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Anonymous wrote:I know less than 5 women who really, truly look shockingly younger than they are and all of them are childless and live stress-free lives. I think this is a function of getting enough sleep plus hairstyle and clothes. I know my hair gives away my age (35 and still doing the Zooey Deschanel hair) but I love it and can't bring myself to try the parted down the middle thing now.

I agree with that but genetics also play a role. Having a slim toned body makes you look youthful while having one of the thick to fat body types makes you look like you might have already given birth to 5 kids and are a mature older woman.

Until you get to your late 50’s and being thin makes you look wrinkled and haggard.

Key word here is toned

As ZaZa Gabor said, “At a certain age, you’ve got to choose between your ass and your face.”

I think that’s why older actresses used to look better. Now they have to stay rail thin. Back in the day, it was ok for an actress to carry a little bit of extra weight. With more weight, you don’t need the fillers and Botox, which looks fake and never goes well for very long.

Elizabeth Taylor at her 53rd birthday party. I’m sure she’s had “work” done, but she can make an expression, and her eyebrows aren’t halfway up her forehead.



Meg Ryan at 53 (despite — or maybe because of — fillers & Botox:

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 52. I think I look around 43. Here's my evidence. I made an appointment with Dr. Naderi in Chevy Chase. It took 3 months to get the appointment. I wanted to get filler. I went to the appointment. The nurse numbed my face and then said the doctor would be in.

The doctor walked in. She looked at me and refused to do filler. She asked how old I was and I told her. She said you look 38, you have no wrinkles and you have perfect volume.

She literally told me that while she would love to take my money, I should go to Saks across the street and buy some new shoes.

So what made you think you needed filler in the first place?

The honest answer is that I am so afraid that if my face changes the slightest bit, I'll start to look old. Was trying to stay on top of it.

Oh, honey. Doing fillers will make you look older than you are. You’ll look like an older lady who is trying to look young. I had a friend who showed up with fillers in her face, and my first thought was, “She must be older than I thought.”

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Anonymous wrote:Everyone on dcum looks more than a decade younger, duh

It's because around 40 their eyesight starts to decline. Their face in the mirror is blurry.

Young 40 yr old who looks 21 with perfect vision and a thick full head of lush hair. My 20 something yr old peers all wear glasses or contacts and have thinning hair.

Yep I noticed that

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Anonymous wrote:I know less than 5 women who really, truly look shockingly younger than they are and all of them are childless and live stress-free lives. I think this is a function of getting enough sleep plus hairstyle and clothes. I know my hair gives away my age (35 and still doing the Zooey Deschanel hair) but I love it and can't bring myself to try the parted down the middle thing now.

I agree with that but genetics also play a role. Having a slim toned body makes you look youthful while having one of the thick to fat body types makes you look like you might have already given birth to 5 kids and are a mature older woman.

Until you get to your late 50’s and being thin makes you look wrinkled and haggard.

Key word here is toned

I’m 45. I have a few wrinkles and a handful of gray hairs (that I pluck). I’ve managed to stay the same weight I was in high school, but no one thinks I’m in my 20s. I have a 17-yr old daughter so can say this definitively: I look my age. Even when people don’t see my face, they can tell that I’m her mom—she’s wearing the stuff I wore when I was in high school and I’m wearing skinny jeans and booties.

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Anonymous wrote:I know less than 5 women who really, truly look shockingly younger than they are and all of them are childless and live stress-free lives. I think this is a function of getting enough sleep plus hairstyle and clothes. I know my hair gives away my age (35 and still doing the Zooey Deschanel hair) but I love it and can't bring myself to try the parted down the middle thing now.

I agree with that but genetics also play a role. Having a slim toned body makes you look youthful while having one of the thick to fat body types makes you look like you might have already given birth to 5 kids and are a mature older woman.

Until you get to your late 50’s and being thin makes you look wrinkled and haggard.

54 and everything looks 5-10 years younger except my neck, which looks every day of 54 years. I haven't gotten grey hair yet, but once that happens, I will look old. I have always felt middle aged, even in my 20s, so it's not a big deal to me so far.

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Anonymous wrote:50 and look it.

^^I should add that I always looked younger up until about 45 years of age.

To the younger ladies - enjoy being told you look young. It doesn't last forever. And so what? Embrace aging.

Yep. I was so smug at 42, all hard-bodied and dating hot young things. At 46, I rapidly went grey and started gaining weight.

48, and I might look a few years younger. I'm slim, petite, olive skin, and my husband is several years younger than I am. But I don't think I look more than 4-5 years younger. I don't think I look older though.

36 and I look 36. I’m fit and have nice skin and hair. I think staying fit/slim is 90% or what it takes to look good.

Anonymous wrote:I’m 49 and think I look 49. Until about 46, I was always mistaken for younger, but the last three years have aged me. Pandemic, my own cancer, kid with health issues. All aging. Also approaching menopause so the hormones aren’t as youthful. I’m fine with it.

Yeah, my dad’s terminal illness and subsequent death really accelerated my aging. I had a traumatic emotional even soon after and it was a double whammy. I aged so much in 3 years.

I’m 49 and think I look 49. Until about 46, I was always mistaken for younger, but the last three years have aged me. Pandemic, my own cancer, kid with health issues. All aging. Also approaching menopause so the hormones aren’t as youthful. I’m fine with it.

Anonymous wrote:I am 47 and got carded this weekend.

That’s a law ma’am, not a compliment

Anonymous wrote:I think I looked about mid-20s until I was ~32 and had my first child. I aged at least 5-10 years during that first year of parenthood. I then probably looked about mid/late-30s until ~47, when the stress of working long hours, parenting/schooling kids during the pandemic, and a mild illness made me age rapidly in a short period of time again. Now, I think that I look like a rather haggard 48. Wishing I had the bandwidth to take better care of myself so that I could feel and look better.

This was my timeline almost exactly.

mid-20s until mid-30s
rapid aging due to kids/sleep deprivation/stress
mid-30s until early 40s
at 45 started to see more lines
at 47 could see changes almost daily
now at 48 look very much 48

I lost some weight earlier in the pandemic and it made me look older. I've gained some of it back and I look better.