Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH was addicted to erotic massages for a long time. He loved the thrill of it. He had it down to a science and would even advise other men in online communities about it. Now he is an advocate for sexual addiction support.

I was mostly hurt by the betrayal in trust. I never saw the signs. Our sex life wasn’t great, but he never gave us a chance to improve.

I learned through therapy his addiction had nothing to do with me. Therapy worked for us. It also helped that HJs were his only vice. I think transactional sex is gross but I’m not going to blow up my marriage and family over HJs.

HJs were the "only vice" you caught.

I believe it was. My DH usually prefers HJs over sex since we were dating. It’s a fetish.