days, I have to pick all 3 in a row and drop off and it never goes perfectly smoothly. We live in a high traffic area and I have 3 kids in 3 different schools, all in high traffic areas. The lights before my kids’s schools are terrible and can take 10-20 min alone due to traffic.
This is a nice list, but I'd add 7. Because I know someone who is like this:
7. You are too anxious to carpool with your neighbor 2 doors down, and too anxious to let precious Brayden ride the bus, and you have nothing better to do, so you get to school ridiculously early and wait in your car for Brayden. This is my neighbor whose kid is in the magnet program with mine.
I can imagine you sitting in your darkened living room, peering from behind your curtains and thinking these lovely thoughts as your neighbor leaves for pick up.
Why are you so into your neighbor’s business? I WFH and have no idea what my neighbors do for school transportation.
It’s not at all shocking that neighbor mom doesn’t want Brayden in a car with this lunatic.
Anonymous
12/22/2024 08:46
Subject: Middle/high school pick-up parents: this is what you actually do with your time?
My kids take the bus but OP sounds like one of those miserable judgmental women I avoid.
Anonymous
12/22/2024 08:35
Subject: Middle/high school pick-up parents: this is what you actually do with your time?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don't have to read the thread to know the responses because this thread is so common.
1. Brayden has sports practice/music lesson/tutoring exactly 20 minutes after school dismissal. Mom needs to be the first person in line, otherwise he will be late.
2. Brayden's little sister has one of the above things exactly 20 minutes after school dismissal and OP needs to be first in line to pick him up in order to get the sibling to her activity.
3. Mom is coming straight from pilates/yoga/orange theory/work and it's not worth it to go home first.
4. It's the only time Mom gets to listen to her favorite podcast/the latest Emily Henry audio book.
5. Mom doesn't like waiting (e.g. she'd rather sit with the car off and parking brake on than wait in line)
6. Brayden doesn't like waiting so mom has to be first.
Let me know if I missed anything!!
My kids take the bus, but when we did Kiss and Ride during Covid, I showed up 5 minutes after the bell rang and sailed through the line. Some people just don't understand that kiss and ride is a well oiled machine and once it gets going, it moves really quickly. No need to show up until the line is already moving.
I just read the whole thread - I think we hit everything except #2!
I have 3 kids and #2 is real in my house. I usually can’t or won’t make it to be first in line and will often be a little late. On some days, I have to pick all 3 in a row and drop off and it never goes perfectly smoothly. We live in a high traffic area and I have 3 kids in 3 different schools, all in high traffic areas. The lights before my kids’s schools are terrible and can take 10-20 min alone due to traffic.
This is a nice list, but I'd add 7. Because I know someone who is like this:
7. You are too anxious to carpool with your neighbor 2 doors down, and too anxious to let precious Brayden ride the bus, and you have nothing better to do, so you get to school ridiculously early and wait in your car for Brayden. This is my neighbor whose kid is in the magnet program with mine.
Eh, I don’t get there early. I get there about 5 min after dismissal. For one because it takes my son at least this long to get out of the building and is chit chatting at dismissal. But I hate carpooling with neighbors. Sometimes we run late, sometimes they do- but I prefer not to deal with anyone else’s issues.
Anonymous
12/22/2024 08:31
Subject: Middle/high school pick-up parents: this is what you actually do with your time?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don't have to read the thread to know the responses because this thread is so common.
1. Brayden has sports practice/music lesson/tutoring exactly 20 minutes after school dismissal. Mom needs to be the first person in line, otherwise he will be late.
2. Brayden's little sister has one of the above things exactly 20 minutes after school dismissal and OP needs to be first in line to pick him up in order to get the sibling to her activity.
3. Mom is coming straight from pilates/yoga/orange theory/work and it's not worth it to go home first.
4. It's the only time Mom gets to listen to her favorite podcast/the latest Emily Henry audio book.
5. Mom doesn't like waiting (e.g. she'd rather sit with the car off and parking brake on than wait in line)
6. Brayden doesn't like waiting so mom has to be first.
Let me know if I missed anything!!
My kids take the bus, but when we did Kiss and Ride during Covid, I showed up 5 minutes after the bell rang and sailed through the line. Some people just don't understand that kiss and ride is a well oiled machine and once it gets going, it moves really quickly. No need to show up until the line is already moving.
I just read the whole thread - I think we hit everything except #2!
I have 3 kids and #2 is real in my house. I usually can’t or won’t make it to be first in line and will often be a little late. On some days, I have to pick all 3 in a row and drop off and it never goes perfectly smoothly. We live in a high traffic area and I have 3 kids in 3 different schools, all in high traffic areas. The lights before my kids’s schools are terrible and can take 10-20 min alone due to traffic.
This is a nice list, but I'd add 7. Because I know someone who is like this:
7. You are too anxious to carpool with your neighbor 2 doors down, and too anxious to let precious Brayden ride the bus, and you have nothing better to do, so you get to school ridiculously early and wait in your car for Brayden. This is my neighbor whose kid is in the magnet program with mine.
I can imagine you sitting in your darkened living room, peering from behind your curtains and thinking these lovely thoughts as your neighbor leaves for pick up.
Why are you so into your neighbor’s business? I WFH and have no idea what my neighbors do for school transportation.
Anonymous
12/22/2024 08:17
Subject: Middle/high school pick-up parents: this is what you actually do with your time?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don't have to read the thread to know the responses because this thread is so common.
1. Brayden has sports practice/music lesson/tutoring exactly 20 minutes after school dismissal. Mom needs to be the first person in line, otherwise he will be late.
2. Brayden's little sister has one of the above things exactly 20 minutes after school dismissal and OP needs to be first in line to pick him up in order to get the sibling to her activity.
3. Mom is coming straight from pilates/yoga/orange theory/work and it's not worth it to go home first.
4. It's the only time Mom gets to listen to her favorite podcast/the latest Emily Henry audio book.
5. Mom doesn't like waiting (e.g. she'd rather sit with the car off and parking brake on than wait in line)
6. Brayden doesn't like waiting so mom has to be first.
Let me know if I missed anything!!
My kids take the bus, but when we did Kiss and Ride during Covid, I showed up 5 minutes after the bell rang and sailed through the line. Some people just don't understand that kiss and ride is a well oiled machine and once it gets going, it moves really quickly. No need to show up until the line is already moving.
I just read the whole thread - I think we hit everything except #2!
I have 3 kids and #2 is real in my house. I usually can’t or won’t make it to be first in line and will often be a little late. On some days, I have to pick all 3 in a row and drop off and it never goes perfectly smoothly. We live in a high traffic area and I have 3 kids in 3 different schools, all in high traffic areas. The lights before my kids’s schools are terrible and can take 10-20 min alone due to traffic.
This is a nice list, but I'd add 7. Because I know someone who is like this:
7. You are too anxious to carpool with your neighbor 2 doors down, and too anxious to let precious Brayden ride the bus, and you have nothing better to do, so you get to school ridiculously early and wait in your car for Brayden. This is my neighbor whose kid is in the magnet program with mine.
We used to carpool and still do when we can but as kids get older, it isn’t Brayden and Johnny who lives down the block going to rec soccer down the road. Now kids play different competitive sports and travel basketball practice is 20 min away and Johnny didn’t make the travel team and Braden now plays baseball, not soccer. Also in middle and high school (private), their classmates don’t even live in the same town. They can live 30 min out of our way so can’t carpool. We use the bus as much as possible and carpool as much as possible but it doesn’t always work out for us.
Anonymous
12/22/2024 08:08
Subject: Middle/high school pick-up parents: this is what you actually do with your time?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don't have to read the thread to know the responses because this thread is so common.
1. Brayden has sports practice/music lesson/tutoring exactly 20 minutes after school dismissal. Mom needs to be the first person in line, otherwise he will be late.
2. Brayden's little sister has one of the above things exactly 20 minutes after school dismissal and OP needs to be first in line to pick him up in order to get the sibling to her activity.
3. Mom is coming straight from pilates/yoga/orange theory/work and it's not worth it to go home first.
4. It's the only time Mom gets to listen to her favorite podcast/the latest Emily Henry audio book.
5. Mom doesn't like waiting (e.g. she'd rather sit with the car off and parking brake on than wait in line)
6. Brayden doesn't like waiting so mom has to be first.
Let me know if I missed anything!!
My kids take the bus, but when we did Kiss and Ride during Covid, I showed up 5 minutes after the bell rang and sailed through the line. Some people just don't understand that kiss and ride is a well oiled machine and once it gets going, it moves really quickly. No need to show up until the line is already moving.
I just read the whole thread - I think we hit everything except #2!
I have 3 kids and #2 is real in my house. I usually can’t or won’t make it to be first in line and will often be a little late. On some days, I have to pick all 3 in a row and drop off and it never goes perfectly smoothly. We live in a high traffic area and I have 3 kids in 3 different schools, all in high traffic areas. The lights before my kids’s schools are terrible and can take 10-20 min alone due to traffic.
This is a nice list, but I'd add 7. Because I know someone who is like this:
7. You are too anxious to carpool with your neighbor 2 doors down, and too anxious to let precious Brayden ride the bus, and you have nothing better to do, so you get to school ridiculously early and wait in your car for Brayden. This is my neighbor whose kid is in the magnet program with mine.
Anonymous
12/22/2024 07:55
Subject: Middle/high school pick-up parents: this is what you actually do with your time?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:In FCPS my kid would be on the bus for an hour. It’s a 10 minute drive to school. I much prefer my child getting more sleep than catching a bus at 6:35 am (after a 10 minute drive to walk).
OP isn't criticizing parents picking up their kids from school. They are wondering why so many are there to pick them up an hour before dismissal.
But a lot of PPs are criticizing parents for picking up their kids in any fashion when the bus is available. Almost everyone at our school qualifies for the bus and yet the pick-up line is very long everyday. I guess all these kids and parents are jerks.
It’s not picking them up that OP is criticizing. The the arriving an HOUR prior to dismissal and just sitting there in the parking lot so your child can be one of the first out. Sorry but that is nutty. If you arrive 5 min after dismissal, you will have almost no wait time. Your kid can stand around for a few minutes. They will be fine and probably still get to practice on time
That may be true at your kid’s school but getting to my kid’s school five minutes after the bell means about a 20 min wait till you get back on the road. Your experience is not universal.
But 20 minutes is still better than 60 minutes so your argument is numerically illogical.
The point being arriving five minutes after dismissal at our school does not mean no wait time like the PP. It means a 20 minute wait which translates to being late for therapy. Getting to school early and waiting is a longer wait before dismissal but a short time (1 min?) getting on the road after. So 60 minutes (actually more like 45) plus getting to therapy on time is better than twenty minutes and missing half of therapy. Capisce?
Is your kid in daily therapy? Is everyone’s?
Let’s say the school has 1000 kids. And 10% of them have some lesson/therapy/apt right after school once a week. That’s 20 kids per day right off the bat whose parents really need to get them first. Not the same 20 each day, but still a sizable amount in the carpool lane. Throw in another 1% for the nanny-picks-up-snowflake and you’ve got 30 care really early. That will look/feel like a lot in the carpool lane line, when really it’s quite a small percentage of the school. So maybe chill and just assume families are doing what’s best for them
-Mom who aims to get to school at the tail end of dismissal so I don’t need to deal with the carline chaos
Anonymous
12/22/2024 07:49
Subject: Middle/high school pick-up parents: this is what you actually do with your time?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don't have to read the thread to know the responses because this thread is so common.
1. Brayden has sports practice/music lesson/tutoring exactly 20 minutes after school dismissal. Mom needs to be the first person in line, otherwise he will be late.
2. Brayden's little sister has one of the above things exactly 20 minutes after school dismissal and OP needs to be first in line to pick him up in order to get the sibling to her activity.
3. Mom is coming straight from pilates/yoga/orange theory/work and it's not worth it to go home first.
4. It's the only time Mom gets to listen to her favorite podcast/the latest Emily Henry audio book.
5. Mom doesn't like waiting (e.g. she'd rather sit with the car off and parking brake on than wait in line)
6. Brayden doesn't like waiting so mom has to be first.
Let me know if I missed anything!!
My kids take the bus, but when we did Kiss and Ride during Covid, I showed up 5 minutes after the bell rang and sailed through the line. Some people just don't understand that kiss and ride is a well oiled machine and once it gets going, it moves really quickly. No need to show up until the line is already moving.
I just read the whole thread - I think we hit everything except #2!
I have 3 kids and #2 is real in my house. I usually can’t or won’t make it to be first in line and will often be a little late. On some days, I have to pick all 3 in a row and drop off and it never goes perfectly smoothly. We live in a high traffic area and I have 3 kids in 3 different schools, all in high traffic areas. The lights before my kids’s schools are terrible and can take 10-20 min alone due to traffic.
Anonymous
12/22/2024 07:45
Subject: Middle/high school pick-up parents: this is what you actually do with your time?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Because it is their alone/quiet/lizard time away from work at home spouses and/or kids still at home with a sitter.
If you have the time, you should be taking a walk or doing something actually relaxing or actually productive. You’re probably shoveling food in your face while you sit.
You sound jealous they have the time to do this.
DP but why on earth would someone be jealous that you have time to....sit in a car and do nothing. I work full time, I make time during the day to take a 20 minute walk around the neighborhood. That is much more pleasant to me than sitting in the car waiting for my kid. Your defensiveness about this is so bizarre!
The car ride with teens is time that I get to talk to my teens. I drive my child to high school so I can hear about what he has planned for the day. I literally drive by the bus stop on our way to school.