OP, I have a 22 year old daughter. In your situation, I would tell her - you are the prize. If he doesn’t recognize that and act accordingly, he is not the one for you. He will only disrespect you as long as you let him. You spent money and time flying to see him. What effort is he making? I understand if he doesn’t have much money (though at 30 he probably has some discretionary income), but did he make you breakfast today? Has he put thought into what would make this a good weekend for you? Has he asked what you may want to do? Has he thanked you for coming to see him, and told you how much he was looking forward to it? If he’s not doing these kinds of things - and is scrolling on his phone, playing video games and texting his ex - he is flat out disrespectful. Even if he is just looking for something easy right now, the way he is treating you lacks basic decency. He’s older and probably would admit that he’s just taking advantage of your naïveté, if he engaged in any self-reflection at all. You need to emotionally and physically distance from him. He may put in the work in a few months or he may not. In the meantime, you won’t lose your self respect.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:HE TEXTED HER HAPPY VALENTINES DAY with a heart emoji lmao.

The ex screen shot it and put it the group the group chat with my cousin.
This is hilarious.

Why are you laughing? You should be crying. He is not over her. You have your answer (although it was already clear). Leave. He is not the guy. He still wants her. You are being stupid and being used. Find someone who wants you. He does not want you.

Yes, why are you laughing? You spent money and time to fly to him to spend your weekend with him.
Please respect yourself. You are the tail end of your own joke if you are truly laughing.

A healthy emotional response would be a mix of disappointment, frustration, anger and also relief (that you now know and didn’t end up wasting more time figuring this out).

OP is laughing because he/she is a troll and their posts get increasngly nonsensical and the garner more and more attention frm responders. Time to ignore and dead this thread.

I’m not a troll. I’m being sarcastic. When I said this is hilarious I meant it as in, “wow I can’t believe this”.

So crazy, right?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, if you’re supposed to be spending the weekend with this new guy, and he is supposedly into you, why do you have so much time to post here? He’d be all over you all weekend keeping your hands occupied.

Well bc we’ve had a lot of down time. I’ll respond when he walks the dog, playing video games, or when he’s on his own phone too. He posted about his dog so I figured it was a good time to respond. We’ve been mainly in the house.

So you flew to see him and he’s playing video games? Classy.

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Anonymous wrote:Pandemic, anyone?

Can trolls get COVID?

I’m not a troll
Plenty of people are flying

Yes, and that’s the problem.

A man that makes the effort to fly to you. That’s what you should aim for. He is just not into you.

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Anonymous wrote:HE TEXTED HER HAPPY VALENTINES DAY with a heart emoji lmao.

The ex screen shot it and put it the group the group chat with my cousin.
This is hilarious.

Why are you laughing? You should be crying. He is not over her. You have your answer (although it was already clear). Leave. He is not the guy. He still wants her. You are being stupid and being used. Find someone who wants you. He does not want you.

Yes, why are you laughing? You spent money and time to fly to him to spend your weekend with him.
Please respect yourself. You are the tail end of your own joke if you are truly laughing.

A healthy emotional response would be a mix of disappointment, frustration, anger and also relief (that you now know and didn’t end up wasting more time figuring this out).

OP is laughing because he/she is a troll and their posts get increasngly nonsensical and the garner more and more attention frm responders. Time to ignore and dead this thread.

I’m not a troll. I’m being sarcastic. When I said this is hilarious I meant it as in, “wow I can’t believe this”.

You flew your dumbass out there despite everyone telling you what it was and now you want to act surprised. You aren't shocked girl, you're embarrassed. Take your dumbass home and stop playing games on the internet.

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Anonymous wrote:Seriously, if he’s good in bed boink your brains out for the rest of time you’re there, and then go home and be done with him. This is not your life partner, and if you just want some s*x, you can find that much closer to home.

He’s probably not because he’s too busy thinking of his ex while inside of OP - and I’m not joking.

I didn’t say to do that for HIS benefit. She should make sure she’s having a good time.

Anonymous wrote:Seriously, if he’s good in bed boink your brains out for the rest of time you’re there, and then go home and be done with him. This is not your life partner, and if you just want some s*x, you can find that much closer to home.

He’s probably not because he’s too busy thinking of his ex while inside of OP - and I’m not joking.

Seriously, if he’s good in bed boink your brains out for the rest of time you’re there, and then go home and be done with him. This is not your life partner, and if you just want some s*x, you can find that much closer to home.

Anonymous wrote:This dude is playing video games and scrolling on his phone while you just sit there? After you flew all the way there to see him? Why are you not walking the dog with him?

I am wanting to yell at you because you are just.so.naive and - well, clueless. I don’t understand.

And that’s not even addressing the v-day text, about which you will undoubtedly say, “well, how does a valentines text to his ex mean he’s not into me? I don’t understand.” GIRL, c’mon!!!

This dude is playing video games and scrolling on his phone while you just sit there? After you flew all the way there to see him? Why are you not walking the dog with him?

I am wanting to yell at you because you are just.so.naive and - well, clueless. I don’t understand.

Please get into therapy. You need to figure out why “sweet and attentive” is enough. You turned your BS meter off (if you even have one) because he was sweet and attentive. You were attaching so much to sweet and attentive. And he hasn’t emotionally pulled away—he was playing video games while you were there. That’s as checked out as it gets.

So this guy gets no strings attached sex and still gets to chill and play video games. And why aren’t you walking the dog with him?

Please tell me you haven’t spent any money this weekend. Because if you had to pay for the plane ticket, he should be buying everything this weekend.

Did he get you anything for V-day?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:HE TEXTED HER HAPPY VALENTINES DAY with a heart emoji lmao.

The ex screen shot it and put it the group the group chat with my cousin.
This is hilarious.

Why are you laughing? You should be crying. He is not over her. You have your answer (although it was already clear). Leave. He is not the guy. He still wants her. You are being stupid and being used. Find someone who wants you. He does not want you.

Yes, why are you laughing? You spent money and time to fly to him to spend your weekend with him.
Please respect yourself. You are the tail end of your own joke if you are truly laughing.

A healthy emotional response would be a mix of disappointment, frustration, anger and also relief (that you now know and didn’t end up wasting more time figuring this out).

OP is laughing because he/she is a troll and their posts get increasngly nonsensical and the garner more and more attention frm responders. Time to ignore and dead this thread.

I’m not a troll. I’m being sarcastic. When I said this is hilarious I meant it as in, “wow I can’t believe this”.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:HE TEXTED HER HAPPY VALENTINES DAY with a heart emoji lmao.

The ex screen shot it and put it the group the group chat with my cousin.
This is hilarious.

Why are you laughing? You should be crying. He is not over her. You have your answer (although it was already clear). Leave. He is not the guy. He still wants her. You are being stupid and being used. Find someone who wants you. He does not want you.

I’m being sarcastic...I’m not actually laughing...

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:HE TEXTED HER HAPPY VALENTINES DAY with a heart emoji lmao.

The ex screen shot it and put it the group the group chat with my cousin.
This is hilarious.

Why are you laughing? You should be crying. He is not over her. You have your answer (although it was already clear). Leave. He is not the guy. He still wants her. You are being stupid and being used. Find someone who wants you. He does not want you.

Yes, why are you laughing? You spent money and time to fly to him to spend your weekend with him.
Please respect yourself. You are the tail end of your own joke if you are truly laughing.

A healthy emotional response would be a mix of disappointment, frustration, anger and also relief (that you now know and didn’t end up wasting more time figuring this out).

OP is laughing because he/she is a troll and their posts get increasngly nonsensical and the garner more and more attention frm responders. Time to ignore and dead this thread.