Anonymous wrote:If she is 91, then everyone has had more than enough time to spend with her.

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If she is 91, then everyone has had more than enough time to spend with her.

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Anonymous wrote:Op - idk why ppl are invalidating you. Yes it’s weird! I assume you would already know if they had a weird contentious relationship. Your dh should call brother and say - hey this is your mom - wtf?

Like I said before, it sounds like the OP's brother-in-law that his mother's lived way longer than anyone deserve to live. I think it's impressive that he hasn't the fact that she's his mother blind him from the truth.

Longer than anyone deserves to live? Wtf kind of thinking is that? How bizarre. Who are you to decide how long someone deserves to live?

It's not me deciding. It's these statistics.

https://www.ssa.gov/oact/STATS/table4c6.html

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Anonymous wrote:Op - idk why ppl are invalidating you. Yes it’s weird! I assume you would already know if they had a weird contentious relationship. Your dh should call brother and say - hey this is your mom - wtf?

Like I said before, it sounds like the OP's brother-in-law that his mother's lived way longer than anyone deserve to live. I think it's impressive that he hasn't the fact that she's his mother blind him from the truth.

Longer than anyone deserves to live? Wtf kind of thinking is that? How bizarre. Who are you to decide how long someone deserves to live?

I'm not trying to force anyone to shorten their life. It's my natural-born right as a human being to think that, though. Everyone is allowed to have hateful thoughts as long as they don't act on said thoughts. The OP's BIL may have a similar thought process. He has every right to think that his mother should be dead. And while it's true that how much longer she lives is none of his business, it's also none of his business that she had a stroke.