I honestly believe that men usually do not find fat women attractive, but they have entirely different definitions of “fat”.

Growing up with three brothers, I can tell you men do not think about weight nearly as much as you think they do.

Will they find a skinny model attractive? Sure. But it’s not because she’s 5’10 and 115. It’s because she’s half naked with a come hither glance and exposing titties. He’d find the 5’5, 130 lb girl next store just as attractive - if not more - if she stood in front of him baring her breasts. Men are so, so simple.

Say a woman is 5’5. An uber critical, DCUM basic white chick is going to say she needs to lose ten pounds if she’s 130 or she’s ewwww fat if 140. Men will find that weight PERFECTLY fine. Especially if it came with boobs (are you noticing a theme here?)

If you have “assets”, men will probably find you hot even at a few pounds overweight (which the weights above are not)

The difference though is if a woman is 5’5, 200, and delusional, then yes, men will probably be harsher critics. When men make fun of “fat chicks”, and yes they’d be immature jerks out loud, they mean the 200 lb woman not the 140 lb woman.

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Anonymous wrote:DH is super fit but he definitely likes a few curves on me. I don’t vary my weight much but once lost some weight due to stress and he kept encouraging me to find ways to de-stress and get my appetite back because he was worried. I’m sure many men would have been happy that I lost weight. I’ve got a keeper (I’m 5’9” and about 140# which feels very “normal” to be - but I certainly could be skinnier if I really tried- but I am very happy with my fitness level and my eating habits).

Really fit men can be the most insecure guys. They seem to date less fit women as they are insecure..about what..I don’t know. Just my own observation.

Some men prefer a big fat woman they can control and manipulate. These men on this show wanted a fat woman and divorced the women when they became thin and healthy

https://www.intouchweekly.com/posts/my-600-lb-life-married-update-154992/

Funny. There were examples in this very thread about husbands manipulating their skinny wives - to the point where they are measuring food to ensure they don't eat too much.

Sounds like the common denominator is manipulative men finding insecure women no matter what the size of woman.

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Anonymous wrote:DH is super fit but he definitely likes a few curves on me. I don’t vary my weight much but once lost some weight due to stress and he kept encouraging me to find ways to de-stress and get my appetite back because he was worried. I’m sure many men would have been happy that I lost weight. I’ve got a keeper (I’m 5’9” and about 140# which feels very “normal” to be - but I certainly could be skinnier if I really tried- but I am very happy with my fitness level and my eating habits).

Really fit men can be the most insecure guys. They seem to date less fit women as they are insecure..about what..I don’t know. Just my own observation.

Some men prefer a big fat woman they can control and manipulate. These men on this show wanted a fat woman and divorced the women when they became thin and healthy

https://www.intouchweekly.com/posts/my-600-lb-life-married-update-154992/

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Anonymous wrote:It’s mean to say fatty and it is mean to say bony. Period. NP.

It's immature to lie and gossip about my love life like the op and pp. Period.

Why is it mean to say you're fat when you're fat? Are we looking at people with beer goggles?

You are mixing up several different posters.

Apparently several posters have called you on your crazy and insecure behavior.

There is nothing wrong with being fat... as your ex knows well.

Didn't say there was. Its all in YOUR HEAD. Obviously if you are big you get offended when someone calls you big or fat even if you are. You get offended at any mention of fat even when you are. Whose gotta change? You, not me.

Anonymous wrote:DH is super fit but he definitely likes a few curves on me. I don’t vary my weight much but once lost some weight due to stress and he kept encouraging me to find ways to de-stress and get my appetite back because he was worried. I’m sure many men would have been happy that I lost weight. I’ve got a keeper (I’m 5’9” and about 140# which feels very “normal” to be - but I certainly could be skinnier if I really tried- but I am very happy with my fitness level and my eating habits).

Really fit men can be the most insecure guys. They seem to date less fit women as they are insecure..about what..I don’t know. Just my own observation.

Why would you care what men like??

In my experience, men prefer a bit more weight (but still in the healthy/normal weight range). While women are obsessing over our arms looking fat, men are just noticing that our boobs are bigger.

Anonymous wrote:I like my women to be like my vehicles, big and comfy.

So....they're like the Love Boat while you're the little Dinghy.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s mean to say fatty and it is mean to say bony. Period. NP.

It's immature to lie and gossip about my love life like the op and pp. Period.

Why is it mean to say you're fat when you're fat? Are we looking at people with beer goggles?

You are mixing up several different posters.

Apparently several posters have called you on your crazy and insecure behavior.

There is nothing wrong with being fat... as your ex knows well.

Anonymous wrote:I like my women to be like my vehicles, big and comfy.

With lots of tread on the tires, backup assist, bucket seat and giant cupholders too.

I like my women to be like my vehicles, big and comfy.

I get way more male attention when I’m on the upper end of my normal weight range.

I’m 5’4.

105-110 men were actively not interested and I definitely looked skinny. I kind of liked it.

125-130: I turn a lot of heads and get checked out way more regularly. This is my husbands favorite weight range, as well

115-120: This is where I usually am. I feel I look best here and men seem fine with it but I don’t get ogled as much (which is fine by me).

Anonymous wrote:It’s mean to say fatty and it is mean to say bony. Period. NP.

It's immature to lie and gossip about my love life like the op and pp. Period.

Why is it mean to say you're fat when you're fat? Are we looking at people with beer goggles?

It’s mean to say fatty and it is mean to say bony. Period. NP.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, is you bf a black guy?
The brothers seem to like a lot of junk in the trunk.

He's fully white

My dh is fully white and married me because he is not so attracted to skinny women.

Yeah. Im thin too and my white ex bf fooled me into thinking he liked skinny girls. He has dated cankled fatty with chubby fingers after another. The one hes with now has a body of a farmer.

You sound super bitter but this post was hilarious.

Thanks for proving that people who put down larger and fat women are in fact jealous and insecure. Because bad body or not she's got your man while you sound mad as hell about it. LMAO.

Why would I be jealous about a weird fat fetish or women with cankles and fat hands? Its weird he encourages them to gain more weight but with me he was all organic this and smoothie that. I have a more sane man now because beautiful and attractive women can get any type

... Well either you aren't beautiful and attractive or you can't get and keep any type of man because you couldn't keep him. And yes you are still obsessed since you are keeping tabs on all his girlfriends after you. Must hurt to have a farmer pull your man.

I swear this has been the funniest post i've seen on DCUM this month, possible top 3 comment ever on DCUM. Kudos, PP.

FYI I didn't want him. I broke up with him weirdo.

I said dated. He had 1 girlfriend after me. He kept me on his social media.

You must be a 400lb fatty sitting typing furiously angry that I offended your kind with my cankles and fat hands remark

NP. You really need to seek therapy. You do sound very angry and deranged. And the jealousy JUMPED out

Right. Np? You're the same fat poster who was offended at the truthful cankles and fat hands remark.

Nope that was a DP. I'm the OP you were responding to. I guarantee that:
A) am not 400 lbs, no cankles, or fat fingers
B) You clearly kept up with him. Otherwise how would you know how many girlfriends he had or what they looked like? Or care enough to remember.
C) Doubtful that you dumped him since you seem to be obsessed over who he is dating and how you compare to them. Apparently you don't stack up. Shame.

Agree with the other poster, therapy would do you some good. Also a hamburger... maybe you can win him back!

Do you know how to read? I said he dated and had one girlfriend after me and only after he tried to reel me back in several times after I broke up with him. He told me everything.

Therapy would benefit you and the so called DP. You both seem oddly insecure about your weight!

Oh... adding to the story now? I doubt he tried to reel you back in. You are too obsessed with what he is doing for you to have been the one dumping him.

I'm not insecure in anything. I haven't denigrated anyone's body type. You seem to be the one intent tearing others down - particularly your ex's current girlfriends. It must be tough knowing you weren't pretty enough to keep him and that a 'farmer' looks better than you. Your personality probably sent him running faster than your looks though.

What are you talking about? What is he doing for me? Wtf are you weirdo? You're an anon on here with no knowledge about my love life.

You're a liar based on what you said,

I feel self conscious when naked in bed next to him.

You are insecure enough to start a whole topic about your insecurity so you're def in need of therapy. Your man's weird fat fetish reminds me of the 600lb life wives who stay in relationships with skinny husbands who feed them into diabetes and leave them when they get healthy and lose the weight.