Anonymous wrote:Op- I don't like the sound of this. The way it came out--and only then her saying something. She sounds dishonest. If a year in and you don't know prior history--most people when they get serious volunteer everything about past relationship and timelines.

Shady. She sounds shady. Think about if you want to find out about her multiple Ashley Madison affairs in 20 years when you are married and have kids with her.

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Anonymous wrote:He is a man with feelings and his feeling are his truth and valid. That is all that matters. Feelings = truth. The bonus is that as a man with feelings he has overcome toxic masculinity. The problem here is that as soon as he expressed his truth many people on this post started to denigrate him for having those feelings. It is wrong to force your values onto him by telling him they were not exclusive etc. If he feels upset about it then #truth.

all of that can be true along with the fact that she did nothing wrong.

Yes, she did something wrong. She was wrong not to be completely straightforward with OP about her sleeping with other men even before she and OP were “exclusive”. He deserved to have that information so that he could express his opinion about it. If he breaks up with her now because she wasn’t totally honest up front, that’s on her.

No, honey. That's on him. She owed him nothing. They went on five dates before she stopped seeing the other guy!!! I can't imagine telling a guy I've been on five dates with everyone I slept with. You sound deranged.

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Whoops what? What I said based on what OP posted originally still stands. Now that he knows she ACTUALLY cheated on him my opinion is different. Lying is not ok, but he did not pot anything originally indicating that she lied and cheated.

There were plenty of indications that more was going on, as multiple posters pointed out. You just chose to ignore it.

Not by anything OP posted. Only what you all chose to invent based on your sad lives and projection.

It appears none of it was invented.

Yes, it was until OP's update this morning.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. We are no longer together. More information came out and it wasn’t one time. The guy said they had been hooping up for months until he got back with his ex. His timeline would put them still sleeping together when we were 3-4 months into dating. She admitted it was more hens once but didn’t want to say anything because she realized she really liked me. I broke up with her and I’m moving on.

Best of luck out there Dating in the Time of Covid

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Anonymous wrote:He is a man with feelings and his feeling are his truth and valid. That is all that matters. Feelings = truth. The bonus is that as a man with feelings he has overcome toxic masculinity. The problem here is that as soon as he expressed his truth many people on this post started to denigrate him for having those feelings. It is wrong to force your values onto him by telling him they were not exclusive etc. If he feels upset about it then #truth.

all of that can be true along with the fact that she did nothing wrong.

Yes, she did something wrong. She was wrong not to be completely straightforward with OP about her sleeping with other men even before she and OP were “exclusive”. He deserved to have that information so that he could express his opinion about it. If he breaks up with her now because she wasn’t totally honest up front, that’s on her.

No, honey. That's on him. She owed him nothing. They went on five dates before she stopped seeing the other guy!!! I can't imagine telling a guy I've been on five dates with everyone I slept with. You sound deranged.

Whoops!

Whoops what? What I said based on what OP posted originally still stands. Now that he knows she ACTUALLY cheated on him my opinion is different. Lying is not ok, but he did not pot anything originally indicating that she lied and cheated.

There were plenty of indications that more was going on, as multiple posters pointed out. You just chose to ignore it.

Not by anything OP posted. Only what you all chose to invent based on your sad lives and projection.

It appears none of it was invented.

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Anonymous wrote:He is a man with feelings and his feeling are his truth and valid. That is all that matters. Feelings = truth. The bonus is that as a man with feelings he has overcome toxic masculinity. The problem here is that as soon as he expressed his truth many people on this post started to denigrate him for having those feelings. It is wrong to force your values onto him by telling him they were not exclusive etc. If he feels upset about it then #truth.

all of that can be true along with the fact that she did nothing wrong.

Yes, she did something wrong. She was wrong not to be completely straightforward with OP about her sleeping with other men even before she and OP were “exclusive”. He deserved to have that information so that he could express his opinion about it. If he breaks up with her now because she wasn’t totally honest up front, that’s on her.

No, honey. That's on him. She owed him nothing. They went on five dates before she stopped seeing the other guy!!! I can't imagine telling a guy I've been on five dates with everyone I slept with. You sound deranged.

Whoops!

Whoops what? What I said based on what OP posted originally still stands. Now that he knows she ACTUALLY cheated on him my opinion is different. Lying is not ok, but he did not pot anything originally indicating that she lied and cheated.

There were plenty of indications that more was going on, as multiple posters pointed out. You just chose to ignore it.

Not by anything OP posted. Only what you all chose to invent based on your sad lives and projection.

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Anonymous wrote:He is a man with feelings and his feeling are his truth and valid. That is all that matters. Feelings = truth. The bonus is that as a man with feelings he has overcome toxic masculinity. The problem here is that as soon as he expressed his truth many people on this post started to denigrate him for having those feelings. It is wrong to force your values onto him by telling him they were not exclusive etc. If he feels upset about it then #truth.

all of that can be true along with the fact that she did nothing wrong.

Yes, she did something wrong. She was wrong not to be completely straightforward with OP about her sleeping with other men even before she and OP were “exclusive”. He deserved to have that information so that he could express his opinion about it. If he breaks up with her now because she wasn’t totally honest up front, that’s on her.

No, honey. That's on him. She owed him nothing. They went on five dates before she stopped seeing the other guy!!! I can't imagine telling a guy I've been on five dates with everyone I slept with. You sound deranged.

Whoops!

Whoops what? What I said based on what OP posted originally still stands. Now that he knows she ACTUALLY cheated on him my opinion is different. Lying is not ok, but he did not pot anything originally indicating that she lied and cheated.

There were plenty of indications that more was going on, as multiple posters pointed out. You just chose to ignore it.

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Anonymous wrote:He is a man with feelings and his feeling are his truth and valid. That is all that matters. Feelings = truth. The bonus is that as a man with feelings he has overcome toxic masculinity. The problem here is that as soon as he expressed his truth many people on this post started to denigrate him for having those feelings. It is wrong to force your values onto him by telling him they were not exclusive etc. If he feels upset about it then #truth.

all of that can be true along with the fact that she did nothing wrong.

Yes, she did something wrong. She was wrong not to be completely straightforward with OP about her sleeping with other men even before she and OP were “exclusive”. He deserved to have that information so that he could express his opinion about it. If he breaks up with her now because she wasn’t totally honest up front, that’s on her.

No, honey. That's on him. She owed him nothing. They went on five dates before she stopped seeing the other guy!!! I can't imagine telling a guy I've been on five dates with everyone I slept with. You sound deranged.

Whoops!

Whoops what? What I said based on what OP posted originally still stands. Now that he knows she ACTUALLY cheated on him my opinion is different. Lying is not ok, but he did not pot anything originally indicating that she lied and cheated.

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Anonymous wrote:He is a man with feelings and his feeling are his truth and valid. That is all that matters. Feelings = truth. The bonus is that as a man with feelings he has overcome toxic masculinity. The problem here is that as soon as he expressed his truth many people on this post started to denigrate him for having those feelings. It is wrong to force your values onto him by telling him they were not exclusive etc. If he feels upset about it then #truth.

all of that can be true along with the fact that she did nothing wrong.

Yes, she did something wrong. She was wrong not to be completely straightforward with OP about her sleeping with other men even before she and OP were “exclusive”. He deserved to have that information so that he could express his opinion about it. If he breaks up with her now because she wasn’t totally honest up front, that’s on her.

No, honey. That's on him. She owed him nothing. They went on five dates before she stopped seeing the other guy!!! I can't imagine telling a guy I've been on five dates with everyone I slept with. You sound deranged.

Whoops!

Anonymous wrote:OP here. We are no longer together. More information came out and it wasn’t one time. The guy said they had been hooping up for months until he got back with his ex. His timeline would put them still sleeping together when we were 3-4 months into dating. She admitted it was more hens once but didn’t want to say anything because she realized she really liked me. I broke up with her and I’m moving on.

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Anonymous wrote:He is a man with feelings and his feeling are his truth and valid. That is all that matters. Feelings = truth. The bonus is that as a man with feelings he has overcome toxic masculinity. The problem here is that as soon as he expressed his truth many people on this post started to denigrate him for having those feelings. It is wrong to force your values onto him by telling him they were not exclusive etc. If he feels upset about it then #truth.

all of that can be true along with the fact that she did nothing wrong.

Yes, she did something wrong. She was wrong not to be completely straightforward with OP about her sleeping with other men even before she and OP were “exclusive”. He deserved to have that information so that he could express his opinion about it. If he breaks up with her now because she wasn’t totally honest up front, that’s on her.

No, honey. That's on him. She owed him nothing. They went on five dates before she stopped seeing the other guy!!! I can't imagine telling a guy I've been on five dates with everyone I slept with. You sound deranged.