Anonymous
Post 11/24/2023 08:17     Subject: Come here if your in laws do weird crap at thanksgiving.
Anonymous wrote:My MIL will serve family style when she hosts Thanksgiving. We serve buffet style, and I think this is easier for everyone. MIL hosted this year. She has a strange habit of using small bowels for sides and barely putting anything in them. So she has to jump up and run back to the kitchen and fill it up multiple times. She has plenty in the kitchen but she will put about 1 cup of stuffing or mashed potatoes in a serving bowl and it won’t make the way around the table. Also people take less of everything because they don’t know if that’s all there is.


Bowels?
Anonymous
Post 11/24/2023 08:17     Subject: Come here if your in laws do weird crap at thanksgiving.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Appetizer of ham slices rolled around dill pickle and cream cheese.

The place I worked at for several years would have pot lucks in the conference room a couple times a year. Those were almost always on a platter somewhere around the conference room table. Maybe it was the same one person bringing it every time, I don't know. I am pretty used to seeing those, so to me this sounds pretty normal.


Not normal.
Anonymous
Post 11/24/2023 08:16     Subject: Come here if your in laws do weird crap at thanksgiving.
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:MIL has been here since Tuesday. Tuesday night, we got a Costco rotisserie chicken for dinner. I put it out on a serving platter on the counter, as I was going to divide it out, but just as I was doing that, my daughter started crying in the other room so I went to see what was wrong (she stubbed her toe).

I come back to the kitchen to finish up what I was doing and I caught MIL ripping apart the rotisserie chicken with her bare hands, like a gd caveman.

I couldn't believe what I saw. This was dinner for four of us (DD, MIL, Me and DH) and she's in there tearing it up with her dirty hands.

I was so disgusted - I told her that chicken is hers now. Luckily we live in a condo next to a full service grocery store and I went to get another chicken.


How do you know she didn’t wash her hands first? Even with a knife, it’s hard to get all the meat off without touching it at all. You seem kinda psycho. Also rotisserie chicken is way too similar to turkey, two days apart.


Using her hands to separate meat for a communal meal is disgusting.


DP. It's the only way to get the meat off some bones.


I agree.
Anonymous
Post 11/24/2023 08:09     Subject: Re:Come here if your in laws do weird crap at thanksgiving.
I prefer family style because it feels more homey and less like a restaurant. But if we have more people than can fit ar one table - and we nearly always do these days - then we do buffet style. It just feels more impersonal. And I have picky young kids and yes, they are far more likely to try the food family style as it gets passed and others take it, talk about it, praise it.
Anonymous
Post 11/24/2023 08:02     Subject: Come here if your in laws do weird crap at thanksgiving.
And she will carve the turkey in the kitchen and barely put any turkey on the plate she brings to the dining room. Just why?
Anonymous
Post 11/24/2023 08:01     Subject: Come here if your in laws do weird crap at thanksgiving.
My MIL will serve family style when she hosts Thanksgiving. We serve buffet style, and I think this is easier for everyone. MIL hosted this year. She has a strange habit of using small bowels for sides and barely putting anything in them. So she has to jump up and run back to the kitchen and fill it up multiple times. She has plenty in the kitchen but she will put about 1 cup of stuffing or mashed potatoes in a serving bowl and it won’t make the way around the table. Also people take less of everything because they don’t know if that’s all there is.
Anonymous
Post 11/24/2023 07:59     Subject: Come here if your in laws do weird crap at thanksgiving.
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Anonymous wrote:Mine get up early and run 5k with a bunch of other people. Weirdos.


We have about 40-60 people over at 9am for yoga and then brunch. Everyone leaves by noon, unless they've been invited for Thanksgiving dinner. Then around 3pm a new wave of people come for Thanksgiving.


Sounds both stupid and like a covid super spreader event. Not sure why you're bragging about this. How many really, really important people make the dinner cut? Smh.


Hey Rip Van Winkle — it’s 2023.
Anonymous
Post 11/24/2023 07:28     Subject: Come here if your in laws do weird crap at thanksgiving.
Anonymous wrote:The family style is annoying because it dominates the conversation. Pass this, pass that. Don't the kids like green beans? We made this because we thought they'd like it. Aren't you hungry? This one eats and eats. You look like you're going to blow away. Could you pass that again?
The buffet - you line up, make your plate and eat it. Go back and get more if you want more. Talk about something more interesting at the table. And I don't even have an island, I use the induction surface as a serving area every night!


Older people who make comments like that do it regardless of how the food is served. My MIL is a case in point. We still do family style if the group is small and there is enough room on the table for all of the normal serving dishes. But more often there are so many people that the sides are all in large aluminum trays and take up the entire kitchen island. There wouldn't be room to put them all on the table(s) that we have shoved together to seat everyone. We usually have the fully extended dining table plus two folding tables. Usually there is wine, water, and rolls/butter on the table. The rest is in the kitchen.
Anonymous
Post 11/24/2023 07:06     Subject: Come here if your in laws do weird crap at thanksgiving.
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Anonymous wrote:MIL fusses and clucks and acts like she is the hostess. She actually does nothing and only gets in the way. No, she doesn’t want to host—when she does, she is a stressed-out nightmare. No, she doesn’t offer to bring anything. Yes, I’m sure it is that she wants attention and wants to feel important. She could at least bring a bottle of wine. Instead, she fusses around, questions everything, acts like she knows best, and is put out that we don’t stuff the bird. She doesn’t seem to grasp that no, you don’t need to put an unstuffed turkey in the oven at 7 a.m. and dry it completely out.



Can’t wait to see what your DIL says about you.



Haha, recognized yourself, eh?
Anonymous
Post 11/24/2023 07:04     Subject: Come here if your in laws do weird crap at thanksgiving.
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Anonymous wrote:Last Thanksgiving my SIL came out of her basement and handed DH a white-and-gold wrapped gift. It was a wedding gift -- from when he married his first wife. Thirty freaking years ago. We have been together 20 and married for seven. Apparently it was a gift from some family member that gave it to her to give them and she never did? And after all these years she felt Thanksgiving with me sitting next to him was the perfect time to come hand it to him?


What was the gift? Did it survive the 30 year wait to be opened?


I have no idea. I pitched a fit and told SIL to put it back wherever it came from, and to keep it or throw it out.

If DCUM had been around 30 years ago I bet the gift giver would have been posting on here about how they weren't ever going to speak to DH and his ex again because they didn't get a thank you note for a wedding gift. And then someone on here would chime in about with "Are you sure they got it?" and a bunch of people would post and say "Of course they got it, people are just rude, go no contact." Lol.


It’s been a long time, opening it could have been fun. I would have.
Anonymous
Post 11/24/2023 06:58     Subject: Come here if your in laws do weird crap at thanksgiving.
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:Last Thanksgiving my SIL came out of her basement and handed DH a white-and-gold wrapped gift. It was a wedding gift -- from when he married his first wife. Thirty freaking years ago. We have been together 20 and married for seven. Apparently it was a gift from some family member that gave it to her to give them and she never did? And after all these years she felt Thanksgiving with me sitting next to him was the perfect time to come hand it to him?


What was the gift? Did it survive the 30 year wait to be opened?


I have no idea. I pitched a fit and told SIL to put it back wherever it came from, and to keep it or throw it out.

If DCUM had been around 30 years ago I bet the gift giver would have been posting on here about how they weren't ever going to speak to DH and his ex again because they didn't get a thank you note for a wedding gift. And then someone on here would chime in about with "Are you sure they got it?" and a bunch of people would post and say "Of course they got it, people are just rude, go no contact." Lol.


Strange to me that you had a problem with this. I would just find the whole thing hilarious and fodder for a future story.
Anonymous
Post 11/24/2023 05:55     Subject: Come here if your in laws do weird crap at thanksgiving.
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Anonymous wrote:I’m team MIL rottisorie chicken - and I’m so very rarely team MIL anything. What an odd thing to get worked up about.


Same. I’ve posted 20+ years of MIL complaints and I’m team MIL on this one. Neither of us would have an issue with hands on the chicken and we both have lots of kitchen control issues.


Agreed. I actually feel sorry for your MIL. She was trying to help and you made her feel disgusting by going and getting another chicken. You are the rude one.


Same. Feel bad for the MIL here.
Anonymous
Post 11/24/2023 01:56     Subject: Come here if your in laws do weird crap at thanksgiving.
Its 2023. Please stop passing food! 🤣
Anonymous
Post 11/24/2023 01:53     Subject: Come here if your in laws do weird crap at thanksgiving.
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Anonymous wrote:Appetizer of ham slices rolled around dill pickle and cream cheese.

My DH is trying this now after I told him.


Going to buy this tomorrow! Sounds awesome!
Anonymous
Post 11/24/2023 01:45     Subject: Come here if your in laws do weird crap at thanksgiving.
Anonymous wrote:Appetizer of ham slices rolled around dill pickle and cream cheese.


Lol 🤣🤣🤣