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Anonymous wrote:Any elegant comeback ideas for when a parent highlights their public school child got into the same college(s) as our private school daughter? The passive-aggressive point they are trying to make is that we wasted our money on private school tuition and we should have just stayed in the public system and would have ended up at the same place. So far, I've been using variations of "Good for you/them!"

The fact that you are looking for a comeback to this (and you are projecting something the other person didn’t say) means you are actually a wee bit insecure about this and the inference hit a nerve. It’s super weird when private school parents pretend they don’t hope their investment in tuition produces success and good college admission outcomes.

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Which was it, a truly better education or pay to play to maintain/enhance social status.

If it was a truly better education, you would most likely not be bothered at all.

I genuinely don’t think this is OP’s issue. I think for a certain contingent of private school parents - a top college is the goal. For others, that would be a bonus but is not the goal - we just have so many issues with public school we wouldn’t consider it regardless of the college issue. The public school parent is the one who is insecure - thinking they are making a point that “we spent no extra money” and now look our kids are going to the same place! The private school parent inherently knows their kid received a better education that will be reflected in college, the work world and beyond but then has to play along and not say anything in order to not hurt the public school parents feelings or avoid coming off snobby. I. Essence we are being asked to extend the courtesy that they are not extending to us. They are “bragging” about their great result yet we cannot brag about how our kids high school education was better than their kids.

Do you hear yourself?? Nonstop bragging

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Anonymous wrote:You know it’s time to go touch grass when you start talking about kids having some je ne sais quoi just because the kids go to private elementary and/or high school.

Allow me to translate. Je ne sais quoi that these (particular) private school children have developed is known in academic circles as a "punchable face". Don't let this be your child.

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I genuinely don’t think this is OP’s issue. I think for a certain contingent of private school parents - a top college is the goal. For others, that would be a bonus but is not the goal - we just have so many issues with public school we wouldn’t consider it regardless of the college issue. The public school parent is the one who is insecure - thinking they are making a point that “we spent no extra money” and now look our kids are going to the same place! The private school parent inherently knows their kid received a better education that will be reflected in college, the work world and beyond but then has to play along and not say anything in order to not hurt the public school parents feelings or avoid coming off snobby. I. Essence we are being asked to extend the courtesy that they are not extending to us. They are “bragging” about their great result yet we cannot brag about how our kids high school education was better than their kids.

+1. They're deeply insecure with an inferiority complex; from snide remarks in public to obsessively reading and posting on a private school sub-forum every day.

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Anonymous wrote:
I genuinely don’t think this is OP’s issue. I think for a certain contingent of private school parents - a top college is the goal. For others, that would be a bonus but is not the goal - we just have so many issues with public school we wouldn’t consider it regardless of the college issue. The public school parent is the one who is insecure - thinking they are making a point that “we spent no extra money” and now look our kids are going to the same place! The private school parent inherently knows their kid received a better education that will be reflected in college, the work world and beyond but then has to play along and not say anything in order to not hurt the public school parents feelings or avoid coming off snobby. I. Essence we are being asked to extend the courtesy that they are not extending to us. They are “bragging” about their great result yet we cannot brag about how our kids high school education was better than their kids.

+1. They're deeply insecure with an inferiority complex; from snide remarks in public to obsessively reading and posting on a private school sub-forum every day.

Anonymous wrote:
I genuinely don’t think this is OP’s issue. I think for a certain contingent of private school parents - a top college is the goal. For others, that would be a bonus but is not the goal - we just have so many issues with public school we wouldn’t consider it regardless of the college issue. The public school parent is the one who is insecure - thinking they are making a point that “we spent no extra money” and now look our kids are going to the same place! The private school parent inherently knows their kid received a better education that will be reflected in college, the work world and beyond but then has to play along and not say anything in order to not hurt the public school parents feelings or avoid coming off snobby. I. Essence we are being asked to extend the courtesy that they are not extending to us. They are “bragging” about their great result yet we cannot brag about how our kids high school education was better than their kids.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You know it’s time to go touch grass when you start talking about kids having some je ne sais quoi just because the kids go to private elementary and/or high school.

Allow me to translate. Je ne sais quoi that these (particular) private school children have developed is known in academic circles as a "punchable face". Don't let this be your child.

Anonymous wrote:You know it’s time to go touch grass when you start talking about kids having some je ne sais quoi just because the kids go to private elementary and/or high school.