As a school administrator, I occasionally hear OP's comments from a parent about another family. I cannot ever comment on any family's situation. But what the school knows is a lot more than what you think you know about any given family. I know about the lost job, the medical debt, the company paying the rent on a house the family doesn't actually own, the car that was a gift from a grandparent, etc.

All of you who are trying to act like you’re so
above caring about this or thinking it’s unfair must just be very very rich. And more than likely with lots of family money because anyone who has had to earn what they have wouldn’t be ok with this.

Honestly, the full pay PE investors who pay far less in taxes than they should bother me far more than these 'undeserving FA' recipients who are paying as much as they can afford. Geez, get a grip.

Lots of families in my Arlington neighborhood live in $1.5M homes - homes they bought in 2009-2011 for $400-500k with a 3-4% mortgage. The parents are a HS teacher, a fire fighter, many GS 13-15 feds, a few journalists, a few nurses or physical therapists. They are not lawyers or high paid execs. It’s not their fault housing prices are so high.

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Anonymous wrote:Joke's on you, OP. 75% of families at any given private school are receiving some form of financial aid. I think the suckers here are not the schools, they are the families paying 100%.

The suckers are those who believe the schools when they point to the amount of FA they give and the percent of students who get it and say it shows they really care about giving to families that can’t afford the school. So much nonsense.

Reality is schools charge a ton and discount it so parents feel like they are getting a deal when they aren't. If they cared about low income students, they'd have a good number of full scholorships.

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Anonymous wrote:You are definitely happier being in the dark because when you see someone who has on paper the same exact life as you except for you pay twice as much as them for the same schools tuition it’s frustrating.

“On paper”. You don’t know what their expenses are, if they are supporting elderly parents or have medical costs or are paying off college loans - all things the Clarity app asks about, just as a few examples.

People are judging without actually knowing. Again, if it ticks you off - ask for aid, stop donating, earmark your donations, or switch schools, but mind your own business.

College loans are a choice. So is supporting family. You should not be asking for aid if you have a high income and assists and you choose high expenses or debt.

You don’t get to be the arbiter of that. The school does. Deal with it.

You are greedy and really selfish. That money should not be going to rich familes but families who truely need it.

The funny thing about all of the fake morally superior and deeply offended people here is that they will end up doing absolutely nothing about it.

Anonymous wrote:Joke's on you, OP. 75% of families at any given private school are receiving some form of financial aid. I think the suckers here are not the schools, they are the families paying 100%.

The suckers are those who believe the schools when they point to the amount of FA they give and the percent of students who get it and say it shows they really care about giving to families that can’t afford the school. So much nonsense.

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Anonymous wrote:You are definitely happier being in the dark because when you see someone who has on paper the same exact life as you except for you pay twice as much as them for the same schools tuition it’s frustrating.

“On paper”. You don’t know what their expenses are, if they are supporting elderly parents or have medical costs or are paying off college loans - all things the Clarity app asks about, just as a few examples.

People are judging without actually knowing. Again, if it ticks you off - ask for aid, stop donating, earmark your donations, or switch schools, but mind your own business.

College loans are a choice. So is supporting family. You should not be asking for aid if you have a high income and assists and you choose high expenses or debt.

You don’t get to be the arbiter of that. The school does. Deal with it.

Joke's on you, OP. 75% of families at any given private school are receiving some form of financial aid. I think the suckers here are not the schools, they are the families paying 100%.

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Anonymous wrote:You are definitely happier being in the dark because when you see someone who has on paper the same exact life as you except for you pay twice as much as them for the same schools tuition it’s frustrating.

“On paper”. You don’t know what their expenses are, if they are supporting elderly parents or have medical costs or are paying off college loans - all things the Clarity app asks about, just as a few examples.

People are judging without actually knowing. Again, if it ticks you off - ask for aid, stop donating, earmark your donations, or switch schools, but mind your own business.

College loans are a choice. So is supporting family. You should not be asking for aid if you have a high income and assists and you choose high expenses or debt.

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Anonymous wrote:You are definitely happier being in the dark because when you see someone who has on paper the same exact life as you except for you pay twice as much as them for the same schools tuition it’s frustrating.

Well if they have the same exact life as you and at the same school, there’s a good chance you would qualify for the same aid. Perhaps it would be less frustrating if you received aid as well. Problem solved.

I would never qualify for aid as we have savings like grownups. However I also understand that private school isn’t a right - it’s a choice. So I would also never use an entrepreneur status to fudge numbers to receive aid which is what I suspect the family I am thinking of does at 3 different schools. And I think we can all agree that lying to get aid you wouldn’t qualify for is wrong and not what FA is for.

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Anonymous wrote:So if you want your donation to go for FA for an actual poor student, what do you do?

Pick a school where you trust the decisions they make or just let it go. Or give a big enough amount to set up a named scholarship where you can set the parameters.

I figured someone like you would respond in exactly this fashion. You don’t actually want any truly poor people at your school. You like that people in $1 mil homes get FA. Keep those FA numbers up so can feel good about “diversity” without having anyone who actually needs the FA turn up in your kid’s class.

Anonymous wrote:You are definitely happier being in the dark because when you see someone who has on paper the same exact life as you except for you pay twice as much as them for the same schools tuition it’s frustrating.

“On paper”. You don’t know what their expenses are, if they are supporting elderly parents or have medical costs or are paying off college loans - all things the Clarity app asks about, just as a few examples.

People are judging without actually knowing. Again, if it ticks you off - ask for aid, stop donating, earmark your donations, or switch schools, but mind your own business.

Anonymous wrote:You are definitely happier being in the dark because when you see someone who has on paper the same exact life as you except for you pay twice as much as them for the same schools tuition it’s frustrating.

Well if they have the same exact life as you and at the same school, there’s a good chance you would qualify for the same aid. Perhaps it would be less frustrating if you received aid as well. Problem solved.