Anonymous
07/26/2022 19:57
Subject: Re:Husband cheated with high school sweetheart
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don’t think the OW is married. She’s scorned and told OP to hurt her husband. I just don’t believe a married woman with children would risk hurting them. If she is married, don’t tell her husband. It’s not OPs responsibility. If OW has kids, you’d be a truly crappy person to willfully change the trajectory of innocent kid’s lives. Pay attention to our country right now. OWs husband could seek his own revenge on OPs husband. Deal with your issues without dragging the innocent into it.
My DH had an affair with a married woman. When he broke it off she went nuts and did a few disturbing things that made us realize she was capable of doing a lot more damage. I was sooo tempted to call her DH. I don’t know if he knows, but I really don’t want to find out what this psycho woman is capable of if I tell him. She’s married with two young kids! I guess she thought my DH was her ticket out of that marriage. In any case, she deserves to be exposed and I hope the rest of her life is as miserable possible. I’m going to trust karma to take care of that and protect myself and kids from any more of her insanity.
I’m sorry you were in this situation. You seem remarkably on the same page as your husband though- like his AP harmed both of you and none of the blame lies with your DH, and you’re thankful he stayed with you instead of leaving? I hope that attitude isn’t the case and he actually earned whatever forgiveness you’ve shown him.
PP here. My husband took plenty of the blame. It has fundamentally changed his life and our relationship. He will live with that forever. It is a long road to forgiveness that we are still navigating. But the separate issue is that the AP is going out of her way after the fact to inflict as much damage as she can. That is completely on her.
And what you don't seem to get is your husband opened that door. Stop acting like you both are victims of this woman. Crazy how you want complete misery for this woman when your husband was just as wrong. He opened that can of worms, he just couldn't control them once they were out. Who's fault is that?
Anonymous
07/26/2022 10:59
Subject: Husband cheated with high school sweetheart
Anonymous wrote:What did OP do to drive him to cheat?
Talk about blaming the victim!!
You are extremely messed up.
(Oh, and when men beat their wives, the next question should not be: what did she do to provoke him?).
Anonymous
07/26/2022 10:57
Subject: Husband cheated with high school sweetheart
Anonymous wrote:Your husband's high school sweetheart is a B____ with a capital B for telling you.
This is immature and unhelpful. Save your disdain for the father of her children who probably vowed in front of friends and family to "forsake all others. "
Anonymous
07/26/2022 10:53
Subject: Husband cheated with high school sweetheart
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Your husband's high school sweetheart is a B____ with a capital B for telling you.
No. Op’s husband is an ahole for having a three year affair an assuming it would never get out. The other woman is irrelevant.
They're not mutually exclusive, you know. He can be an ahole and she can be a B_____ at the same time. She's worse than the husband anyway. To make HIM suffer she threw an innocent woman under the bus. Not cool.
You are very, very much in the minority for having this opinion.
Personally I would be thanking the OW for telling me.
Agree, though we all know she likely only did it in hopes it would break up OP and her DH and then DH would come back to her. But still, I'd want to know. And unless she too is married, I think he is far more in the wrong than her and, even if she is married, DH is the only one who broke his vows with OP. I never get all the anger at the OW. I expect my DH to be faithful regardless of the opportunities he has--it makes no sense to be angry at whomever provided the opportunity.
yes this is why she did it. Smart.