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Anonymous wrote:Consider giving her a pass on this one if you can afford the furniture. Pregnant mothers want what they want and she didn't want you trying to replace her careful selection with cheap Ikea stuff. If you're planning on more than one child, remember that future children will also be using this furniture so it's worth it to buy quality pieces that will hold up for years.

IMO, $500 is too low for the "spouse authorization" rule. Consider raising the amount to $1500.

OP here. She set the limit after I purchased a $1200 glider for the living room. She decided we need
“ authorization” and a limit of $500 unless we both agreed on the purchase.

You bought something you liked for a space in your house that was for everyone. You imposed your taste on your wife on a daily basis.

Your wife bought furniture for the baby's room, for a nursery that most people won't see and for a space that you yourself admitted you don't care how it looks.

Can you not see a difference in this?

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Anonymous wrote:Now I'm side-eyeing my broke-ass IKEA sofa. WIll I spend 6K to replace it? no. Will i ask DH for his opinion on it? Yes, of course. The dude has to look at it daily and sit on it.

If you are a grown adult with money in retirement and emergency savings, all your bills paid, and extra money the bank that you have no plans for, then buy a decent couch!

Seriously. But I hate shopping.

Sounds kinda high for nursery furniture but not crazy high. Hopefully she got the crib to bed conversion kit that’s lasts awhile and a big dresser that will last. So you’re good for a few years. Just move on. It’s not like you didn’t need the furniture. I never consult my dh just send him his percentage of the bills (we do a 60/40 split on bills).

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How much over?

Technically if each individual piece was within the limit, she did nothing wrong.

OP here. It was $6600. Most of the items were exceeding the $500. I’m just annoyed she did not let me know about a purchase this large.

That is A LOT for baby furniture, did she get everything she needs or is there still stuff missing? Did she buy qualify or cheap stuff with an expensive label?

And also a waste of money, probably.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"She didn’t get any authorization from me first"

WHAT?

How much was the total troll?

His wording is off but most people take their spouse's input before making a big financial decision.

That being said, you can't reason with a first time prego and live happily so let it go but rationally discuss importance of making bug decisions together, as being parents y'all have to be more responsible and will face more issues worth a mutual brainstorming.

OP here. I don’t think my wording was off. It may come across as harsh but is isn’t. We both are free to spend whatever we want, but bigger purchases over $500 are always given a heads up and authorization by each other. This allows us to keep our budget under control and not overspend.

Saying your wording was off is a kindler way of saying it was poorly written with lots of grammatical errors.

Well baby 2 can use it too. But nursery furniture is for small people-isnt used for long. So there's that.

Data point:

I would never do this nor would my wife. 29 years of dating or marriage and every purchase over a few hundred has been discussed and never an argument. Including through three pregnancies.

I don’t understand the hormone thing. That’s for like wanting ice cream in the moment not deliberately spending thousands of dollars. It’s a post hoc rationalization.

She’s an adult and responsible for her behavior. She should apologize (then you should let it drop once she does).

OP, are you originally from country?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"She didn’t get any authorization from me first"

WHAT?

How much was the total troll?

+1

I'd be ok of OP said "She didn’t give me a heads up first" since they have an agreement to discuss large purchases but AUTHORIZATION?!

Read the entire post and put it in context. OP was very clear that they BOTH provide authorization for purchases above $500. Wife is out of line here and he absolutely has the right to be pissed. Also it’s nuts to spend that much on “nursery furniture”.

You gotta let it ago, and treat yourself to something when you're ready for a turn.

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Anonymous wrote:This is a troll and advertising for Larkin.

I spend much more on nursery for my kids.

Congrats on being rich?

This thread is amazing. Not that OP is getting roasted, but that people are just shrugging off the wife making major purchases because of “pregnancy hormones”. I’m sorry, that doesn’t just give you a pass to do whatever you want.

Same reason we allow men to be horndogs.
Hormones = no responsibility.