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ODU. Loved my experience there! Study Abroad and live close to the beach!

NP, YES, the beach. Thats what i have been trying to sell to my kid!! Convinced that she "must" go out of state.

If she's in the ODU range, tell her she hasn't earned the opportunity yo go outvof state.

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A kid with poor grades doesn’t get to have such stringent parameters about where they want to go.

What about B students? Can they get merit aid at the lower tiered larger schools? DC is not interested in SLAC.

DC wants to go OOS. I stated that this was expensive, and that if they really want to go OOS, then they need to have the grades to get merit aid. Then they'll get a few Bs and say, "But, I'm fine with Bs". Yea, ok, that's fine, but if you want to go oos, you will need better grades, and rigorous courses, which DC also doesn't want.

Yes your B student can go to college too. And prob to a really good school. Don’t let this board freak you out. B students are going to good schools too!

I know that they can get into a college. My question is: can they get decent merit aid at an oos not slac?

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Anonymous wrote:As a former high school teacher, I know of a lot of A students in high school who were hand-held by parents and ended up doing quite poorly in college.

This doesn’t surprise me at all.

See, I find this odd AF. To "know" this, the teacher needs to (1) figure out which kids in high school are "hand held" by their parents and (2) follow up on those kids to learn their college GPAs.

I don't know any teacher who's ever done that. Certainly none of my kids' teachers have any idea how any of them did in college.

This is just another example of someone talking out her a$$ because it's the way she wants the world to be.

Look in the mirror, Ms. This Can’t Possibly Be True

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ODU. Loved my experience there! Study Abroad and live close to the beach!

NP, YES, the beach. Thats what i have been trying to sell to my kid!! Convinced that she "must" go out of state.

If she's in the ODU range, tell her she hasn't earned the opportunity yo go outvof state.

+1

A kid with poor grades doesn’t get to have such stringent parameters about where they want to go.

What about B students? Can they get merit aid at the lower tiered larger schools? DC is not interested in SLAC.

DC wants to go OOS. I stated that this was expensive, and that if they really want to go OOS, then they need to have the grades to get merit aid. Then they'll get a few Bs and say, "But, I'm fine with Bs". Yea, ok, that's fine, but if you want to go oos, you will need better grades, and rigorous courses, which DC also doesn't want.

You can definately still get merit. This was 6 years ago---my 3.5UW, no APs, 1200 kid got into 8 schools ranked 70-130. Got 35% of tuition merit at 3 schools in the 70-90 range, and 70% tuition merit at one ranked ~120. Chose one of the 70-90 and we paid ~$40K each year. (total cost was ~$60-62K). Had we needed more merit we would have searched for more in the 100+ range and gotten the cost down to $20-25K as it is the on ranked 120 was only ~$30K/year.

The issue with OOS public universities is they rarely give merit, and if they do it is for tippy top students. So a 3.5UW student is not getting much merit. But if you do privates, you can definately find something. And the benefit is, most privates are smaller schools and provide more assistance for students. My kid struggle freshman year (attempted pre-med and realized it wasn't for them)....but they had professors coming to campus to give private tutoring at 7pm on the Sunday after thanksgiving---as in my kid got off their flight and ubered directly to campus and took their suitcase with them to the 1.5 hour session. This science prof actively worked to help students who came to them for help and wanted them to succeed. At a larger State university, it's not as likely to get this assistance freshman year.

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ODU. Loved my experience there! Study Abroad and live close to the beach!

NP, YES, the beach. Thats what i have been trying to sell to my kid!! Convinced that she "must" go out of state.

If she's in the ODU range, tell her she hasn't earned the opportunity yo go outvof state.

Good gravy. You are a nasty piece of work.

ODU has a lot to offer and it’s sad that people continue to have such a lousy attitude about it.

I took what the PPs were saying to be more along the lines of saying their DCs aren’t necessarily mature and/or hard working enough for the parent to be willing to financially support them going way out of state.

But I can see where it would also be construed as shitting on ODU

It was the former. From the start, we've told our 4.05 wgpa/no EC's kid that in-state schools were what we could afford.

If she were straight A's and a million EC's, maybe we'd bend and look at expensive out of state schools that are better than any of the in-state publics.

But she's a very good but not incredible student, so we're not. If she were a C student, no way in h-e-double hockey sticks would we send her out of state and pay full pay out of state costs.

I agree. If my kid could barely get Cs in HS, I would think the best path might just be to start at CC and live at home. Because Cs in HS is an indication of lack of maturity/self direction and other skills that are needed to be successful at a 4 year college. So I wouldn't spend $$$$ or want my kid to be too far away until I am certain it's worth it.

Nothing wrong with Cs in HS, but in reality, it is not difficult to get a 3.0+ in HS. And if it is, then a 4 year college would likely overwhelm your kid and do nothin for their self esteem. They would be much better served at a CC and possibly with a job and just taking courses part time while they mature and decide what they want to get out of college. Because CC will be much harder than HS, and the profs except your kid to do the work, turn it in on time, show up for exams, etc. There is no hand holding.

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Anonymous wrote:As a former high school teacher, I know of a lot of A students in high school who were hand-held by parents and ended up doing quite poorly in college.

This doesn’t surprise me at all.

See, I find this odd AF. To "know" this, the teacher needs to (1) figure out which kids in high school are "hand held" by their parents and (2) follow up on those kids to learn their college GPAs.

I don't know any teacher who's ever done that. Certainly none of my kids' teachers have any idea how any of them did in college.

This is just another example of someone talking out her a$$ because it's the way she wants the world to be.

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ODU. Loved my experience there! Study Abroad and live close to the beach!

NP, YES, the beach. Thats what i have been trying to sell to my kid!! Convinced that she "must" go out of state.

If she's in the ODU range, tell her she hasn't earned the opportunity yo go outvof state.

+1

A kid with poor grades doesn’t get to have such stringent parameters about where they want to go.

What about B students? Can they get merit aid at the lower tiered larger schools? DC is not interested in SLAC.

DC wants to go OOS. I stated that this was expensive, and that if they really want to go OOS, then they need to have the grades to get merit aid. Then they'll get a few Bs and say, "But, I'm fine with Bs". Yea, ok, that's fine, but if you want to go oos, you will need better grades, and rigorous courses, which DC also doesn't want.

Yes your B student can go to college too. And prob to a really good school. Don’t let this board freak you out. B students are going to good schools too!

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This board is so unhealthy for normal people.

Drew, UNM, Johnson and Wales

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ODU. Loved my experience there! Study Abroad and live close to the beach!

NP, YES, the beach. Thats what i have been trying to sell to my kid!! Convinced that she "must" go out of state.

If she's in the ODU range, tell her she hasn't earned the opportunity yo go outvof state.

+1

A kid with poor grades doesn’t get to have such stringent parameters about where they want to go.

What about B students? Can they get merit aid at the lower tiered larger schools? DC is not interested in SLAC.

DC wants to go OOS. I stated that this was expensive, and that if they really want to go OOS, then they need to have the grades to get merit aid. Then they'll get a few Bs and say, "But, I'm fine with Bs". Yea, ok, that's fine, but if you want to go oos, you will need better grades, and rigorous courses, which DC also doesn't want.

Yes your B student can go to college too. And prob to a really good school. Don’t let this board freak you out. B students are going to good schools too!

Washington and Jefferson College
Chatham
Duquesne
Albright
Robert Morris
Allegheny
St. Francis
Point Park
Carlow

Anonymous wrote:HBCUs

Not Howard. But yes to Bowie, Coppin or Morgan. Norfolk, VSU, Hampton.

Absolutely. There are so many schools and so many, many of them are hurting. They want your kid, so they can get your $. Don't stress about it.

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ODU. Loved my experience there! Study Abroad and live close to the beach!

NP, YES, the beach. Thats what i have been trying to sell to my kid!! Convinced that she "must" go out of state.

If she's in the ODU range, tell her she hasn't earned the opportunity yo go outvof state.

+1

A kid with poor grades doesn’t get to have such stringent parameters about where they want to go.

What about B students? Can they get merit aid at the lower tiered larger schools? DC is not interested in SLAC.

DC wants to go OOS. I stated that this was expensive, and that if they really want to go OOS, then they need to have the grades to get merit aid. Then they'll get a few Bs and say, "But, I'm fine with Bs". Yea, ok, that's fine, but if you want to go oos, you will need better grades, and rigorous courses, which DC also doesn't want.

I did not read the whole list - Mary Baldwin in Staunton, VA would be a good pick

Anonymous wrote:As a former high school teacher, I know of a lot of A students in high school who were hand-held by parents and ended up doing quite poorly in college.

This doesn’t surprise me at all.

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ODU. Loved my experience there! Study Abroad and live close to the beach!

NP, YES, the beach. Thats what i have been trying to sell to my kid!! Convinced that she "must" go out of state.

If she's in the ODU range, tell her she hasn't earned the opportunity yo go outvof state.

Good gravy. You are a nasty piece of work.

ODU has a lot to offer and it’s sad that people continue to have such a lousy attitude about it.

I took what the PPs were saying to be more along the lines of saying their DCs aren’t necessarily mature and/or hard working enough for the parent to be willing to financially support them going way out of state.

But I can see where it would also be construed as shitting on ODU

It was the former. From the start, we've told our 4.05 wgpa/no EC's kid that in-state schools were what we could afford.

If she were straight A's and a million EC's, maybe we'd bend and look at expensive out of state schools that are better than any of the in-state publics.

But she's a very good but not incredible student, so we're not. If she were a C student, no way in h-e-double hockey sticks would we send her out of state and pay full pay out of state costs.

I think that’s very valid, especially if you think the transition will be extremely hard and she may not be successful. I’d never pay OOS tuition plus room and board and all the other expenses, to have my kid too far away to even check up on; if they hadn’t proved that they were ready to handle it and I was worried about them ending up withdrawing or failing out.

Nothing wrong with them going to much closer, much cheaper, regionally known instead of nationally renowned public school. And it has nothing to do with my viewing the closer in state public as “inferior”. It’s just the wiser option for my kid. Much rather have them successfully graduate from there, rather than unsuccessfully attempting and wasting 40k+ over the span of a year.