Women who marry and keep last name are hedging their bets.

My niece married her long term boyfriend. My daughters think he is Gay.

My Catholic niece I noticed did not have a church wedding or priest, did not take his last name and they rented instead of buying. He turned red when someone asked about kids.

On other hand my wife’s friend married a Trader on Wall Street from Greenwich CT (she was a nurse, parents retired cop and SAHM in a small cape)

She had a 300 person Catholic Church ceremony, took his name, they bought a house right away and a kid right away. She attended big off-site work events, joined country club, hired maids and Nannie’s. She was Mrs. (His last name).

What is wrong with her being proud?

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Anonymous wrote:Insisting on "Mrs.," especially in a professional setting, is something conservative women are into. It makes them look about as impressive as a war on Xmas rant. I don't mind when people use Mrs. bc then I can tell they are a raging Republican and avoid most topics.

Hahaha. No. I live in the very liberal PG County. I know many very, very Democratic women ranging from left leaning to raging Progressives who use Mrs. <his last name>. Making the choice that you want to have your entire family have the same last name and choosing to go with the traditional choice as the best option for your family does not make you a conservative woman. No single issue or practice defines your entire philosophy.

And then your daughters marry and take a different name?

Our daughters marry and then get to choose what they prefer for them and their families. Children grow up in the world around them. They will see the vast number of choices that families have elected to use while they are growing up. By the time that they marry themselves, they will have been exposed to women who kept their name, women who changed their name, families where both spouses chose a new family name, spouses where the parents kept their name and chose a new family name for the children and so on. My kids are only in middle school and they already know many kids in families who made extremely different choices regarding names. My son is good friends with a boy from a Hispanic family. The parents kept heir names and the children have two last names, both mother and father surnames in the Spanish tradition.

You sound like you control your daughter to only think like you do. In our family, our children are exposed to all the different choices, we explain the choices we made and why and they know the choices their friends' families made and they get to make their own choices for what works for them. We advise and teach; they choose.

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Anonymous wrote:Insisting on "Mrs.," especially in a professional setting, is something conservative women are into. It makes them look about as impressive as a war on Xmas rant. I don't mind when people use Mrs. bc then I can tell they are a raging Republican and avoid most topics.

Hahaha. No. I live in the very liberal PG County. I know many very, very Democratic women ranging from left leaning to raging Progressives who use Mrs. <his last name>. Making the choice that you want to have your entire family have the same last name and choosing to go with the traditional choice as the best option for your family does not make you a conservative woman. No single issue or practice defines your entire philosophy.

And then your daughters marry and take a different name?

We should ban that practice. Perhaps a Constitutional amendment.

No. I go by Ms. when asked, but I want the same last name as my husband and children.

Plus it's more practical. I hate trying to figure out who is which kid's mom when the last names don't match up.

Honestly, I mostly do it to piss off people like you.

Also, what else would someone call me? My husband has a title, so calling him by it and me Larla is super disrespectful.

If this is yet another example of the inane minutae and BS people debate these days, it must mean it is time for World War 3 so that we have to live with actually true hardship again.

Life is so stupidly easy these days that people spend and waste actual time think about and arguing over crap like pronouns, bathroom usage, Latino vs LatinX, and Mrs. vs Ms..

Bring on WW3 please.

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Anonymous wrote:Respect of women.

I guess if they want a title that is an abbreviation of mistress they should go for it, and they should keep their fingers cross that their husband doesn't find an extra mistress.

Makes sense. If we forced women to stop using Mrs we could slash divorce rates.

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Anonymous wrote:Insisting on "Mrs.," especially in a professional setting, is something conservative women are into. It makes them look about as impressive as a war on Xmas rant. I don't mind when people use Mrs. bc then I can tell they are a raging Republican and avoid most topics.

Hahaha. No. I live in the very liberal PG County. I know many very, very Democratic women ranging from left leaning to raging Progressives who use Mrs. <his last name>. Making the choice that you want to have your entire family have the same last name and choosing to go with the traditional choice as the best option for your family does not make you a conservative woman. No single issue or practice defines your entire philosophy.

And then your daughters marry and take a different name?

We should ban that practice. Perhaps a Constitutional amendment.

What is wrong with Mrs. You can use it if you want, or you can use Ms. More options.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a teacher and they call me everything. Mrs. Last Ms. Last Miss Last or just Miss. The only ones I’m not okay with are Mx or just my first name.

What is “Mx” ?

It's pronounced like the racial slur "micks." Why they chose a racial slur as the new way to signal a progressive gender identity, I cannot say.

OMG. I am sooo over this nonsense. And the whole LatinX thing seems universally hated in the Latino community.

Same here. This progressive political identity nonsense just pits people against each other and focuses on symbolism rather than actual wins. I'll never go by Mx. It's unnecessary and foolish when we already have Ms. But it gives a platform to the progressive do-nothings who rely on public outrage rather than actually accomplishing harder wins that matter for women, like abortion healthcare rights.

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I guess if they want a title that is an abbreviation of mistress they should go for it, and they should keep their fingers cross that their husband doesn't find an extra mistress.

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Anonymous wrote:Insisting on "Mrs.," especially in a professional setting, is something conservative women are into. It makes them look about as impressive as a war on Xmas rant. I don't mind when people use Mrs. bc then I can tell they are a raging Republican and avoid most topics.

Hahaha. No. I live in the very liberal PG County. I know many very, very Democratic women ranging from left leaning to raging Progressives who use Mrs. <his last name>. Making the choice that you want to have your entire family have the same last name and choosing to go with the traditional choice as the best option for your family does not make you a conservative woman. No single issue or practice defines your entire philosophy.

And then your daughters marry and take a different name?

I'm noticing at both my kids schools several teachers (including ones in their 30s and 40s) go by mrs. x. I personally can't fathom why someone would pick that over Ms. Is it some pride in communicating you're married? Just a preference for tradition? It's just so strange to me when we have Ms. to cover all women like we have Mr. to cover all men.

So if YOU prefer to be called mrs x.....why?

What is wrong with being proud that you are married? Why are you so judgy?

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Anonymous wrote:Insisting on "Mrs.," especially in a professional setting, is something conservative women are into. It makes them look about as impressive as a war on Xmas rant. I don't mind when people use Mrs. bc then I can tell they are a raging Republican and avoid most topics.

You sound like a total idiot. As if this is something only Republican women are into. Uh huh.

+1 Her plan won't even work because I'm a Republican who goes by Ms. and I know lots of Dems who go by Mrs. But I do love how she displays her feminist ideals by marginalizing almost half the women in this country.

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Anonymous wrote:Insisting on "Mrs.," especially in a professional setting, is something conservative women are into. It makes them look about as impressive as a war on Xmas rant. I don't mind when people use Mrs. bc then I can tell they are a raging Republican and avoid most topics.

Hahaha. No. I live in the very liberal PG County. I know many very, very Democratic women ranging from left leaning to raging Progressives who use Mrs. <his last name>. Making the choice that you want to have your entire family have the same last name and choosing to go with the traditional choice as the best option for your family does not make you a conservative woman. No single issue or practice defines your entire philosophy.

Women should not be allowed the freedom to choose a sexist title like “Mrs.”

My body, my choice, except for titles.

- and experimental vaccines.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m Gen X and prefer Ms. Mrs. is my MIL and always sounded weird. I don’t care what people use when they address me, but I’ll pick Ms. Out of a drop down list.

I pick Dr. And encourage my girls to circumnavigate the issue the same way.

I’m not calling you Dr. in person unless you are my professor or physician.

I would hope an adult would call me by my first name. A child should use the proper title, but if you want to raise them that way; it's your prerogative.

For you- please don't call me anything.

I grew up calling my friends’ moms mrs. last name, but all the kids in my/my children’s social group call moms Miss first name (regardless of marital status).