Anonymous wrote:Get married, have kids.

Problem solved.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a middle schooler who has ADHD and is very intelligent. She has a remarkable amount of background knowledge in a variety of subjects and an incredible memory. Her mind works very fast and she can speed read. She hyper focuses on the things she finds interesting, but cannot focus on anything else. She has no executive skills. She also has no trust fund, so she will have to grind it out every day like every other working stiff when she’s an adult. “Magical Thinking” is very common with ADHD - but so is having the ability to engage in “higher level thinking,” while simultaneously being unable to handle life’s minutiae. You need to treat your ADHD. There are so many different medications now. They won’t all affect you the same way.

When you start a new job, is your mindset that it’s only a temporary thing, or that you’re just doing this job until something better comes along, or that you’ll just try it out and if you don’t like it you can always just quit? That’s not how successful people approach a job. You need to change your mindset. Working with a therapist is a critical part of doing that.

You really do need coaching, and you need to make an honest assessment of why you never hold a job for more than 6 months. Is it because you don’t like the daily grind and your trust fund allows you to escape it? Because you get bored easily? Because you fall behind in your work and don’t want to face the consequences? Because you think the kinds of jobs you can get are beneath you? Because you don’t like being told what to do? Because more is expected of you once you’re no longer a new employee, but you haven’t mastered the necessary skills to take on more responsibility? Are you too embarrassed to ask questions and let people know that you haven’t mastered the job yet? Do you flounder when it comes to office politics? You may need an executive skills coach or a career coach or both - but you won’t know what you need until you’re honest with yourself about what your issues are.

Besides hiring a career coach or

This strikes me as absolutely spot on.

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Many on DCUM dont seem to understand ADHD

I'm the only one in my house without ADHD, so I get it really, really well. I think it's sad that someone well-off enough to be able to live off a trust fund was never given appropriate medical, psychological, and executive function care to have reached their mid-30s without being able to manage it better, though I guess OP's got a safety net most other people do not so it was easier to quit a job she found mundane because rent money could come from the trust. We have two ADHD tweens who have regular psychiatric are and executive function coaches to deal with this now before it hits crisis mode.

Appropriate care of ADHD and some sort of career coach, stat - before diving into another job, before spending money on professional or graduate school. Healthcare first.

Anonymous wrote:I am just wondering why no one pushed back on the OP's comments about lawyers not making much money? I mean....

OP, JDs or MBAs both have the potential to bring home $250-500 a year but it will require lots of work and focus. You take on debt, school will be demanding and then you will still land in roles like associate at a law firm or analyst at an investment bank. You will need to have discipline to pay back the loans also.

Why has no one suggested entrepreneur? Is there a business you are passionate about building? Lots of successful entrepreneurs did horrible in traditional workplaces, including my current boss. In your situation you can manage more risk than most. Do you have presence? Can you pitch investors?

Anonymous wrote:I am just wondering why no one pushed back on the OP's comments about lawyers not making much money? I mean....

OP, JDs or MBAs both have the potential to bring home $250-500 a year but it will require lots of work and focus. You take on debt, school will be demanding and then you will still land in roles like associate at a law firm or analyst at an investment bank. You will need to have discipline to pay back the loans also.

Why has no one suggested entrepreneur? Is there a business you are passionate about building? Lots of successful entrepreneurs did horrible in traditional workplaces, including my current boss. In your situation you can manage more risk than most. Do you have presence? Can you pitch investors?