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Anonymous wrote:I would be concerned about one thing: it seems like the trend nowadays is to prosecute normal taxpaying citizens and let all sorts of fringe populations get away with the same things or worse. Since he isn’t a homeless guy or some such, the store might virtue signal by prosecuting him.

Your post is freaking rude and ridiculous. You are in la la land. No fringe (code word Black and brown I assume) people are getting away with anything. Me and my family are as innocent as can be and are followed around the store like we are hoodlums.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be concerned about one thing: it seems like the trend nowadays is to prosecute normal taxpaying citizens and let all sorts of fringe populations get away with the same things or worse. Since he isn’t a homeless guy or some such, the store might virtue signal by prosecuting him.

Way to make this all about the store "virtue signaling" instead of about the guy being a common dirty thief.

Your post basically condones theft, as long as it's done by the right people of the right hue, who aren't part of (gasp!) "fringe populations."

Anonymous wrote:I had an ex who also thought he was above the law. Unsurprisingly, he was a cheater.

Meanwhile, I’m so honest that I go back inside to pay for things if I missed scanning them because they got tucked back in the cart.

Now I’m married to someone equally scrupulous. We’re both government lawyers like your boyfriend. We would be surprised if any of our coworkers jeopardized their licenses for such a petty thrill.

Anonymous wrote:Every time I scroll through Recent Topics and see this title I laugh and shake my head. Especially since I know he's in his 50s!

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Anonymous wrote:This is OP. I got caught up in the evening routine, so apologies for the delay. To answer questions:

1. We shop at Aldi. They have one of those scanner gun things so you can just scan all the items in your cart, pay, and then go over to the counters to bag your groceries. So you don’t unload your cart, and there isn’t the bag station/scale thing like at a Safeway.

2. He is 55. I am 47. So we are not having kids together.

3. I do have kids in the house. My kids have met him, but we’re not really “blended”, and I don’t plan to get married until my kids are much older (if at all). So I’m not worried about him teaching them bad things.

4. He’s a fed. I’m not with him for his money. Again, he shops at Aldi.

5. I have only witnessed him doing this once. And I asked once we got to the car, and he admitted to doing it frequently. I told him that was really dishonest and he laughed and to me I was too much of a rule follower. This was over the weekend, and it’s been lurking around in my brain ever since. I started this post as a gut check that I wasn’t being too much of a goody two-shoes.

6. But I think everyone is right, and this is probably indicative of an attitude that enables even more shady behavior. And it’s just weird. Like a teenager stealing nail polish at the dollar store. It’s about risk taking, which a 50-something man should have outgrown long ago.

What in the hell are you doing justifying that no kids are involved? Do you think this makes it okay? Not something anyone outgrows. Normal people (normal to me) don't routinely shoplift groceries. Period.

Anonymous wrote:I 'forget' to scan about $10 worth of stuff each time I use the self scan. If they force me to do their labor, I'm getting paid.

Anonymous wrote:Whenever he goes to the self check out, he only rings up about 75% of his cart. He says that the store assumes people are stealing and already bake that into the price. He says most men do this.

I am a rule follower and am horrified by this behavior, and terrified he’s going to get arrested.

Do men really steal from the self check out?

And no, he’s not that poor. This isn’t an Aladdin situation.

Anonymous wrote:I 'forget' to scan about $10 worth of stuff each time I use the self scan. If they force me to do their labor, I'm getting paid.

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Anonymous wrote:Now I have yet another reason to like Trader Joe’s and their trustworthy shoppers.

No psychos in the self checkouts.

You are insane. There are shoplifters at all stores. In rockville there is a security person standing by the entrance door (in the afternoon/evening) for those who think they can just walk out with full unpaid for carts and bags of food.