Anonymous wrote:I would encourage you to read Saving Normal by Dr Allen Frances. A really interesting look at the DSM from an insider and the regret he has over the ASD and ADHD diagnostic categories.
https://www.amazon.com/Saving-Normal-Out-Control-Medicalization/dp/0062229265?nodl=1&dplnkId=4ea1637b-a9fd-4888-9f2d-3e9fb3ed143a
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm feeling very frustrated by this "what is autism?" question right now. I have a teen DD who was always sensitive and a bit quirky, with a tendency to daydream. We had her evaluated for some mild executive function issues a few years ago and the only diagnosis she got was anxiety. She always had friends and no one ever mentioned autism. During the pandemic, after several months of social isolation, she had what I'd describe as a mental breakdown, becoming severely depressed. She has tried several meds and therapy and is now somewhat better, but she's still somewhat depressed and is now having social problems.
I've now had a couple of people suggest very strongly to me that she is autistic and that the only reason I haven't had her evaluated yet is that I'm in denial. When I mention various ways in which she doesn't fit the typical profile, I hear "autism is different in girls" and "it doesn't matter that she has always had good eye contact, doesn't have restrictive interests, is spontaneous and imaginative, doesn't mind crowds, speaks with lots of dramatic flair, writes fiction that shows a lot of insight into other people - none of that means she's not autistic." Which, OK, I accept! I get that the definition is expanding and I'm not trying to resist a diagnosis if it's the best thing for her. I'm planning to have her evaluated again in case I am genuinely missing something. I just don't really understand how it can simultaneously be true that 1) the manifestations of autism are incredibly fluid and protean, and someone can be autistic despite few obvious differences from NT people; 2) there is a basic, binary NT/ND divide and it is very important to diagnose autism because otherwise you are missing something fundamental about who your DC is. And the DSM is not helpful because the criteria are so vague and don't really specify level of severity.
I want to clarify that I'm not trying to be disingenuous, I genuinely struggle with trying to figure out what it actually means to say that someone is autistic or what new information you get from the diagnosis. When my DD was a toddler, parents were constantly told we were supposed to watch our kids like a hawk for signs of autism and rush to get early intervention if we saw anything. And I ran through all those "early signs" checklists and there was never anything of the slightest concern. But I know other parents who could say the same and their kids are now diagnosed with ASD. So were those checklists meaningless? I keep hearing that we have a different understanding of autism than we did 10 years ago, but I still haven't heard a clear articulation of how or why it has changed.
I relate to your daughter. She sounds lovely.
I can't stand the different presentation in girls idea either.
Not sure why you can't stand this idea, considering it's a thing.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm feeling very frustrated by this "what is autism?" question right now. I have a teen DD who was always sensitive and a bit quirky, with a tendency to daydream. We had her evaluated for some mild executive function issues a few years ago and the only diagnosis she got was anxiety. She always had friends and no one ever mentioned autism. During the pandemic, after several months of social isolation, she had what I'd describe as a mental breakdown, becoming severely depressed. She has tried several meds and therapy and is now somewhat better, but she's still somewhat depressed and is now having social problems.
I've now had a couple of people suggest very strongly to me that she is autistic and that the only reason I haven't had her evaluated yet is that I'm in denial. When I mention various ways in which she doesn't fit the typical profile, I hear "autism is different in girls" and "it doesn't matter that she has always had good eye contact, doesn't have restrictive interests, is spontaneous and imaginative, doesn't mind crowds, speaks with lots of dramatic flair, writes fiction that shows a lot of insight into other people - none of that means she's not autistic." Which, OK, I accept! I get that the definition is expanding and I'm not trying to resist a diagnosis if it's the best thing for her. I'm planning to have her evaluated again in case I am genuinely missing something. I just don't really understand how it can simultaneously be true that 1) the manifestations of autism are incredibly fluid and protean, and someone can be autistic despite few obvious differences from NT people; 2) there is a basic, binary NT/ND divide and it is very important to diagnose autism because otherwise you are missing something fundamental about who your DC is. And the DSM is not helpful because the criteria are so vague and don't really specify level of severity.
I want to clarify that I'm not trying to be disingenuous, I genuinely struggle with trying to figure out what it actually means to say that someone is autistic or what new information you get from the diagnosis. When my DD was a toddler, parents were constantly told we were supposed to watch our kids like a hawk for signs of autism and rush to get early intervention if we saw anything. And I ran through all those "early signs" checklists and there was never anything of the slightest concern. But I know other parents who could say the same and their kids are now diagnosed with ASD. So were those checklists meaningless? I keep hearing that we have a different understanding of autism than we did 10 years ago, but I still haven't heard a clear articulation of how or why it has changed.
I relate to your daughter. She sounds lovely.
I can't stand the different presentation in girls idea either.
Anonymous wrote:I'm feeling very frustrated by this "what is autism?" question right now. I have a teen DD who was always sensitive and a bit quirky, with a tendency to daydream. We had her evaluated for some mild executive function issues a few years ago and the only diagnosis she got was anxiety. She always had friends and no one ever mentioned autism. During the pandemic, after several months of social isolation, she had what I'd describe as a mental breakdown, becoming severely depressed. She has tried several meds and therapy and is now somewhat better, but she's still somewhat depressed and is now having social problems.
I've now had a couple of people suggest very strongly to me that she is autistic and that the only reason I haven't had her evaluated yet is that I'm in denial. When I mention various ways in which she doesn't fit the typical profile, I hear "autism is different in girls" and "it doesn't matter that she has always had good eye contact, doesn't have restrictive interests, is spontaneous and imaginative, doesn't mind crowds, speaks with lots of dramatic flair, writes fiction that shows a lot of insight into other people - none of that means she's not autistic." Which, OK, I accept! I get that the definition is expanding and I'm not trying to resist a diagnosis if it's the best thing for her. I'm planning to have her evaluated again in case I am genuinely missing something. I just don't really understand how it can simultaneously be true that 1) the manifestations of autism are incredibly fluid and protean, and someone can be autistic despite few obvious differences from NT people; 2) there is a basic, binary NT/ND divide and it is very important to diagnose autism because otherwise you are missing something fundamental about who your DC is. And the DSM is not helpful because the criteria are so vague and don't really specify level of severity.
I want to clarify that I'm not trying to be disingenuous, I genuinely struggle with trying to figure out what it actually means to say that someone is autistic or what new information you get from the diagnosis. When my DD was a toddler, parents were constantly told we were supposed to watch our kids like a hawk for signs of autism and rush to get early intervention if we saw anything. And I ran through all those "early signs" checklists and there was never anything of the slightest concern. But I know other parents who could say the same and their kids are now diagnosed with ASD. So were those checklists meaningless? I keep hearing that we have a different understanding of autism than we did 10 years ago, but I still haven't heard a clear articulation of how or why it has changed.
Anonymous wrote:I'm feeling very frustrated by this "what is autism?" question right now. I have a teen DD who was always sensitive and a bit quirky, with a tendency to daydream. We had her evaluated for some mild executive function issues a few years ago and the only diagnosis she got was anxiety. She always had friends and no one ever mentioned autism. During the pandemic, after several months of social isolation, she had what I'd describe as a mental breakdown, becoming severely depressed. She has tried several meds and therapy and is now somewhat better, but she's still somewhat depressed and is now having social problems.
I've now had a couple of people suggest very strongly to me that she is autistic and that the only reason I haven't had her evaluated yet is that I'm in denial. When I mention various ways in which she doesn't fit the typical profile, I hear "autism is different in girls" and "it doesn't matter that she has always had good eye contact, doesn't have restrictive interests, is spontaneous and imaginative, doesn't mind crowds, speaks with lots of dramatic flair, writes fiction that shows a lot of insight into other people - none of that means she's not autistic." Which, OK, I accept! I get that the definition is expanding and I'm not trying to resist a diagnosis if it's the best thing for her. I'm planning to have her evaluated again in case I am genuinely missing something. I just don't really understand how it can simultaneously be true that 1) the manifestations of autism are incredibly fluid and protean, and someone can be autistic despite few obvious differences from NT people; 2) there is a basic, binary NT/ND divide and it is very important to diagnose autism because otherwise you are missing something fundamental about who your DC is. And the DSM is not helpful because the criteria are so vague and don't really specify level of severity.
I want to clarify that I'm not trying to be disingenuous, I genuinely struggle with trying to figure out what it actually means to say that someone is autistic or what new information you get from the diagnosis. When my DD was a toddler, parents were constantly told we were supposed to watch our kids like a hawk for signs of autism and rush to get early intervention if we saw anything. And I ran through all those "early signs" checklists and there was never anything of the slightest concern. But I know other parents who could say the same and their kids are now diagnosed with ASD. So were those checklists meaningless? I keep hearing that we have a different understanding of autism than we did 10 years ago, but I still haven't heard a clear articulation of how or why it has changed.
Anonymous wrote:The biggest differences between Asperger’s and ASD used to be age of onset and deficit areas.
When you combine 2 things (as they did by making Asperger’s into ASD Level 1) that don’t really look the same you end up with something that means nothing.
These are from the old DSM-IV for Asperger’s, and certainly don’t fit the “traditional criteria” for ASD. I still can’t figure out why they combined these once very distinct diagnoses (besides insurance money):
There is no clinically significant general delay in language (e.g., single words used by age 2 years, communicative phrases used by age 3 years).
There is no clinically significant delay in cognitive development or in the development of age-appropriate self-help skills, or adaptive
behavior (other than social interaction and curiosity about the environment in childhood).
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yup, OP, I am totally with you. Wish we could get the Aspergers diagnosis back - give it a new name if you must!
We have a kid without an ASD diagnosis. But outwardly seems super Aspergers. The whole thing is just so useless now.
Even if we got an ASD diagnosis, I don't understand how that is useful at all - to provide that information to teachers or friends. Because ASD is so meaninglessly broad.
I also recognize the absurd focus on diagnosing basically 1 out of every 10 boys as ASD - essentially, every quicky, socially challenged, math loving boy, of which there's one in every class - is incredibly distracting to real issue of what we think of as traditional autism. Those are the kids who need tremendous help and resources, and research.
I also hate that we've pathologized boys being socially quirky and into math. Why does that require a diagnosis?? Why isn't that just a personality type? (which incidentally, is the "diagnosis" DS got after a neuropsych. She said sometimes it's okay to just label his social oddities as personality, when they don't otherwise meet the full ASD diagnosis).
I also agree about the need for a specific category for those who need the most support.
I have an older teen who does not have a diagnosis. He also has a quirky personality, but before the pandemic, an ASD diagnosis had not entered my mind. However, since the pandemic, he has been exhibiting characteristics strongly consistent with A.1-A.3 of the DSM (less so with the B categories). I have been wondering whether, for some younger people, pandemic isolation has caused profound personality changes so that, while not exactly meeting the criteria for ASD, they need similar supports to address social and communication deficits.
DS is 11 and goes to a big magnet public gifted school (not in the DC area). We'd always heard it would likely be a better fit for DS and his social issues - that there would be more kids like him there and those who weren't like him would be less likely to bully him. At the first parent welcome coffee, the guidance counselor straight up said we have a lot of kids that verge into the ASD spectrum (when discussing social skills supports for the general school population). So it's been that way for a while. But I was chatting with the teacher supervisor of the new robotics club, and he said something along the lines of "all 30 kids in this robotics club are, while maybe not as severe as DS, definitely in that space of socially challenged" and he went on to question what the heck was happening in the last year or so. But interesting, our school system is in the south and was fully open by fall 2020 (with mandatory masks, and about 25% who homeschooled for at least part of that first year). But point is, they weren't isolated to the same extent as up north. Could masks alone be triggering something major on the social front for these kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Its like making Blind cover people who need glasses. It makes no sense, and it's really annoying to people whose kids can't see.
This is it. Blind. Near-sighted. Far-sighted. Needs reading glasses once over 50. Glasses only when driving.
We don't describe everyone under one sight abled spectrum umbrella.
Anonymous wrote:Yup, OP, I am totally with you. Wish we could get the Aspergers diagnosis back - give it a new name if you must!
We have a kid without an ASD diagnosis. But outwardly seems super Aspergers. The whole thing is just so useless now.
Even if we got an ASD diagnosis, I don't understand how that is useful at all - to provide that information to teachers or friends. Because ASD is so meaninglessly broad.
I also recognize the absurd focus on diagnosing basically 1 out of every 10 boys as ASD - essentially, every quicky, socially challenged, math loving boy, of which there's one in every class - is incredibly distracting to real issue of what we think of as traditional autism. Those are the kids who need tremendous help and resources, and research.
I also hate that we've pathologized boys being socially quirky and into math. Why does that require a diagnosis?? Why isn't that just a personality type? (which incidentally, is the "diagnosis" DS got after a neuropsych. She said sometimes it's okay to just label his social oddities as personality, when they don't otherwise meet the full ASD diagnosis).
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It bothers me because I feel like lately the self-diagnosed or late-diagnosed people, especially teens and people in their early 20s, are monopolizing the conversation. People who were able to access the mainstream curriculum in schools, who are verbal/speaking, who maybe have some deficits in communication and/or “restricted interests,” but who are able to live a pretty “normal” life. And then people who have more severe symptoms, higher support needs, who were diagnosed at an early age, are non -speaking, have outbursts/tantrums etc. are overlooked. I mean I see these people who are like, I can’t deal with loud noises/outbursts in public because of my autism … but my DS who is now 4 and who was diagnosed with autism at 2 is prone to randomly yelping and screaming in public just because that’s something he does … so these people are autistic out here saying they can’t stand other autistic people? It doesn’t sit right with me or with a lot of other parents of higher support needs kids.
80% of adults who are identified with Autism have either attempted suicide, engaged in self-harm or experienced other severe mental illness. I agree that there should be different terms, but as a mother of a nine year old girl who was a rock star masker until she landed in the hospital four times in one year from the overload required by constant masking. I think you are misunderstanding the gravity of what people incorrectly refer to as "high functioning autism."