Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The DWs on here plotting to harm the OW sound just as crazy as the OW. I actually feel bad for the cheating spouse. All the DH probably wants is some NSA sex with someone who isn’t crazy and hysterical. Instead he gets sex from a crazy and then another crazy plotting to blow up someone’s life.

Are you serious?

What kind of mental gymnastics do you need to do to come up with this twisted interpretation.

When you’re an outsider it’s a lot easier to look at a situation and see how everyone involved is at fault and acting crazy. Emotions are high and anytime you’re trying to purposely harm someone else you aren’t in a good place. I don’t care what someone did to you - any women trying to notify someone else for the sole purpose of hurting them is unwell.

Unwell, really?

Again, it's that internalized misogyny. Let's say your friend's kid bullied your kid. Do you have to go to therapy and make sure you don't have any anger about it before you tell your friend? Or do you just tell them because they have a right to know, and your (understandable) feelings about it are irrelevant? Making the betrayed woman pass some kind of intention purity test before she can act is really offensive. You don't get to judge her emotional reactions which are basically programmed into her by biology anyway.

Anonymous wrote:Of course the married man is risking blowing up his won life the minute he steps out.

The OW is just collateral damage. She never made vows to his wife nor is she a role model for his children.

Cheating is ALL on the cheater.

And same for the married women they bang. She is risking blowing up her life too. Somehow though, the posters on this board like to give her a pass. It's always the big, bad mean man and his psycho wife...never her fault for being the other half of the affair.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The DWs on here plotting to harm the OW sound just as crazy as the OW. I actually feel bad for the cheating spouse. All the DH probably wants is some NSA sex with someone who isn’t crazy and hysterical. Instead he gets sex from a crazy and then another crazy plotting to blow up someone’s life.

Are you serious?

What kind of mental gymnastics do you need to do to come up with this twisted interpretation.

When you’re an outsider it’s a lot easier to look at a situation and see how everyone involved is at fault and acting crazy. Emotions are high and anytime you’re trying to purposely harm someone else you aren’t in a good place. I don’t care what someone did to you - any women trying to notify someone else for the sole purpose of hurting them is unwell.

How do you know her/his purpose? Some notify the other betrayed spouse out of sympathy and for help/info in the situation. Anyone banging someone else's spouse is hurting someone else. Period. They know that, but they like to think they have no moral culpability.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The DWs on here plotting to harm the OW sound just as crazy as the OW. I actually feel bad for the cheating spouse. All the DH probably wants is some NSA sex with someone who isn’t crazy and hysterical. Instead he gets sex from a crazy and then another crazy plotting to blow up someone’s life.

Are you serious?

What kind of mental gymnastics do you need to do to come up with this twisted interpretation.

When you’re an outsider it’s a lot easier to look at a situation and see how everyone involved is at fault and acting crazy. Emotions are high and anytime you’re trying to purposely harm someone else you aren’t in a good place. I don’t care what someone did to you - any women trying to notify someone else for the sole purpose of hurting them is unwell.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m in a dead bedroom situation and am dying! Any good or positive affair stories?
I’ve got enough of the negative, it’s deterred me for years. I’m hanging on by a thread.

Have some class and just get out of the marriage.

I’m sure the kids wouldn’t say that. Just sayin……..

I know plenty of adults who are glad their parents divorced when they were kids, because it made their life less stressful than being around two parents who don't get along

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am sitting back and waiting for the right time to drop the bomb on my husband's AP by telling her husband. I couldn't give a sh*t what happens to her, her husband or kids, because she didn't give a sh*t what she did to mine. In addition to the affair, she went on a campaign to destroy my husband when he ended it. She is a complete bi-polar psycho who tried to get my husband fired by spreading lies about him (unrelated to their relationship). My family was nearly destroyed because of this woman. She brought this on herself. Her kids and husband should hate her, and I hope someday they do. And I'll be glad to have a part in it. My husband sucks too, but he's already paying for his part in all of this.

Interesting that you think she isn’t. You don’t know what she has been through any more than she knows what you’ve been through.

How long do you plan to sit on this time bomb?

She know what I’ve been through because she has orchestrated all the drama. She has seen the carnage. I don’t know what she’s going through, but her life seems like it hasn’t missed a beat. Honestly, I think she has enjoyed destroying us.

You sound very dumb. Your external view of someone else’s life can’t tell you anything about their interior.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am sitting back and waiting for the right time to drop the bomb on my husband's AP by telling her husband. I couldn't give a sh*t what happens to her, her husband or kids, because she didn't give a sh*t what she did to mine. In addition to the affair, she went on a campaign to destroy my husband when he ended it. She is a complete bi-polar psycho who tried to get my husband fired by spreading lies about him (unrelated to their relationship). My family was nearly destroyed because of this woman. She brought this on herself. Her kids and husband should hate her, and I hope someday they do. And I'll be glad to have a part in it. My husband sucks too, but he's already paying for his part in all of this.

Interesting that you think she isn’t. You don’t know what she has been through any more than she knows what you’ve been through.

How long do you plan to sit on this time bomb?

She know what I’ve been through because she has orchestrated all the drama. She has seen the carnage. I don’t know what she’s going through, but her life seems like it hasn’t missed a beat. Honestly, I think she has enjoyed destroying us.

FFS your husband is the one who destroyed your “us.” You’re pathetic.

Of course the married man is risking blowing up his won life the minute he steps out.

The OW is just collateral damage. She never made vows to his wife nor is she a role model for his children.

Cheating is ALL on the cheater.

Anonymous wrote:The DWs on here plotting to harm the OW sound just as crazy as the OW. I actually feel bad for the cheating spouse. All the DH probably wants is some NSA sex with someone who isn’t crazy and hysterical. Instead he gets sex from a crazy and then another crazy plotting to blow up someone’s life.

Are you serious?

What kind of mental gymnastics do you need to do to come up with this twisted interpretation.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am sitting back and waiting for the right time to drop the bomb on my husband's AP by telling her husband. I couldn't give a sh*t what happens to her, her husband or kids, because she didn't give a sh*t what she did to mine. In addition to the affair, she went on a campaign to destroy my husband when he ended it. She is a complete bi-polar psycho who tried to get my husband fired by spreading lies about him (unrelated to their relationship). My family was nearly destroyed because of this woman. She brought this on herself. Her kids and husband should hate her, and I hope someday they do. And I'll be glad to have a part in it. My husband sucks too, but he's already paying for his part in all of this.

You realize you’re just as psycho, right? Not saying I wouldn’t feel the same way, but it truly sounds like you’ve gone off the rails and need to talk to a professional now.

I have a friend whose husband's OW really was psycho. I'm going to guess that since being a single OW is a risky and potentially self-destructive proposition, there may be more mental illness among the people who go down that road. So let's assume that the PP is telling the truth about the OW's actions after the affair ended (hell hath no fury etc.). The majority of responses here fall toward telling the OBS anyway. So is feeling schadenfreude about the thought of OW's life being blown up just like she tried to blow up the exMM's life really "psycho"? I wouldn't even call the PP petty. I'd just say that she *could* choose to be the bigger person, and I'd like to think that I would, but I don't think there's anything shameful about her feelings and choices here. She's just supposed to be a dainty woman and claim that she wouldn't get any pleasure out of blowing up the OW's life I guess, and instead she's just being honest.

Anonymous wrote:I am sitting back and waiting for the right time to drop the bomb on my husband's AP by telling her husband. I couldn't give a sh*t what happens to her, her husband or kids, because she didn't give a sh*t what she did to mine. In addition to the affair, she went on a campaign to destroy my husband when he ended it. She is a complete bi-polar psycho who tried to get my husband fired by spreading lies about him (unrelated to their relationship). My family was nearly destroyed because of this woman. She brought this on herself. Her kids and husband should hate her, and I hope someday they do. And I'll be glad to have a part in it. My husband sucks too, but he's already paying for his part in all of this.

You realize you’re just as psycho, right? Not saying I wouldn’t feel the same way, but it truly sounds like you’ve gone off the rails and need to talk to a professional now.

Anonymous wrote:The DWs on here plotting to harm the OW sound just as crazy as the OW. I actually feel bad for the cheating spouse. All the DH probably wants is some NSA sex with someone who isn’t crazy and hysterical. Instead he gets sex from a crazy and then another crazy plotting to blow up someone’s life.

Goes to show how delusional and stupid men can get when they go around thinking with their little heads.

If you are female what would happen if you just mounted your partner and took him for a ride?

Anonymous wrote:The DWs on here plotting to harm the OW sound just as crazy as the OW. I actually feel bad for the cheating spouse. All the DH probably wants is some NSA sex with someone who isn’t crazy and hysterical. Instead he gets sex from a crazy and then another crazy plotting to blow up someone’s life.

Yes, what a poor man. So sad. Not sure I've ever heard such a tragic tale.

The DWs on here plotting to harm the OW sound just as crazy as the OW. I actually feel bad for the cheating spouse. All the DH probably wants is some NSA sex with someone who isn’t crazy and hysterical. Instead he gets sex from a crazy and then another crazy plotting to blow up someone’s life.