Anonymous wrote:Responding to questions above: I consider it for my own confidence. Recently divorced never really dated and ex spouse was not a big size fan. All his women were thin and athletic including the new GF who is total AA based on her photos
The issue is I am foreign born and so many women in the US have fake boobs! I can distinguish them in the summer wearing crop tops. I do get many second dates but few third dates. Not sure if that’s because of the boobs or me not being ready to date. The men I meet say I am very beautiful bit there is no continuation.
Plastic surgeon just honestly thinks I look great without big boobs and that I will appear “too heavy” with silicone. Also it opens Pandora box with future surgeries: one might end up higher than the other, they can contract and disfigure breast, harden etc. My mom’s boobs grew after she turned 50, and that would likely happen to me as well.
New poster. OP, you know the answer here. Listen to the surgeon. The surgeon has seen many, many women's breasts and bodies and understands, in ways you or I can't, what looks appropriate on your frame. The fact you know already that your mother's breasts grew later in life is valuable information against doing this; why would you, having this information, choose to ignore it? Please listen to the professional here and instead of getting surgery, please consider seriously getting some counseling around your body image issues.
OP, have you also considered: You mention here, very prominently, how your ex preferred very small breasts? Can you look at your own post and consider that maybe you are letting HIS preference, and your own desire maybe to be different from how you were with him, drive your interest in this inadvisable surgery? You write, "All his women were thin and athletic including the new GF who is total AA based on her photos." Please, before you undergo surgery -- and it's pretty serious surgery, and things can go wrong -- consider that maybe you are actually too focused on how "all his women" have looked and you want to be the opposite. It sounds as if he cheated? Even if he didn't, the fact you're seeing photos of your EX-husband's current GF is pretty telling. Please don't let the baggage of a bad marriage, and the fact your'e still hyper aware of your ex's GFs past and present, drive you to do something that even a surgeon says is a bad idea. Note this too: The surgeon would make $$ off doing this, OP. Yet he's saying not to do it. Surely that means he really does believe it's a bad idea.