Anonymous
02/29/2024 11:51
Subject: Test results came back positive
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:For the record, OP said it was TV, not HPV
Yes, but the comparison between hpv and other stds and stis is relevant here. There are posters claiming there are non sexual ways if contracting sexually transmitted diseases. If a woman's hpv is attributed to dormancy, then maybe her case of trich came from a towel. The reality is, if you have an std, you have been exposed to an std by your partner.
100% this.
Most of what we're seeing here are women that unfortunately choose to believe that their partner was faithful to them when he was not. In general, I think it's best to just accept the truth, work through it with a therapist, and figure out if you can salvage the marriage. Sticking your head in the sand and imagining you got it from the toilet seat or whatever is very 1950's.
No what we have here are women that understand science. I actually think OP's H cheated. But just so we are not spreading false information, it is very possible to get these STI's and nobody cheated.
FFS: NO. That is the exception, not the rule. That is a very, very, very miniscule chance. Without bodily fluid exchange with someone that has it--no. This towel incident and dirty hot tub is so far-fetched. The duck test—"If it looks like a duck, swims like a duck, and quacks like a duck, then it probably is a duck"
Anonymous
02/29/2024 10:58
Subject: Test results came back positive
Anonymous wrote:New poster and I haven't read all 13 pages, but my DH and I have never been with anyone else in our lives, and a couple of years ago, I had an abnormal pap and positive for HPV. It is rare, but it happened to me.
I’ll bet it all cleared up quickly, too, right? Suddenly appeared and then disappeared, but no cheating…oh, honey, honey…keep telling yourself that.
Anonymous
02/29/2024 10:45
Subject: Test results came back positive
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:For the record, OP said it was TV, not HPV
Yes, but the comparison between hpv and other stds and stis is relevant here. There are posters claiming there are non sexual ways if contracting sexually transmitted diseases. If a woman's hpv is attributed to dormancy, then maybe her case of trich came from a towel. The reality is, if you have an std, you have been exposed to an std by your partner.
100% this.
Most of what we're seeing here are women that unfortunately choose to believe that their partner was faithful to them when he was not. In general, I think it's best to just accept the truth, work through it with a therapist, and figure out if you can salvage the marriage. Sticking your head in the sand and imagining you got it from the toilet seat or whatever is very 1950's.
No what we have here are women that understand science. I actually think OP's H cheated. But just so we are not spreading false information, it is very possible to get these STI's and nobody cheated.
When you say these STIs, are you referring to trich? And you are saying it is "very possible" to get trich from a non sexual way? I'd love for you to explain that one to OP. Real life examples are a bonus.
Anonymous
02/29/2024 10:27
Subject: Test results came back positive
New poster and I haven't read all 13 pages, but my DH and I have never been with anyone else in our lives, and a couple of years ago, I had an abnormal pap and positive for HPV. It is rare, but it happened to me.
Anonymous
02/29/2024 10:24
Subject: Test results came back positive
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:For the record, OP said it was TV, not HPV
Yes, but the comparison between hpv and other stds and stis is relevant here. There are posters claiming there are non sexual ways if contracting sexually transmitted diseases. If a woman's hpv is attributed to dormancy, then maybe her case of trich came from a towel. The reality is, if you have an std, you have been exposed to an std by your partner.
100% this.
Most of what we're seeing here are women that unfortunately choose to believe that their partner was faithful to them when he was not. In general, I think it's best to just accept the truth, work through it with a therapist, and figure out if you can salvage the marriage. Sticking your head in the sand and imagining you got it from the toilet seat or whatever is very 1950's.
No what we have here are women that understand science. I actually think OP's H cheated. But just so we are not spreading false information, it is very possible to get these STI's and nobody cheated.
Anonymous
02/29/2024 10:22
Subject: Test results came back positive
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:For the record, OP said it was TV, not HPV
Yes, but the comparison between hpv and other stds and stis is relevant here. There are posters claiming there are non sexual ways if contracting sexually transmitted diseases. If a woman's hpv is attributed to dormancy, then maybe her case of trich came from a towel. The reality is, if you have an std, you have been exposed to an std by your partner.
You don't understand that you can get and STI like TV from sex with your partner because he puts it inside you but he carries the parasite outside his body from a non-sexual event, just like you can get a UTI from sex but it's not because somebody cheated.
Anonymous
02/29/2024 10:18
Subject: Test results came back positive
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:For the record, OP said it was TV, not HPV
Yes, but the comparison between hpv and other stds and stis is relevant here. There are posters claiming there are non sexual ways if contracting sexually transmitted diseases. If a woman's hpv is attributed to dormancy, then maybe her case of trich came from a towel. The reality is, if you have an std, you have been exposed to an std by your partner.
100% this.
Most of what we're seeing here are women that unfortunately choose to believe that their partner was faithful to them when he was not. In general, I think it's best to just accept the truth, work through it with a therapist, and figure out if you can salvage the marriage. Sticking your head in the sand and imagining you got it from the toilet seat or whatever is very 1950's.
Anonymous
02/29/2024 10:04
Subject: Test results came back positive
Anonymous wrote:For the record, OP said it was TV, not HPV
Yes, but the comparison between hpv and other stds and stis is relevant here. There are posters claiming there are non sexual ways if contracting sexually transmitted diseases. If a woman's hpv is attributed to dormancy, then maybe her case of trich came from a towel. The reality is, if you have an std, you have been exposed to an std by your partner.
Anonymous
02/29/2024 10:01
Subject: Re:Test results came back positive
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here- already talked with my doctor. Talking to another doctor later this week. Only real probability was a recent partner. I don't know why the type of std matters.
It matters because HPV can be in your system for years and then reactivate.
Not really. Usually your body completely clears an hpv infection or you will continue to test positive for it. By “laying dormant,” it means the hpv infection isn’t causing any precancerous cells, not that it’s undetectable. If someone tests negative for hpv and then tests positive, it almost always means they have a new infection.
That is completely wrong.
No, it’s not. As long as the hpv is in your system, even if you have no symptoms of infection and no cellular changes, you will test positive for it. For most people, hpv clears itself COMPLETELY in about two years, but in some people it can last decades. If you tested negative and then test positive a few years later, you have a new infection. FACTS.
No. It does not mean it is a new infection. It can recur years later: the same one.
Not 10 years later though.
I wish there was clear information about hpv available.These allegedly "long dormant" cases suddenly popping up, conviently coinciding with midlife crises... I have never had an abnormal pap, nor have I ever tested positive for hpv. I am faithful to my dh. If I come up positive, he's busted.
It’s very typical for oral cancer to be caused by 20-30+ year-old dormant HPV. Many people who had a lot of oral sex partners when they were young get it after decades of faithful monogamy. It gets encapsulated in the nooks/crannies of the oral cavity and then decides to bust out many years later.
Anonymous
02/29/2024 10:00
Subject: Re:Test results came back positive
OP hasn't even seen a real doctor, she is traveling and probably went to a clinic.
Anonymous
02/29/2024 09:58
Subject: Test results came back positive
Anonymous wrote:For the record, OP said it was TV, not HPV
Which isn't even always sexually transmitted.
Anonymous
02/29/2024 09:58
Subject: Test results came back positive
Anonymous wrote:For the record, OP said it was TV, not HPV
I feel the same about that. I don't even get yeast infections or UTIs--50s. So if I was having symptoms and tested positive for TV like OP--definitely going to investigate/confront.
Anonymous
02/29/2024 09:57
Subject: Re:Test results came back positive
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here- already talked with my doctor. Talking to another doctor later this week. Only real probability was a recent partner. I don't know why the type of std matters.
It matters because HPV can be in your system for years and then reactivate.
Not really. Usually your body completely clears an hpv infection or you will continue to test positive for it. By “laying dormant,” it means the hpv infection isn’t causing any precancerous cells, not that it’s undetectable. If someone tests negative for hpv and then tests positive, it almost always means they have a new infection.
That is completely wrong.
No, it’s not. As long as the hpv is in your system, even if you have no symptoms of infection and no cellular changes, you will test positive for it. For most people, hpv clears itself COMPLETELY in about two years, but in some people it can last decades. If you tested negative and then test positive a few years later, you have a new infection. FACTS.
No. It does not mean it is a new infection. It can recur years later: the same one.
Not 10 years later though.
I wish there was clear information about hpv available.These allegedly "long dormant" cases suddenly popping up, conviently coinciding with midlife crises... I have never had an abnormal pap, nor have I ever tested positive for hpv. I am faithful to my dh. If I come up positive, he's busted.
Agree. Met him it at 26, 54 now. Never had an abnormal pap or positive HPV test. I get some people don't want to face reality and it's hard and you might want to cling to those 'odds'--but it serves you no purpose and puts your health/life in danger.
Anonymous
02/29/2024 09:53
Subject: Test results came back positive
For the record, OP said it was TV, not HPV
Anonymous
02/29/2024 09:14
Subject: Re:Test results came back positive
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here- already talked with my doctor. Talking to another doctor later this week. Only real probability was a recent partner. I don't know why the type of std matters.
It matters because HPV can be in your system for years and then reactivate.
Not really. Usually your body completely clears an hpv infection or you will continue to test positive for it. By “laying dormant,” it means the hpv infection isn’t causing any precancerous cells, not that it’s undetectable. If someone tests negative for hpv and then tests positive, it almost always means they have a new infection.
That is completely wrong.
No, it’s not. As long as the hpv is in your system, even if you have no symptoms of infection and no cellular changes, you will test positive for it. For most people, hpv clears itself COMPLETELY in about two years, but in some people it can last decades. If you tested negative and then test positive a few years later, you have a new infection. FACTS.
No. It does not mean it is a new infection. It can recur years later: the same one.
Not 10 years later though.
I wish there was clear information about hpv available.These allegedly "long dormant" cases suddenly popping up, conviently coinciding with midlife crises... I have never had an abnormal pap, nor have I ever tested positive for hpv. I am faithful to my dh. If I come up positive, he's busted.