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Anonymous wrote:OP, not only does this sound very normal, but 17 is pretty late on first time sex. Not sure why you are disappointed. Be grateful she is so open with you

It is not pretty late. I did an informal poll of a few dozen people I know since this thread started and the earliest was 16. Range was 16-25 with most being around 19/20.

What kind of bizarre retort is this? I know most DCUM are uptight weirdos but even this is far out psychotic

DP

PP’s response was far from psychotic but reflects reality. 17 is not late at all. It is bang on average for girls. There will obviously be significance numbers who are younger or older than the average .


What is the average age to start having sex in the US?

Despite their behaviors, 90% of adolescents "agree that most young people have sex before they are really ready." The average age of first sexual intercourse in the United States is around 16.8 for males and around 17.2 for females, and that has been rising in recent years.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org › wiki
Adolescent sexuality in the United States - Wikipedia

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Anonymous wrote:Birth control now. Make sure she has access to condoms. But other than that… she’s going to do it whether you approve or not. Just make sure she’s safe

But condoms only work part of the time. They aren’t 100%

Right condoms are not effective for birth control but they do help with preventing STDs. Also there are now vaginal condoms for girls.

It would help to give guidance on how to use condoms properly.

We are blessed in DMV to have good ob gyn practices .

We also have conversations (with both DS and DD) about the emotional aspects of intimacy. There is ample research that casual sex is very risky and often related to poor self esteem. It is their bodies and up to them but we shared our views that we hoped they would be responsible and careful with both their feelings and other peoples’ feelings.

What to know about casual sex
https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/casual-sex

Medically reviewed by Lori Lawrenz, PsyD — By Carolyn Farnsworth on February 22, 2022

Risks
People who have a negative experience with casual sex may find themselves feeling regret, which was the focus of a 2016 study. The research suggests that males were more likely than females to regret missing out on an opportunity to have casual sex. In contrast, females were more likely to regret casual sex encounters.
Other research also indicates that females tend to regret casual sex more than males. A few of the key factors that cause regret after casual sex may include:
* feeling pressure to participate in sexual activities
* not enjoying the sexual encounter
* worrying about negative outcomes
The risk of STIs can also lead to negative emotional and physical health outcomes. Evidence suggests that more frequent casual sex may correlate with higher risks
of STIs due to sexual impulsivity and inconsistent condom use. Individuals looking to engage in casual sex should speak with a doctor about STI prevention strategies. Those who are aware of the risks and precautions can maximize the chance of a positive experience with casual sex.



How Does Casual Sex Affect Mental Health?
Author: Lea Flego Secord, MA, LMFT
Medical Reviewer: Kristen Fuller, MD
Published: September 28, 2023


Common drawbacks of casual sex include:
* Sexually transmitted infections (STIs)
* Unplanned pregnancy.
* The economic cost of safe-sex practices.
* Difficulty separating sex from romantic attachment.
* Increased stress and anxiety.
* Feeling used or low self-worth.
* Unsatisfying relationships or feeling empty.
More items...•Sep 28, 2023



Understanding the “Why” for High Risk Behavior: Adolescent Girls’ Motivations for Sex
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5633494/

Dianne Morrison-Beedy, PhD, RN, WHNP, FNAP, FAANP, FAAN,* Linsey Grove, MPH, CPH, CHES, Ming Ji, PhD, and Elizabeth Baker, PhD, MPH, CPH

Identifying why girls participate in safe and risky sexual behaviors is key to developing successful intervention strategies. This study identified motivations for sex in 738 girls enrolled in the Health Improvement Project for Teens (HIPTeens) RCT and analyzed differences in sex motives among at-risk subgroups. Sexually-active girls, ages 15–19 years, were recruited from urban community-based settings….

Adolescent sexual and reproductive health risks continue to pose challenges to overall improvement of adolescent well-being. HIV continues to negatively impact health outcomes in adolescents and young adults with the majority of new HIV cases in young women being linked to heterosexual sex (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention [CDC], 2015a). African American females continue to be disproportionately represented in new HIV diagnoses more than any other female racial group (CDC, 2016). Just as alarming, the CDC has estimated that almost 1 in 4 adolescents have contracted a sexually transmitted infection (STI; CDC, 2015b). Similarly, despite gains in reducing unintended pregnancy over the past decade, disparities in STIs and unintended pregnancies persist in minority adolescents 15 to 24 years of age.

Hispanic and non-Hispanic Black adolescent females have the highest teen pregnancy rates compared among other racial and ethnic groups (National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy, 2011). Worldwide, sexual risk behaviors continue to be impacted by complex demographic and biological factors (e.g., age, pregnancy, race, parental status.

Adolescence is a time of tremendous biological and personal development and, for some teens, poor behavioral decision-making or risk-taking can be compounded by the challenges of depression and drug and alcohol use. A 2012 study by the Center for Behavioral Health Statistics and Quality found that girls ages 12 to 17 were almost three times more likely than their male peers to experience a major depressive event in the span of a year ..,

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Anonymous wrote:OP, not only does this sound very normal, but 17 is pretty late on first time sex. Not sure why you are disappointed. Be grateful she is so open with you

It is not pretty late. I did an informal poll of a few dozen people I know since this thread started and the earliest was 16. Range was 16-25 with most being around 19/20.

What kind of bizarre retort is this? I know most DCUM are uptight weirdos but even this is far out psychotic

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Birth control now. Make sure she has access to condoms. But other than that… she’s going to do it whether you approve or not. Just make sure she’s safe

But condoms only work part of the time. They aren’t 100%

Right condoms are not effective for birth control but they do help with preventing STDs. Also there are now vaginal condoms for girls.

It would help to give guidance on how to use condoms properly.

We are blessed in DMV to have good ob gyn practices .

We also have conversations (with both DS and DD) about the emotional aspects of intimacy. There is ample research that casual sex is very risky and often related to poor self esteem. It is their bodies and up to them but we shared our views that we hoped they would be responsible and careful with both their feelings and other peoples’ feelings.

Anonymous wrote:Birth control now. Make sure she has access to condoms. But other than that… she’s going to do it whether you approve or not. Just make sure she’s safe

But condoms only work part of the time. They aren’t 100%

Anonymous wrote:IUD??? I would never. Just use BC pill. Back up if missed one.

IUDs have changed. They don’t have all the problems of the past. They even make special small ones just for teen girls.

Anonymous wrote:IUD??? I would never. Just use BC pill. Back up if missed one.

American pediatric association recommends IUDs over BC pills as most teens do not maintain the regularity needed for them to be effective:

Condoms are still needed to protect against STDs.

IUD??? I would never. Just use BC pill. Back up if missed one.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, not only does this sound very normal, but 17 is pretty late on first time sex. Not sure why you are disappointed. Be grateful she is so open with you

It is not pretty late. I did an informal poll of a few dozen people I know since this thread started and the earliest was 16. Range was 16-25 with most being around 19/20.

I was 14 when I lost my virginity and back then it was all fine with friends who were also losing their virginity in early high school, but after I graduated college if anyone asked me I told them 20yrs old.

You thinking people are just going to say 12, 14yrs old etc... and be judged by someone like you, that clearly likes to be nosy and ask questions and JUDGE people. They aren't telling you jack $hit. But I would never ask people this question, nor judge them for their answer. And I am certainly not going to judge OP's daughter. Kinda proud of her. Wish I was that kind of girl instead of romanticizing when the boys never do. Kudos to her

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Anonymous wrote:OP, not only does this sound very normal, but 17 is pretty late on first time sex. Not sure why you are disappointed. Be grateful she is so open with you

It is not pretty late. I did an informal poll of a few dozen people I know since this thread started and the earliest was 16. Range was 16-25 with most being around 19/20.

I am laughing at the response. You did a poll? You are randomly asking ppl. You know that 10-15% of ppl lie even in anonymous questionnaire

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Anonymous wrote:Birth control, birth control, birth control.
Plus, has condoms to give the boy, on top of other birth control.

The only possible protection from STDs comes from either condoms or abstinence (and the latter ship has sailed). So, condoms it is.

But, you need to also provide water-based lubricant. A major cause of condom failure is lack of lubrication.

Too many parents forget this crucial ingredient.

No teen needs lube if you teach the boy about proper foreplay. I was like a fire hydrant in my teens.

So OP should teach her daughter’s boyfriend how to engage in proper foreplay. This is an interesting proposition.

No, no— not her boyfriend. Just the guy with whom she is casually sleeping.

Ok. How do you propose that OP do this?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Birth control, birth control, birth control.
Plus, has condoms to give the boy, on top of other birth control.

The only possible protection from STDs comes from either condoms or abstinence (and the latter ship has sailed). So, condoms it is.

But, you need to also provide water-based lubricant. A major cause of condom failure is lack of lubrication.

Too many parents forget this crucial ingredient.

No teen needs lube if you teach the boy about proper foreplay. I was like a fire hydrant in my teens.

So OP should teach her daughter’s boyfriend how to engage in proper foreplay. This is an interesting proposition.

No, no— not her boyfriend. Just the guy with whom she is casually sleeping.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Birth control, birth control, birth control.
Plus, has condoms to give the boy, on top of other birth control.

The only possible protection from STDs comes from either condoms or abstinence (and the latter ship has sailed). So, condoms it is.

But, you need to also provide water-based lubricant. A major cause of condom failure is lack of lubrication.

Too many parents forget this crucial ingredient.

No teen needs lube if you teach the boy about proper foreplay. I was like a fire hydrant in my teens.

No mother would talk about their 17 yo DD in these terms. Thisbis either a man or teen talking -

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Birth control, birth control, birth control.
Plus, has condoms to give the boy, on top of other birth control.

The only possible protection from STDs comes from either condoms or abstinence (and the latter ship has sailed). So, condoms it is.

But, you need to also provide water-based lubricant. A major cause of condom failure is lack of lubrication.

Too many parents forget this crucial ingredient.

No teen needs lube if you teach the boy about proper foreplay. I was like a fire hydrant in my teens.

So OP should teach her daughter’s boyfriend how to engage in proper foreplay. This is an interesting proposition.

Anonymous wrote:She's already having sex, your only option is to make sure she's being safe and responsible about it. There's no putting the genie back in the bottle here.

But educate her about STD prevention and also supply her with plenty of condoms (and lube).