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Anonymous wrote:A plaque? I’m dying! 😂

I’m kind of curious what plaque would be appropriate here, too! Like what does a plaque even say?

Right? I thought this was hilarious. Um, you think marrying into your family is some kind of prize to be won, some huge reward worthy of a trophy or plaque?! Like, OK.

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Anonymous wrote:Just because someone doesn’t wear jewelry doesn’t necessarily mean they don’t want to own any.

Yes it does.

Thank you! I thought I was the only one who caught this! Hahahaha!

Anonymous wrote:A plaque? I’m dying! 😂

I’m kind of curious what plaque would be appropriate here, too! Like what does a plaque even say?

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Anonymous wrote:I would just give her a piece of jewelry based on the meaning/significance even though she doesn’t wear jewelry. I don’t really wear jewelry, but I still appreciate that I have some family heirloom-type pieces because they represent a meaningful connection.

Yes, start off her joining the family by demonstrating to her that you dismiss her individual preferences. Gifts are about you and your family, after all. Not her. She has no value as a person outside of her becoming a Smith.

You sound lovely. Why would that show that OP is dismissing her individual preferences? OP would explain why it’s meaningful and why she’s giving it to her. You can do both — share a family heirloom and also respect her individual preferences via other gifts. I was expressing that I, a non jewelry wearer, would still be touched to receive a family jewelry heirloom from my future MIL.

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Anonymous wrote:What do you mean she doesn’t wear jewelry? Are her ears pierced? If so, then she wears jewelry. Why not buy diamond studs or pearl studs? Doesn’t every woman need at least one set of nice earrings for dressy occasions?

This is ridiculous. She said her DIL doesn't wear jewelry. She should respect that. Not all women wear jewelry. You're projecting. The only jewelry I wear are my wedding and engagement rings. I left my pierced ears close years ago because I never wore earrings.

OP might have regretfully given other familial jewelry considered valuable by that measure, for all you know.

As long as you are equal amongst DILs, OP.

Don’t make one hate you unnecessarily.

This thread is making my day . Thank you OP!!!

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Anonymous wrote:What about an electronic picture frame? You can preload childhood pictures of your son, and current pictures of the couple maybe even conspire with her mother to get pictures from her childhood. (just them, though - there may be times they won’t want to look over and see you or other extended family members looking back. If they want you in the rotation, they can add you in). Then, over time, they can add pictures of the life they build together.

Omg 😂

I disagree with you and would have loved this gift.

Then you can buy one for like 45 dollars from Bed Bath and Beyond

Anonymous wrote:It is ok to buy one pot without the bride’s approval or list. It’s a gift, why are you so controlling over what a person gives? A thank you is a nice response. I would think that some brides aren’t into this brand or even if they were - it is still a thoughtful present and the intent is sincere.

It was just a suggestion

Sure, but don't be hurt or mad if she returns it for the one she wants, if any. I've seen Le Crueset on two young couples' registries. Neither of them wanted pretty embellishments like hearts. They wanted a solid particular color(s) and one liked a matte color.

Anonymous wrote:Just because someone doesn’t wear jewelry doesn’t necessarily mean they don’t want to own any.

Yes it does.

A plaque? I’m dying! 😂

Just because someone doesn’t wear jewelry doesn’t necessarily mean they don’t want to own any.

It is ok to buy one pot without the bride’s approval or list. It’s a gift, why are you so controlling over what a person gives? A thank you is a nice response. I would think that some brides aren’t into this brand or even if they were - it is still a thoughtful present and the intent is sincere.

It was just a suggestion

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A pretty Le Creuset with family recipe cards inside

Why would SHE carry on YOUR family recipes? If you want to give a gift like this, give it to the bride or groom hailing from your actual family. Or at the very least, that is a couple’s gift.

FIL had the audacity to ask me how many times I’ve made his family’s cabbage roll recipe. I said zero because I don’t like cabbage. He huffed, “Well Tim loves it!” I said if Tim loves it so much, you can ask him how many times he’s made it. Turns out the answer was also zero.

Anonymous wrote:What do you mean she doesn’t wear jewelry? Are her ears pierced? If so, then she wears jewelry. Why not buy diamond studs or pearl studs? Doesn’t every woman need at least one set of nice earrings for dressy occasions?

This is ridiculous. She said her DIL doesn't wear jewelry. She should respect that. Not all women wear jewelry. You're projecting. The only jewelry I wear are my wedding and engagement rings. I left my pierced ears close years ago because I never wore earrings.