Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think you have a lot of anger at the situation and also jealousy. All of it is very understandable, but this person was not trying to hurt you and could not have known what was going on. I’m sorry for your loss.
I was DEVESTATED, my husband, a military officer was crying. We lost our baby. It was dead in my body.
OMG would you please stop saying "dead baby" and "dead in my body"? You are incredibly self involved and literally using a dead child to get sympathy on the internet.
Clearly it wouldn't even occur to you that your language and posts could be triggering for others even as you are going on and on about how awful it was for you to get triggered. You need to go get some sympathy from an appropriate place, not here.
DP: Stop scolding this poor women for expressing her grief in a perfectly natural way. No one need participate in a thread and you already know what this one is about.
OP I have no idea why people are being so hard on you today. Usually this is a more supportive area.
+1. It’s appropriate to say “dead baby” and “dead in my body” because it’s the truth. No need to sugarcoat it.
+1 "Dead baby" and "dead in my body" are accurate and therefore normal to write.
To some people, the term "passed away" is far more offensive than "dead."
Fetus, not baby.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It's not enough that they get attention by crying in the waiting room, but they need all the additional attention by posting this on DCUM.
Your public cry for attention didn't work, and now you are mad.
What happened to you sucks, but demanding all this public sympathy isn't goi f to change your situation.
I was crying for the baby I very much wanted and was dead in my belly. My husband was crying. He's not an emotional person. This isn't some kind of cry for attention, I was in actual pain.
How far along were you OP?
No, no, no. Don’t do that. Don’t “it doesn’t count if XYZ” to the OP.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It's not enough that they get attention by crying in the waiting room, but they need all the additional attention by posting this on DCUM.
Your public cry for attention didn't work, and now you are mad.
What happened to you sucks, but demanding all this public sympathy isn't goi f to change your situation.
I was crying for the baby I very much wanted and was dead in my belly. My husband was crying. He's not an emotional person. This isn't some kind of cry for attention, I was in actual pain.
How far along were you OP?
No, no, no. Don’t do that. Don’t “it doesn’t count if XYZ” to the OP.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think you have a lot of anger at the situation and also jealousy. All of it is very understandable, but this person was not trying to hurt you and could not have known what was going on. I’m sorry for your loss.
I was DEVESTATED, my husband, a military officer was crying. We lost our baby. It was dead in my body.
OMG would you please stop saying "dead baby" and "dead in my body"? You are incredibly self involved and literally using a dead child to get sympathy on the internet.
Clearly it wouldn't even occur to you that your language and posts could be triggering for others even as you are going on and on about how awful it was for you to get triggered. You need to go get some sympathy from an appropriate place, not here.
DP: Stop scolding this poor women for expressing her grief in a perfectly natural way. No one need participate in a thread and you already know what this one is about.
OP I have no idea why people are being so hard on you today. Usually this is a more supportive area.
+1. It’s appropriate to say “dead baby” and “dead in my body” because it’s the truth. No need to sugarcoat it.
+1 "Dead baby" and "dead in my body" are accurate and therefore normal to write.
To some people, the term "passed away" is far more offensive than "dead."
Fetus, not baby.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It's not enough that they get attention by crying in the waiting room, but they need all the additional attention by posting this on DCUM.
Your public cry for attention didn't work, and now you are mad.
What happened to you sucks, but demanding all this public sympathy isn't goi f to change your situation.
I was crying for the baby I very much wanted and was dead in my belly. My husband was crying. He's not an emotional person. This isn't some kind of cry for attention, I was in actual pain.
How far along were you OP?
Anonymous wrote:OP I’m the poster above who lost my full term baby. If you’re still reading this far in, I know this will be hard to believe, but time does heal wounds. It still makes me sad, I still wonder what my child would have been like at x age, and x age. But it doesn’t hurt like it did. And I came to realize that everyone has pain and grief in their lives. It helped me have more empathy for happy couples with little newborns. And my own heart healed in time, in its own way. Your heart will heal too. It’s raw and excruciating right now. But you will also find happiness again.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It's not enough that they get attention by crying in the waiting room, but they need all the additional attention by posting this on DCUM.
Your public cry for attention didn't work, and now you are mad.
What happened to you sucks, but demanding all this public sympathy isn't goi f to change your situation.
I was crying for the baby I very much wanted and was dead in my belly. My husband was crying. He's not an emotional person. This isn't some kind of cry for attention, I was in actual pain.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think you have a lot of anger at the situation and also jealousy. All of it is very understandable, but this person was not trying to hurt you and could not have known what was going on. I’m sorry for your loss.
I was DEVESTATED, my husband, a military officer was crying. We lost our baby. It was dead in my body.
OMG would you please stop saying "dead baby" and "dead in my body"? You are incredibly self involved and literally using a dead child to get sympathy on the internet.
Clearly it wouldn't even occur to you that your language and posts could be triggering for others even as you are going on and on about how awful it was for you to get triggered. You need to go get some sympathy from an appropriate place, not here.
DP: Stop scolding this poor women for expressing her grief in a perfectly natural way. No one need participate in a thread and you already know what this one is about.
OP I have no idea why people are being so hard on you today. Usually this is a more supportive area.
+1. It’s appropriate to say “dead baby” and “dead in my body” because it’s the truth. No need to sugarcoat it.
+1 "Dead baby" and "dead in my body" are accurate and therefore normal to write.
To some people, the term "passed away" is far more offensive than "dead."
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think you have a lot of anger at the situation and also jealousy. All of it is very understandable, but this person was not trying to hurt you and could not have known what was going on. I’m sorry for your loss.
I was DEVESTATED, my husband, a military officer was crying. We lost our baby. It was dead in my body.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I didn't expect that there were so many cold people out there, but now I know.
New to DCUM? Regularly makes me lose my faith in humanity.