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Anonymous wrote:and I don't know what to do about it. It is a great school but I am miserable.My kids seem happy and that its what matters. I am miserable

Translation: I’m a striver and the rich cool parents haven’t invited me into their orbit. Sorry your social climbing scheme hasn’t worked. If you didn’t have a lot of rich outgoing friends before your kid went to private school — via your neighborhood, career, country club, college and private school alum network, travel sport circuit, church or synagogue — why would you have them now? You have nothing in common, you don’t speak their language, you don’t know so and so and so and so. And frankly, you’re delusional on what private school provides you as a parent. It doesn’t guarantee any parent some brand new social orbit. And anyone who goes in expecting or fishing for that is pegged a social climbing worm from the get-go.

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Anonymous wrote:and I don't know what to do about it. It is a great school but I am miserable.My kids seem happy and that its what matters. I am miserable

Translation: I’m a striver and the rich cool parents haven’t invited me into their orbit. Sorry your social climbing scheme hasn’t worked. If you didn’t have a lot of rich outgoing friends before your kid went to private school — via your neighborhood, career, country club, college and private school alum network, travel sport circuit, church or synagogue — why would you have them now? You have nothing in common, you don’t speak their language, you don’t know so and so and so and so. And frankly, you’re delusional on what private school provides you as a parent. It doesn’t guarantee any parent some brand new social orbit. And anyone who goes in expecting or fishing for that is pegged a social climbing worm from the get-go.

Translation: I'm a horrible human being who will judge you based on your job, clothes, country club, friends, school. I am one of those moms who will give you my elevator pitch on where I went to college twenty years ago, every job I have had since then, and I'll be sure to let you know how rich I am. I am shallow and don't have much depth as a human being so when I see you don't have value you to me I'll ignore you and pretend you don't exist. But I sure am hell nice to people who I deem rich and worthy and you'll see me pandering and lollygagging around them. So if your neighborhood, career, country club, college and private school alumni network aren't up to mine don't bother talking to me.

Are you new here, sweetie? Welcome to Washington. Don’t act like some babe in the woods when you moved to the most ruthlessly competitive, superficial and status and power obsessed place in the Western Hemisphere. Then chose to send your kid to an even more stratified private school. As for OP, if nobody liked him/her before the kid was in private, why would they magically like them now? Nobody likes a thirsty low born interloper; especially a creepy 30, 40 or 50 something one (we’re a long ways from being teenagers first week of college). If you’re that hard up for a friend, go get a spaniel.

DP. Holy shit are you okay? You sound off the hinges psychotic and mean. Op never said no one disliked them before private. They are saying they want to feel welcome at their kids new private. I suspect you may be part of the group she is referring to and now you feel you need to defend yourself and attack op? Please be a better person.

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Anonymous wrote:and I don't know what to do about it. It is a great school but I am miserable.My kids seem happy and that its what matters. I am miserable

Translation: I’m a striver and the rich cool parents haven’t invited me into their orbit. Sorry your social climbing scheme hasn’t worked. If you didn’t have a lot of rich outgoing friends before your kid went to private school — via your neighborhood, career, country club, college and private school alum network, travel sport circuit, church or synagogue — why would you have them now? You have nothing in common, you don’t speak their language, you don’t know so and so and so and so. And frankly, you’re delusional on what private school provides you as a parent. It doesn’t guarantee any parent some brand new social orbit. And anyone who goes in expecting or fishing for that is pegged a social climbing worm from the get-go.

Translation: I'm a horrible human being who will judge you based on your job, clothes, country club, friends, school. I am one of those moms who will give you my elevator pitch on where I went to college twenty years ago, every job I have had since then, and I'll be sure to let you know how rich I am. I am shallow and don't have much depth as a human being so when I see you don't have value you to me I'll ignore you and pretend you don't exist. But I sure am hell nice to people who I deem rich and worthy and you'll see me pandering and lollygagging around them. So if your neighborhood, career, country club, college and private school alumni network aren't up to mine don't bother talking to me.

Are you new here, sweetie? Welcome to Washington. Don’t act like some babe in the woods when you moved to the most ruthlessly competitive, superficial and status and power obsessed place in the Western Hemisphere. Then chose to send your kid to an even more stratified private school. As for OP, if nobody liked him/her before the kid was in private, why would they magically like them now? Nobody likes a thirsty low born interloper; especially a creepy 30, 40 or 50 something one (we’re a long ways from being teenagers first week of college). If you’re that hard up for a friend, go get a spaniel.

DP. Holy shit are you okay? You sound off the hinges psychotic and mean. Op never said no one disliked them before private. They are saying they want to feel welcome at their kids new private. I suspect you may be part of the group she is referring to and now you feel you need to defend yourself and attack op? Please be a better person.

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Anonymous wrote:and I don't know what to do about it. It is a great school but I am miserable.My kids seem happy and that its what matters. I am miserable

Translation: I’m a striver and the rich cool parents haven’t invited me into their orbit. Sorry your social climbing scheme hasn’t worked. If you didn’t have a lot of rich outgoing friends before your kid went to private school — via your neighborhood, career, country club, college and private school alum network, travel sport circuit, church or synagogue — why would you have them now? You have nothing in common, you don’t speak their language, you don’t know so and so and so and so. And frankly, you’re delusional on what private school provides you as a parent. It doesn’t guarantee any parent some brand new social orbit. And anyone who goes in expecting or fishing for that is pegged a social climbing worm from the get-go.

Translation: I'm a horrible human being who will judge you based on your job, clothes, country club, friends, school. I am one of those moms who will give you my elevator pitch on where I went to college twenty years ago, every job I have had since then, and I'll be sure to let you know how rich I am. I am shallow and don't have much depth as a human being so when I see you don't have value you to me I'll ignore you and pretend you don't exist. But I sure am hell nice to people who I deem rich and worthy and you'll see me pandering and lollygagging around them. So if your neighborhood, career, country club, college and private school alumni network aren't up to mine don't bother talking to me.

Are you new here, sweetie? Welcome to Washington. Don’t act like some babe in the woods when you moved to the most ruthlessly competitive, superficial and status and power obsessed place in the Western Hemisphere. Then chose to send your kid to an even more stratified private school. As for OP, if nobody liked him/her before the kid was in private, why would they magically like them now? Nobody likes a thirsty low born interloper; especially a creepy 30, 40 or 50 something one (we’re a long ways from being teenagers first week of college). If you’re that hard up for a friend, go get a spaniel.

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Anonymous wrote:and I don't know what to do about it. It is a great school but I am miserable.My kids seem happy and that its what matters. I am miserable

Translation: I’m a striver and the rich cool parents haven’t invited me into their orbit. Sorry your social climbing scheme hasn’t worked. If you didn’t have a lot of rich outgoing friends before your kid went to private school — via your neighborhood, career, country club, college and private school alum network, travel sport circuit, church or synagogue — why would you have them now? You have nothing in common, you don’t speak their language, you don’t know so and so and so and so. And frankly, you’re delusional on what private school provides you as a parent. It doesn’t guarantee any parent some brand new social orbit. And anyone who goes in expecting or fishing for that is pegged a social climbing worm from the get-go.

Oops I think OP hit a nerve. Are you worried they are calling out you and your lack of pedigree? You realize belonging to a country club does not give you the proper pedigree right? Do you realize that everyone there knows you are new money. It shows through in your speech and dialect and in how you carry yourself -not to mention your terrible table manners which are appalling. Getting sloppy drunk at every event is also a real embarrassment to your child so please do better and be a nicer human. Say hello to the new parents and get to know them. Yes we are wealthy and social and we welcome new parents because they are in our community and should be part of all of our orbits. Your poor children. I feel for them.

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Anonymous wrote:and I don't know what to do about it. It is a great school but I am miserable.My kids seem happy and that its what matters. I am miserable

Translation: I’m a striver and the rich cool parents haven’t invited me into their orbit. Sorry your social climbing scheme hasn’t worked. If you didn’t have a lot of rich outgoing friends before your kid went to private school — via your neighborhood, career, country club, college and private school alum network, travel sport circuit, church or synagogue — why would you have them now? You have nothing in common, you don’t speak their language, you don’t know so and so and so and so. And frankly, you’re delusional on what private school provides you as a parent. It doesn’t guarantee any parent some brand new social orbit. And anyone who goes in expecting or fishing for that is pegged a social climbing worm from the get-go.

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Anonymous wrote:and I don't know what to do about it. It is a great school but I am miserable.My kids seem happy and that its what matters. I am miserable

Translation: I’m a striver and the rich cool parents haven’t invited me into their orbit. Sorry your social climbing scheme hasn’t worked. If you didn’t have a lot of rich outgoing friends before your kid went to private school — via your neighborhood, career, country club, college and private school alum network, travel sport circuit, church or synagogue — why would you have them now? You have nothing in common, you don’t speak their language, you don’t know so and so and so and so. And frankly, you’re delusional on what private school provides you as a parent. It doesn’t guarantee any parent some brand new social orbit. And anyone who goes in expecting or fishing for that is pegged a social climbing worm from the get-go.

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Anonymous wrote:and I don't know what to do about it. It is a great school but I am miserable.My kids seem happy and that its what matters. I am miserable

Translation: I’m a striver and the rich cool parents haven’t invited me into their orbit. Sorry your social climbing scheme hasn’t worked. If you didn’t have a lot of rich outgoing friends before your kid went to private school — via your neighborhood, career, country club, college and private school alum network, travel sport circuit, church or synagogue — why would you have them now? You have nothing in common, you don’t speak their language, you don’t know so and so and so and so. And frankly, you’re delusional on what private school provides you as a parent. It doesn’t guarantee any parent some brand new social orbit. And anyone who goes in expecting or fishing for that is pegged a social climbing worm from the get-go.

Translation: I'm a horrible human being who will judge you based on your job, clothes, country club, friends, school. I am one of those moms who will give you my elevator pitch on where I went to college twenty years ago, every job I have had since then, and I'll be sure to let you know how rich I am. I am shallow and don't have much depth as a human being so when I see you don't have value you to me I'll ignore you and pretend you don't exist. But I sure am hell nice to people who I deem rich and worthy and you'll see me pandering and lollygagging around them. So if your neighborhood, career, country club, college and private school alumni network aren't up to mine don't bother talking to me.

Are you new here, sweetie? Welcome to Washington. Don’t act like some babe in the woods when you moved to the most ruthlessly competitive, superficial and status and power obsessed place in the Western Hemisphere. Then chose to send your kid to an even more stratified private school. As for OP, if nobody liked him/her before the kid was in private, why would they magically like them now? Nobody likes a thirsty low born interloper; especially a creepy 30, 40 or 50 something one (we’re a long ways from being teenagers first week of college). If you’re that hard up for a friend, go get a spaniel.

I'm a NP and new. Can you tell me where you send your kid? We're in the process of looking at schools. Share your school and keep families like us out.

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Anonymous wrote:and I don't know what to do about it. It is a great school but I am miserable.My kids seem happy and that its what matters. I am miserable

Translation: I’m a striver and the rich cool parents haven’t invited me into their orbit. Sorry your social climbing scheme hasn’t worked. If you didn’t have a lot of rich outgoing friends before your kid went to private school — via your neighborhood, career, country club, college and private school alum network, travel sport circuit, church or synagogue — why would you have them now? You have nothing in common, you don’t speak their language, you don’t know so and so and so and so. And frankly, you’re delusional on what private school provides you as a parent. It doesn’t guarantee any parent some brand new social orbit. And anyone who goes in expecting or fishing for that is pegged a social climbing worm from the get-go.

Translation: I'm a horrible human being who will judge you based on your job, clothes, country club, friends, school. I am one of those moms who will give you my elevator pitch on where I went to college twenty years ago, every job I have had since then, and I'll be sure to let you know how rich I am. I am shallow and don't have much depth as a human being so when I see you don't have value you to me I'll ignore you and pretend you don't exist. But I sure am hell nice to people who I deem rich and worthy and you'll see me pandering and lollygagging around them. So if your neighborhood, career, country club, college and private school alumni network aren't up to mine don't bother talking to me.

Are you new here, sweetie? Welcome to Washington. Don’t act like some babe in the woods when you moved to the most ruthlessly competitive, superficial and status and power obsessed place in the Western Hemisphere. Then chose to send your kid to an even more stratified private school. As for OP, if nobody liked him/her before the kid was in private, why would they magically like them now? Nobody likes a thirsty low born interloper; especially a creepy 30, 40 or 50 something one (we’re a long ways from being teenagers first week of college). If you’re that hard up for a friend, go get a spaniel.

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Anonymous wrote:and I don't know what to do about it. It is a great school but I am miserable.My kids seem happy and that its what matters. I am miserable

Translation: I’m a striver and the rich cool parents haven’t invited me into their orbit. Sorry your social climbing scheme hasn’t worked. If you didn’t have a lot of rich outgoing friends before your kid went to private school — via your neighborhood, career, country club, college and private school alum network, travel sport circuit, church or synagogue — why would you have them now? You have nothing in common, you don’t speak their language, you don’t know so and so and so and so. And frankly, you’re delusional on what private school provides you as a parent. It doesn’t guarantee any parent some brand new social orbit. And anyone who goes in expecting or fishing for that is pegged a social climbing worm from the get-go.

Translation: I'm a horrible human being who will judge you based on your job, clothes, country club, friends, school. I am one of those moms who will give you my elevator pitch on where I went to college twenty years ago, every job I have had since then, and I'll be sure to let you know how rich I am. I am shallow and don't have much depth as a human being so when I see you don't have value you to me I'll ignore you and pretend you don't exist. But I sure am hell nice to people who I deem rich and worthy and you'll see me pandering and lollygagging around them. So if your neighborhood, career, country club, college and private school alumni network aren't up to mine don't bother talking to me.

Are you new here, sweetie? Welcome to Washington. Don’t act like some babe in the woods when you moved to the most ruthlessly competitive, superficial and status and power obsessed place in the Western Hemisphere. Then chose to send your kid to an even more stratified private school. As for OP, if nobody liked him/her before the kid was in private, why would they magically like them now? Nobody likes a thirsty low born interloper; especially a creepy 30, 40 or 50 something one (we’re a long ways from being teenagers first week of college). If you’re that hard up for a friend, go get a spaniel.

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Anonymous wrote:and I don't know what to do about it. It is a great school but I am miserable.My kids seem happy and that its what matters. I am miserable

Translation: I’m a striver and the rich cool parents haven’t invited me into their orbit. Sorry your social climbing scheme hasn’t worked. If you didn’t have a lot of rich outgoing friends before your kid went to private school — via your neighborhood, career, country club, college and private school alum network, travel sport circuit, church or synagogue — why would you have them now? You have nothing in common, you don’t speak their language, you don’t know so and so and so and so. And frankly, you’re delusional on what private school provides you as a parent. It doesn’t guarantee any parent some brand new social orbit. And anyone who goes in expecting or fishing for that is pegged a social climbing worm from the get-go.

Translation: I'm a horrible human being who will judge you based on your job, clothes, country club, friends, school. I am one of those moms who will give you my elevator pitch on where I went to college twenty years ago, every job I have had since then, and I'll be sure to let you know how rich I am. I am shallow and don't have much depth as a human being so when I see you don't have value you to me I'll ignore you and pretend you don't exist. But I sure am hell nice to people who I deem rich and worthy and you'll see me pandering and lollygagging around them. So if your neighborhood, career, country club, college and private school alumni network aren't up to mine don't bother talking to me.

Are you new here, sweetie? Welcome to Washington. Don’t act like some babe in the woods when you moved to the most ruthlessly competitive, superficial and status and power obsessed place in the Western Hemisphere. Then chose to send your kid to an even more stratified private school. As for OP, if nobody liked him/her before the kid was in private, why would they magically like them now? Nobody likes a thirsty low born interloper; especially a creepy 30, 40 or 50 something one (we’re a long ways from being teenagers first week of college). If you’re that hard up for a friend, go get a spaniel.

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Anonymous wrote:and I don't know what to do about it. It is a great school but I am miserable.My kids seem happy and that its what matters. I am miserable

Translation: I’m a striver and the rich cool parents haven’t invited me into their orbit. Sorry your social climbing scheme hasn’t worked. If you didn’t have a lot of rich outgoing friends before your kid went to private school — via your neighborhood, career, country club, college and private school alum network, travel sport circuit, church or synagogue — why would you have them now? You have nothing in common, you don’t speak their language, you don’t know so and so and so and so. And frankly, you’re delusional on what private school provides you as a parent. It doesn’t guarantee any parent some brand new social orbit. And anyone who goes in expecting or fishing for that is pegged a social climbing worm from the get-go.

Translation: I'm a horrible human being who will judge you based on your job, clothes, country club, friends, school. I am one of those moms who will give you my elevator pitch on where I went to college twenty years ago, every job I have had since then, and I'll be sure to let you know how rich I am. I am shallow and don't have much depth as a human being so when I see you don't have value you to me I'll ignore you and pretend you don't exist. But I sure am hell nice to people who I deem rich and worthy and you'll see me pandering and lollygagging around them. So if your neighborhood, career, country club, college and private school alumni network aren't up to mine don't bother talking to me.

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Anonymous wrote:and I don't know what to do about it. It is a great school but I am miserable.My kids seem happy and that its what matters. I am miserable

Translation: I’m a striver and the rich cool parents haven’t invited me into their orbit. Sorry your social climbing scheme hasn’t worked. If you didn’t have a lot of rich outgoing friends before your kid went to private school — via your neighborhood, career, country club, college and private school alum network, travel sport circuit, church or synagogue — why would you have them now? You have nothing in common, you don’t speak their language, you don’t know so and so and so and so. And frankly, you’re delusional on what private school provides you as a parent. It doesn’t guarantee any parent some brand new social orbit. And anyone who goes in expecting or fishing for that is pegged a social climbing worm from the get-go.

Lol.

Are you a YA wannabe author or something?

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Anonymous wrote:Having been a public and private mom, it seems to me that at both, there are a few stay at home moms whose worlds revolve achieving a level of social status at the school and are toxic. Their kids school is like them being at school all over again - finding BFs, forming cliques, parties, FB selfies, excluding others or just being overt bullies, all of it. It's like this fraction of women never evolved emotionally past 22. School continues to be their life and area of influence. At 35, 45, . .

It’s called status and power. You’re describing life, in general. Everyone sorts themselves. The social rungs have to be maintained. Life isn’t fair. There are aggressive elbowy people, there are timid people. There are rich and connected, there are middle class nobodies, there are middle class who will do anything to claw their way up the ladder. Half the threads on DCUM are explicitly and implicitly about strivers trying to worm their way up the social ladder. Well sweetie, it’s a dog eat dog world. A striver’s attempt up the ladder is seen as a threat. Just as ruthlessly as you seek entry into a higher rung (at the expense of someone already there: zero sum), why be surprised the current status quo doesn’t ruthlessly protect their standing and orbit from such interlopers? They don’t like you and they are under no obligation to like you or welcome you.

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Anonymous wrote:and I don't know what to do about it. It is a great school but I am miserable.My kids seem happy and that its what matters. I am miserable

Translation: I’m a striver and the rich cool parents haven’t invited me into their orbit. Sorry your social climbing scheme hasn’t worked. If you didn’t have a lot of rich outgoing friends before your kid went to private school — via your neighborhood, career, country club, college and private school alum network, travel sport circuit, church or synagogue — why would you have them now? You have nothing in common, you don’t speak their language, you don’t know so and so and so and so. And frankly, you’re delusional on what private school provides you as a parent. It doesn’t guarantee any parent some brand new social orbit. And anyone who goes in expecting or fishing for that is pegged a social climbing worm from the get-go.