Anonymous
Post 02/11/2021 22:08     Subject: Re:Are you letting your teens hang at friends houses, inside?
I think we made it until June before we stopped restricting our kids movements. I don't know a single person who doesn't let their teens socialize inside homes. Not one. One of my teens also works at wegmans and worked unmasked until it became mandatory (which I think was June??). Considering he interacts with mobs and mobs of people daily and really ramped up his hours March-June when people were frantically buying rice and potatoes for the apocalypse it would be pretty silly to not allow our kids to see their friends.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2021 13:04     Subject: Are you letting your teens hang at friends houses, inside?
Not inside. Outdoors only. Tweens.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2021 12:09     Subject: Re:Are you letting your teens hang at friends houses, inside?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Everyone who says no drives wearing a mask alone in their car.


I truly don’t understand this sentiment. Risk isn’t all or nothing, and we all make choices about the risks we are willing to take.

Our family is trying to be guided by the science, which says that outdoors is better than indoors, that indoor with windows open and masks on for limited periods is best if you have to be with people from outside your household. If you have to take risks in certain areas, you should limit risks as much as possible in other areas.

The riskiest thing I do is grocery shop in person; I wear the best quality mask I have and limit my time in the store. I run quick errands to the drug store and to pick up take out food from restaurants. We see grandparents and friends occasionally, outside and masked and distanced. Our kids see friends outside and masked and distanced. We aren’t having indoor social gatherings, period: adult, kid, or family. This works for us and feels like a reasonable risk balance.

Why is it so hard to fathom?

Exactly this.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2021 12:06     Subject: Re:Are you letting your teens hang at friends houses, inside?
Anonymous wrote:My sister lives in Alabama, and they have had school as usual all this year. Socializing teens as usual - football games, cheer practice, homecoming, parties indoors. I see all her pictures. Sometimes a kid or two is wearing a mask but mostly not.

Her husband and one of her kids did get COVID. As did many of their friends. But no one had it bad, apparently. They just aren't worried about it.



It's cool, they (very possibly) just gave it to someone who gave it to someone who died, and they'll never know.

I know that seems harsh, but it is actually simply factual. It is why we have half a million people dead even WITH most people not living life as usual. I'm a NP to this thread and people talking about how comments like mine are some sort of performative display of martyrdom and superiority and like... I don't understand* how people don't understand that this is not just an individual choice. You can say you're fine getting COVID, and chances are if you're young and otherwise healthy, you will be (though who knows the long term effects), but if caring about others I'll never meet makes me a wild-eyed, beer-barrel-smashing nutcase, so be it.

It is simply factual that, in the US, if you take no or few precautions while interacting with multiple other people who are also acting the way you are, you either don't understand how this virus spreads or you care very little, if at all, about people you haven't formally met. At minimum.

Really don't see any valid counterargument.


*Actually, I kinda do. Lacking and non-cohesive public messaging, with political polarization.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2021 11:52     Subject: Are you letting your teens hang at friends houses, inside?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:NO.

Outside, with mask, no eating or drinking.



NP. This is us as well.

Not going to plow through 12 pages of this thread because I know there will be the usual "let teens be teens" and "kids and teens dont' get sick from Covid" nonsense.

Outside AND masked, only. No eating or drinking.

Fortunately my DD and her friends are very aware of all this and are not balking at this at all. DD saw her best friend for the first time in many months but both stayed masked about 10 feet apart and were wonderful about it. DD noted that her peers really want to be able to get back to school and know that if they don't mask and distance and stay home, they are responsible for keepiong schools closed etc. I wish more adults were as aware as some teens seem to be.


I will probably be attacked for this, but one thing I love about having kids in private school is that it makes the choices outside of school so much easier for them and for me. They are grateful to have the opportunity to learn in person, so when it comes to any other risky behavior, the answer is "no." They sat out Halloween parties that their public school friends attended, sleepovers with small groups, and other indoor gatherings without any pushback. It is one thing to talk about making a sacrifice for the good of the community, but it is so much easier to understand their personal responsibility to protect their teachers and the school community in more direct sense.


I’m a public school parent and this makes a lot of sense to me.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2021 11:51     Subject: Are you letting your teens hang at friends houses, inside?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:NO.

Outside, with mask, no eating or drinking.



NP. This is us as well.

Not going to plow through 12 pages of this thread because I know there will be the usual "let teens be teens" and "kids and teens dont' get sick from Covid" nonsense.

Outside AND masked, only. No eating or drinking.

Fortunately my DD and her friends are very aware of all this and are not balking at this at all. DD saw her best friend for the first time in many months but both stayed masked about 10 feet apart and were wonderful about it. DD noted that her peers really want to be able to get back to school and know that if they don't mask and distance and stay home, they are responsible for keepiong schools closed etc. I wish more adults were as aware as some teens seem to be.


Same with us and you are wise not to read the whole thread. Some posts I think were deleted, but yes there is the camp claiming you are a delusional psychomama if you follow these guidelines as opposed to letting your kid socialize inside with food.


Oh but the poor bored young adults who apparently can alleviate their woes inside and unmasked.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2021 11:37     Subject: Are you letting your teens hang at friends houses, inside?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:NO.

Outside, with mask, no eating or drinking.



NP. This is us as well.

Not going to plow through 12 pages of this thread because I know there will be the usual "let teens be teens" and "kids and teens dont' get sick from Covid" nonsense.

Outside AND masked, only. No eating or drinking.

Fortunately my DD and her friends are very aware of all this and are not balking at this at all. DD saw her best friend for the first time in many months but both stayed masked about 10 feet apart and were wonderful about it. DD noted that her peers really want to be able to get back to school and know that if they don't mask and distance and stay home, they are responsible for keepiong schools closed etc. I wish more adults were as aware as some teens seem to be.


I will probably be attacked for this, but one thing I love about having kids in private school is that it makes the choices outside of school so much easier for them and for me. They are grateful to have the opportunity to learn in person, so when it comes to any other risky behavior, the answer is "no." They sat out Halloween parties that their public school friends attended, sleepovers with small groups, and other indoor gatherings without any pushback. It is one thing to talk about making a sacrifice for the good of the community, but it is so much easier to understand their personal responsibility to protect their teachers and the school community in more direct sense.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2021 11:33     Subject: Are you letting your teens hang at friends houses, inside?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:NO.

Outside, with mask, no eating or drinking.



NP. This is us as well.

Not going to plow through 12 pages of this thread because I know there will be the usual "let teens be teens" and "kids and teens dont' get sick from Covid" nonsense.

Outside AND masked, only. No eating or drinking.

Fortunately my DD and her friends are very aware of all this and are not balking at this at all. DD saw her best friend for the first time in many months but both stayed masked about 10 feet apart and were wonderful about it. DD noted that her peers really want to be able to get back to school and know that if they don't mask and distance and stay home, they are responsible for keepiong schools closed etc. I wish more adults were as aware as some teens seem to be.


Same with us and you are wise not to read the whole thread. Some posts I think were deleted, but yes there is the camp claiming you are a delusional psychomama if you follow these guidelines as opposed to letting your kid socialize inside with food.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2021 11:31     Subject: Re:Are you letting your teens hang at friends houses, inside?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes. Schools are opening. Metrics are low. Cases are dropping. Time to get back to normal.


Um, I think I'll get my advice from Dr. Fauci, not a random internet stranger on DCUM.


Hasn’t Dr. Fauci said for months that we should be looking for ways to open school?


He did NOT say life can go back to normal. Yes, he wants kids in school...in masks.,..socially distanced. That is not life as normal.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2021 11:14     Subject: Are you letting your teens hang at friends houses, inside?
Anonymous wrote:NO.

Outside, with mask, no eating or drinking.



NP. This is us as well.

Not going to plow through 12 pages of this thread because I know there will be the usual "let teens be teens" and "kids and teens dont' get sick from Covid" nonsense.

Outside AND masked, only. No eating or drinking.

Fortunately my DD and her friends are very aware of all this and are not balking at this at all. DD saw her best friend for the first time in many months but both stayed masked about 10 feet apart and were wonderful about it. DD noted that her peers really want to be able to get back to school and know that if they don't mask and distance and stay home, they are responsible for keepiong schools closed etc. I wish more adults were as aware as some teens seem to be.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2021 10:24     Subject: Re:Are you letting your teens hang at friends houses, inside?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes. Schools are opening. Metrics are low. Cases are dropping. Time to get back to normal.


Um, I think I'll get my advice from Dr. Fauci, not a random internet stranger on DCUM.


Hasn’t Dr. Fauci said for months that we should be looking for ways to open school?
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2021 09:59     Subject: Re:Are you letting your teens hang at friends houses, inside?
Anonymous wrote:Yes. Schools are opening. Metrics are low. Cases are dropping. Time to get back to normal.


Um, I think I'll get my advice from Dr. Fauci, not a random internet stranger on DCUM.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2021 08:51     Subject: Re:Are you letting your teens hang at friends houses, inside?
My sister lives in Alabama, and they have had school as usual all this year. Socializing teens as usual - football games, cheer practice, homecoming, parties indoors. I see all her pictures. Sometimes a kid or two is wearing a mask but mostly not.

Her husband and one of her kids did get COVID. As did many of their friends. But no one had it bad, apparently. They just aren't worried about it.

Anonymous
Post 02/11/2021 08:02     Subject: Re:Are you letting your teens hang at friends houses, inside?
Yes. Schools are opening. Metrics are low. Cases are dropping. Time to get back to normal.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2021 06:42     Subject: Are you letting your teens hang at friends houses, inside?
I don’t know anyone personally who is doing indoor gatherings or sleepovers.