Anonymous
Post 08/14/2023 17:26     Subject: My niece just screwed herself
Anonymous wrote:I am 49. I’ve taught DD13 that not only do you send a thank you note, you take the time to tell the person something about the gift that you especially like or what you plan on spending the money on. It is the polite, grateful thing to do.

OP, you are justified in feeling miffed for not being acknowledged for an incredibly generous gift.


This. Someone with some class.
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2023 17:16     Subject: My niece just screwed herself
You give a gift for the sentiment. Not to be acknowledged.

I've always send TY notes and appreciate them, for sure (but I'm "old"). But, I don't demand them or get my panties in a wad when I don't. That makes the gift about me.

And frankly, some of the self-absorbed replies on here are worse than not sending a TY note. Trust me. They're lucky to be "done" with you.
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2023 17:14     Subject: My niece just screwed herself
Anonymous wrote:She couldn't bother to send a thank you note for her wedding. I am done.


Anonymous
Post 08/14/2023 16:59     Subject: My niece just screwed herself
Totally with you OP. I am shocked by the absence of very basic good manners, and $1,000?!?! That deserves acknowledgement.

i'm sorry. No excuse for it in my book.
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2023 16:40     Subject: My niece just screwed herself
Anonymous wrote:I am 49. I’ve taught DD13 that not only do you send a thank you note, you take the time to tell the person something about the gift that you especially like or what you plan on spending the money on. It is the polite, grateful thing to do.

OP, you are justified in feeling miffed for not being acknowledged for an incredibly generous gift.
+1
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2023 15:58     Subject: My niece just screwed herself
I am 49. I’ve taught DD13 that not only do you send a thank you note, you take the time to tell the person something about the gift that you especially like or what you plan on spending the money on. It is the polite, grateful thing to do.

OP, you are justified in feeling miffed for not being acknowledged for an incredibly generous gift.
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2023 15:58     Subject: My niece just screwed herself
Anonymous wrote:You do not have a year to write a thank you note. https://emilypost.com/advice/wedding-thank-yous#:~:text=Contrary%20to%20popular%20myth%2C%20the,possible%2C%20set%20a%20daily%20goal.



Can't you read? You have one year in which to send a gift. https://www.vogue.com/article/weddings-wedding-gift-buying-spending-giving-rules#:~:text=How%20long%20do%20I%20have,give%20the%20gift%20the%20better.
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2023 15:08     Subject: My niece just screwed herself
A few years ago, My nephew and his new wife didn't send thank you cards. We flew across the country. No acknowledged for a trip or gift. I spend $500 on an item from the registry. It has been bugging me for two years if they even got it, so at Christmas this year I finally asked the wife so how did you like the gift. "Oh that, we took it back, we really didn't want it." I wish I never asked.
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2023 09:11     Subject: My niece just screwed herself
Anonymous wrote:I'm fascinated by all these people who keep track of thank you notes they receive or don't receive!
I'm pretty sure we sent out our wedding thank you notes within a month or so (although who knows... maybe they're in one of those boxes in the attic.)

But when I give a gift, I never ever think about receiving a thank you note for it later. When one comes I read it, smile a little, and toss it. If it doesn't come, I definitely don't notice. I'm not waiting around to ensure some friend or relative meets my gratitude expectations. That's just gross.


Most guests aren’t receiving $1k.
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2023 08:52     Subject: My niece just screwed herself
I'm fascinated by all these people who keep track of thank you notes they receive or don't receive!
I'm pretty sure we sent out our wedding thank you notes within a month or so (although who knows... maybe they're in one of those boxes in the attic.)

But when I give a gift, I never ever think about receiving a thank you note for it later. When one comes I read it, smile a little, and toss it. If it doesn't come, I definitely don't notice. I'm not waiting around to ensure some friend or relative meets my gratitude expectations. That's just gross.
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2023 08:38     Subject: My niece just screwed herself
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You sound unhinged. She may not even care to get another gift from you. How long has it been since the wedding?


Ha this is true. I definitely have some family members that I'd rather never have to deal with again because of their behavior.


Sure, but I imagine that you're also happy to deposit their gifts. lol.
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2023 08:28     Subject: My niece just screwed herself
News flash: niece does not care and won’t notice.
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2023 07:15     Subject: My niece just screwed herself
Anonymous wrote:You do not have a year to write a thank you note. https://emilypost.com/advice/wedding-thank-yous#:~:text=Contrary%20to%20popular%20myth%2C%20the,possible%2C%20set%20a%20daily%20goal.


Emily Post also says you don't have a year to give a wedding present, so decide whose rules you want to play by.
Anonymous
Post 08/13/2023 18:41     Subject: My niece just screwed herself
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:When was the wedding? Etiquette says you have three months to send thank you notes.


No it doesn’t.


Np but I remember 3 months as well.
Anonymous
Post 08/13/2023 18:41     Subject: My niece just screwed herself
You do not have a year to write a thank you note. https://emilypost.com/advice/wedding-thank-yous#:~:text=Contrary%20to%20popular%20myth%2C%20the,possible%2C%20set%20a%20daily%20goal.