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Anonymous wrote:Marrying my husband.

Why?

He started off with the "quiet nerd" vibe, which I appreciated. And then over many years, and while researching my child's symptoms and realizing he had autism, I realized my husband had high-functioning autism as well, and it explained his emotional distance from his child and his social difficulties with everyone. I thought these problems would get better, not worse, with self-awareness and social practice. No. He's getting angrier, more paranoid and irrational, and more reclusive with age.

So given that I've got a kid with autism (who has a sweet nature and whom I hope will never end up like his father), and an angry spouse who is now reflexively argumentative and disrespectful... I feel my life could have been better without that marriage.

Of course I love my child to bits. But I sacrificed my career to stay home and look after him so that he could grow up to be as independent as possible. My husband just couldn't share the special parenting work it takes to continually engage with an autistic child.

+1 Similar story except my child's personality is a carbon copy of Dad's. It's like double the pain. Only you cannot leave your child. The stress and trauma has already led to significant health issues.

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Anonymous wrote:Abortion in my 20s

Not getting prego with a rando ?

WTF kind of comment is this? Go away. Not PP.

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Anonymous wrote:I sometimes regret not marrying someone just to have had a wedding. I think I would’ve made a nice bride.

Half of marriages end in divorce, and it seems that plenty of people know they’re making a mistake. I did the “right” thing by not marrying the wrong person, but I never got a party, presents, nice pictures, and then later everyone calling me stunning and brave when I got a divorce. Being right is no fun.

That is what you think a divorce is like? Everyone rallying around you and calling you "stunning and brave"? And marriage is a party and presents and nice pictures?

Wow.

Drank too much in my 20s

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Anonymous wrote:I sometimes regret not marrying someone just to have had a wedding. I think I would’ve made a nice bride.

Half of marriages end in divorce, and it seems that plenty of people know they’re making a mistake. I did the “right” thing by not marrying the wrong person, but I never got a party, presents, nice pictures, and then later everyone calling me stunning and brave when I got a divorce. Being right is no fun.

New regret: the multihours every day I have spent gossip scrolling, contempt scrolling, rage scrolling, loneliness scrolling online looking for connection. For years but mostly since 2020.
I fell down or 4 steps today. My clog flopped and tripped me, I think. My head hit our metal shoe rack. Broke my TF glasses frame.
Got a cut near but not at corner of my eye, black eye, bruised face, scared and bruised elbow, banged my TKR knee, sore hip and stomach,
God was with me. Teeth ok, no broken bones, eyesight ok. Was freaked about knee prosthesis called surgeon. Ice and observe. Can go Monday for xray but swelling is resolving and it really isn't painful. Will probably just keep the November appointment I made.
Really didn't pay enough attention to the face cut it's right in my crow foot crease and keeps bleeding a drop or two periodically. Will call doc Monday unless it gets worse. Keeping it clean, icing face.
So much time wasted on negativity.
Still shaken but vow go live in real life oh thank God. So fortunate. Dh was very tender, heard me fall and ran down to me.
No more regrets like this one.

Anonymous wrote:Letting myself go during both of my pregnancies and not taking care of myself. Especially during my first one where I thought I could simply eat for two and not need to exercise. I gave up a really great body and never got it back. Trying to make up for lost time now.

I ate super healthy and exercised and still lost the great body 👻 I don’t think we have control over the battle with hormones!

Anonymous wrote:Abortion in my 20s

+1

I regret the same.

* it was the source of so much unhappiness in my life, and I don’t think it really boosted my career in anyway.

Anonymous wrote:This one is going to be total fodder for this crowd but ... not even applying to Harvard or any Ivy when I was graduating high school. I would have gotten in (high stats, from a rural area in the South, plus it was the 90s) but refused to even try because I thought it was too elitist. I don't think my career was ultimately harmed, but I didn't have a great college experience and find myself wishing i got to have that sort of college experience.

I am almost exactly like you, high stats, Royal Southern town, the 90s, only I did go to the Ivy. That is my biggest regret, it is with the source of so much and happiness in my life, and I don’t think it really booed in my career in anyway.

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Choosing to settle in an area with high costs of living instead of moving to a mid-size city earlier in life before having kids. Now moving is so much harder but the challenges of living in an expensive place have multiplied.

+1. This is pretty much it for me too. Unknowingly/unintentionally enrolling my children in the Nova childhood rat race.

You can move to other parts of Nova like Annandale or Springfield and get out of the rat race.

Moving back home after college.
Should have gone to Costa Rica.
Not going to college in Australia

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Choosing to settle in an area with high costs of living instead of moving to a mid-size city earlier in life before having kids. Now moving is so much harder but the challenges of living in an expensive place have multiplied.

+1. This is pretty much it for me too. Unknowingly/unintentionally enrolling my children in the Nova childhood rat race.

Letting myself go during both of my pregnancies and not taking care of myself. Especially during my first one where I thought I could simply eat for two and not need to exercise. I gave up a really great body and never got it back. Trying to make up for lost time now.

Abortion in my 20s