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Anonymous wrote:I was just looking at some instagrams of some high schools and see so many students heading to public schools out of state. While I absolutely understand why students would choose UVA, VT, W&M, UMD, etc if you are in state, why would you pick schools like Penn State or Clemson?

Probably because they did not get into UVA, VT, W&M, UMD, etc.

Yes . Mostly they did not get into top one or two colleges in their state. OR they got a good scholarship in public school in another state.

Example A : My sons friend in Maryland did not get into UMD. He did not want to go to UMBC for some reason. He wanted a big college experience so went to Penn State

Example B : Another friends daughter - got into UMD but not in Honors or Scholars program. Also got in UMass Amherst in Honors program. With UMass scholarship tuition become almost same as UMD. She picked UMass

Anonymous wrote:My mother believed in going out of state to go to college - she felt it was important to be far enough away that things were different and you had to be independent for the small stuff. Eg, no coming home on the weekends to do laundry. We lived on the West Coast, so I went to a college 800 miles away from home and my sister to one over 200 miles away.

How small was your state?? You don't have to go OOS for this. My son is in-state and about a 4-5 hr drive away. He applied to OOS schools that were closer.

Not exactly the same, but my mother wanted me to go away from home rather than the state university 15 minutes away from our house. This was because her father forced her to turn down Columbia and go to MD because he just didn’t believe women needed fancy school degrees (meanwhile, her brother went to Princeton then Wharton business). He almost made her transfer, too, when they moved to NJ in the middle of her schooling. She let me apply where I wanted - I wound up going an 8 hour drive from home. I didn’t even use our state school as a safety. I was at a private, so not an oos public.

My mother believed in going out of state to go to college - she felt it was important to be far enough away that things were different and you had to be independent for the small stuff. Eg, no coming home on the weekends to do laundry. We lived on the West Coast, so I went to a college 800 miles away from home and my sister to one over 200 miles away.

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Anonymous wrote:I am fond of my alma mater but my biggest regret was going to the in-state public flagship instead of broadening my horizons. It just had too many kids from my hometown area, it was too close to home, and too provincial. To this day I am jealous when I meet someone my age who went to college several states away or across the country. We have saved enough to offer our kids that opportunity when the time comes.

Yikes. You need therapy. I don't say that snarkily...that's not normal or healthy.

I suspect that PP is simply making up a story to suit her narrative. IE, trolling.

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Anonymous wrote:I am fond of my alma mater but my biggest regret was going to the in-state public flagship instead of broadening my horizons. It just had too many kids from my hometown area, it was too close to home, and too provincial. To this day I am jealous when I meet someone my age who went to college several states away or across the country. We have saved enough to offer our kids that opportunity when the time comes.

Well, I doubt whomever paid for it regretted it in their bank account. I bet plenty of other folks would wish they saved their money and gone in-state. I also have sooo many friends who went away for undergrad only to transfer b/c they were homesick, it wasn't what they'd thought it would be, etc.

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And state flagships have so many OOS kids, you’re going to broaden your horizons either way.

Status, novelty.

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Anonymous wrote:I am fond of my alma mater but my biggest regret was going to the in-state public flagship instead of broadening my horizons. It just had too many kids from my hometown area, it was too close to home, and too provincial. To this day I am jealous when I meet someone my age who went to college several states away or across the country. We have saved enough to offer our kids that opportunity when the time comes.

Yikes. You need therapy. I don't say that snarkily...that's not normal or healthy.

While the statement was a bit hyperbolic and weird anytime you tell someone on an anonymous board they need therapy it might be that you need it too...just saying.

Anonymous wrote:I am fond of my alma mater but my biggest regret was going to the in-state public flagship instead of broadening my horizons. It just had too many kids from my hometown area, it was too close to home, and too provincial. To this day I am jealous when I meet someone my age who went to college several states away or across the country. We have saved enough to offer our kids that opportunity when the time comes.

Yikes. You need therapy. I don't say that snarkily...that's not normal or healthy.

Anonymous wrote:I am fond of my alma mater but my biggest regret was going to the in-state public flagship instead of broadening my horizons. It just had too many kids from my hometown area, it was too close to home, and too provincial. To this day I am jealous when I meet someone my age who went to college several states away or across the country. We have saved enough to offer our kids that opportunity when the time comes.

Well, I doubt whomever paid for it regretted it in their bank account. I bet plenty of other folks would wish they saved their money and gone in-state. I also have sooo many friends who went away for undergrad only to transfer b/c they were homesick, it wasn't what they'd thought it would be, etc.

"OP - I can see where you're coming from. Growing up in California and moving to the DC area the high percentage of OOS public future attendees was very surprising. I guess because of the strong and vast UC and CSU system, I never considered even applying to an OOS public."

California is like 5 or 6 states together. And in a big state like Texas going to Austin is a very different, horizon broadening experience for students from everywhere but Houston or Dallas.

I am fond of my alma mater but my biggest regret was going to the in-state public flagship instead of broadening my horizons. It just had too many kids from my hometown area, it was too close to home, and too provincial. To this day I am jealous when I meet someone my age who went to college several states away or across the country. We have saved enough to offer our kids that opportunity when the time comes.

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Anonymous wrote:To be fair, as soon as the horrible scotus decision comes down, half the states in this country are no longer places I will send my daughters to school. Damn shame, because there were a couple schools we were interested in.

Or sons.

well, I only have daughters

But people should definitely consider what all these new laws that are about to come to pass mean for their sons, as well

just a quick follow up-Teen Vogue is apparently working on a story about families in the midst of the college search and what these coming laws mean going forward

I'm sure that will be well balanced non-partisan article, I'm waiting with baited breath!

like you read teen vogue anyway

That's not the point especially when it is a publication influencing the mind of a teenager.

Hope they share the facts on how sh1tty life will be for women in women-hating states.

What states hate women?

Th WUE in the western states is such a great deal

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Anonymous wrote:I was just looking at some instagrams of some high schools and see so many students heading to public schools out of state. While I absolutely understand why students would choose UVA, VT, W&M, UMD, etc if you are in state, why would you pick schools like Penn State or Clemson?

Reason 1: Because that's where you got in. Many VA kids don't get into UVA or Virginia Tech but get into Penn State (which is a great school).

Reason 2: Because the school offers a program that levels above what is available in your state. Eg. Engineering at Berkeley, Michigan, Illinois or Georgia Tech as opposed to to UVA or Tech. Some people may think its worth paying extra to get that level of education.

Reason 3: you want to live in that part of the country
Reason 4: better financial aid