Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^ sorry. Ours lasted a long time. The passion was unbelievable. We have many letters from those days.

We had a great marriage for a long time. Kids and busy schedules came along and my dad (my true best friend) got terminal cancer and struggled severely for 3 years before dying it totally consumed me...

My partner went out and had an affair during this time.

Truly devastating. He had a horrific childhood like I describe above. He’s doing everything in his power—everything to change himself and fix things. The only thing we have going is a very long shared history and deep love prior to things going off the rails.

Not sure how this will end.

You're pretty nice about it. Sorry about your dad, but that's when your partner is suppose to be there. And it wasn't even you having the cancer.

How would that translate into having an affair? Is it possible you happen to catch him that one time, but there were others?

Also, what happens when another life event occurs?? Sorry but I'd be done after stabbing me in the back while my dad was dying. That would cause true hatred.

Anonymous wrote:^ sorry. Ours lasted a long time. The passion was unbelievable. We have many letters from those days.

We had a great marriage for a long time. Kids and busy schedules came along and my dad (my true best friend) got terminal cancer and struggled severely for 3 years before dying it totally consumed me...

My partner went out and had an affair during this time.

Truly devastating. He had a horrific childhood like I describe above. He’s doing everything in his power—everything to change himself and fix things. The only thing we have going is a very long shared history and deep love prior to things going off the rails.

Not sure how this will end.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^+100

A cheater I know said AP started using “love” and he would answer “me too”. He said he would say it to keep the arrangement going. He wanted to have his cake and eat it too, but never had deep level feelings for AP. He deeply loved his wife and kids and ended up losing them when wife found out. Lost an entire life and family for some middle-aged, close to menopause p@ssy and be admittedly says “not that great sex anyways.” Pathetic sad story and he is miserable now. Wife, btw, is thriving. He never thought he would get caught and I think he banked on his wife never leaving him. His wife was hilarious, attractive, successful and I know they had a wild sex life in their marriage, threesomes, etc pre-kids.

EVERYBODY had (... past tense... your verb) a good sex live pre-kids.... what is the point in even making that statement? And how is that relevant to the standard marriage trajectory where she lost interest so he found it elsewhere? Nothing said about this breakup. What are you talking about "losing his kids" are you saying he did not want the standard 50/50 custody that every father is granted? Their marriage ended back when his wife lost interest (before he sought an AP).He lost a room mate, not a wife. Good for him!

Because you do everything to work on the marriage. People do not understand marriage. There are different phases. You don’t take the easy way out and run out and have affairs at the mid-way point. You get help. You go to therapy. You communicate. You build a plan to get back on track. Ask people that have been married a long, long time. Read Michelle Obama’s book about the severe trouble they had in their marriage after the kids were born—for years. They did intensive counseling and got back on track.

I was lucky. Driving home from my wedding dress fitting my mom and sister spoke about how there will be times in the marriage I will hate my spouse. I will not even want to look at him. That this is normal. It passes and you grow stronger together. My parents have been married 55 years and I never noticed these periods in their marriage, but my mom said they were there. They always seemed happy. You should not expect a fairy tale and not continually put time and effort into a long marriage. Or you can just live a single life of repetitive short affairs never experiencing true intimacy.

I remember being in a total infatuated love cloud when they were telling me this and looking to my bridesmaid in the back seat and thinking “wtf?!”. I also cavalierly thought “yeah. That won’t be us it will always be smooth sailing. I was 28”.

Here I am 50, 22 years of marriage and I know now what they mean. No marriage is all “up”, fun times 24/7. You weather the ups and downs together and what comes out of that is profound. Too many people either settled and married the wrong person or hit the first major obstacle and look for a way out or an affair.

Anonymous wrote:Your wife does not want to have sex with you. Again, your wife does not want to have sex with you.

Your situation is not the same for many, many people that have many varying different reasons for infidelity.

You can only see things through your own experience which is not the same for all people that cheat.

You are bitterly angry at your wife and it comes out in your continuous posting about it in many different threads.

Frankly, based on how nasty you are in all of your posts I can’t blame your wife for not wanting your d@ck anywhere near her.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^+100

A cheater I know said AP started using “love” and he would answer “me too”. He said he would say it to keep the arrangement going. He wanted to have his cake and eat it too, but never had deep level feelings for AP. He deeply loved his wife and kids and ended up losing them when wife found out. Lost an entire life and family for some middle-aged, close to menopause p@ssy and be admittedly says “not that great sex anyways.” Pathetic sad story and he is miserable now. Wife, btw, is thriving. He never thought he would get caught and I think he banked on his wife never leaving him. His wife was hilarious, attractive, successful and I know they had a wild sex life in their marriage, threesomes, etc pre-kids.

EVERYBODY had (... past tense... your verb) a good sex live pre-kids.... what is the point in even making that statement? And how is that relevant to the standard marriage trajectory where she lost interest so he found it elsewhere? Nothing said about this breakup. What are you talking about "losing his kids" are you saying he did not want the standard 50/50 custody that every father is granted? Their marriage ended back when his wife lost interest (before he sought an AP).He lost a room mate, not a wife. Good for him!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^+100

A cheater I know said AP started using “love” and he would answer “me too”. He said he would say it to keep the arrangement going. He wanted to have his cake and eat it too, but never had deep level feelings for AP. He deeply loved his wife and kids and ended up losing them when wife found out. Lost an entire life and family for some middle-aged, close to menopause p@ssy and be admittedly says “not that great sex anyways.” Pathetic sad story and he is miserable now. Wife, btw, is thriving. He never thought he would get caught and I think he banked on his wife never leaving him. His wife was hilarious, attractive, successful and I know they had a wild sex life in their marriage, threesomes, etc pre-kids.

EVERYBODY had (... past tense... your verb) a good sex live pre-kids.... what is the point in even making that statement? And how is that relevant to the standard marriage trajectory where she lost interest so he found it elsewhere? Nothing said about this breakup. What are you talking about "losing his kids" are you saying he did not want the standard 50/50 custody that every father is granted? Their marriage ended back when his wife lost interest (before he sought an AP).He lost a room mate, not a wife. Good for him!

Because you do everything to work on the marriage. People do not understand marriage. There are different phases. You don’t take the easy way out and run out and have affairs at the mid-way point. You get help. You go to therapy. You communicate. You build a plan to get back on track. Ask people that have been married a long, long time. Read Michelle Obama’s book about the severe trouble they had in their marriage after the kids were born—for years. They did intensive counseling and got back on track.

I was lucky. Driving home from my wedding dress fitting my mom and sister spoke about how there will be times in the marriage I will hate my spouse. I will not even want to look at him. That this is normal. It passes and you grow stronger together. My parents have been married 55 years and I never noticed these periods in their marriage, but my mom said they were there. They always seemed happy. You should not expect a fairy tale and not continually put time and effort into a long marriage. Or you can just live a single life of repetitive short affairs never experiencing true intimacy.

I remember being in a total infatuated love cloud when they were telling me this and looking to my bridesmaid in the back seat and thinking “wtf?!”. I also cavalierly thought “yeah. That won’t be us it will always be smooth sailing. I was 28”.

Here I am 50, 22 years of marriage and I know now what they mean. No marriage is all “up”, fun times 24/7. You weather the ups and downs together and what comes out of that is profound. Too many people either settled and married the wrong person or hit the first major obstacle and look for a way out or an affair.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^+100

A cheater I know said AP started using “love” and he would answer “me too”. He said he would say it to keep the arrangement going. He wanted to have his cake and eat it too, but never had deep level feelings for AP. He deeply loved his wife and kids and ended up losing them when wife found out. Lost an entire life and family for some middle-aged, close to menopause p@ssy and be admittedly says “not that great sex anyways.” Pathetic sad story and he is miserable now. Wife, btw, is thriving. He never thought he would get caught and I think he banked on his wife never leaving him. His wife was hilarious, attractive, successful and I know they had a wild sex life in their marriage, threesomes, etc pre-kids.

EVERYBODY had (... past tense... your verb) a good sex live pre-kids.... what is the point in even making that statement? And how is that relevant to the standard marriage trajectory where she lost interest so he found it elsewhere? Nothing said about this breakup. What are you talking about "losing his kids" are you saying he did not want the standard 50/50 custody that every father is granted? Their marriage ended back when his wife lost interest (before he sought an AP).He lost a room mate, not a wife. Good for him!

Anonymous wrote:Your wife does not want to have sex with you. Again, your wife does not want to have sex with you.

Your situation is not the same for many, many people that have many varying different reasons for infidelity.

You can only see things through your own experience which is not the same for all people that cheat.

You are bitterly angry at your wife and it comes out in your continuous posting about it in many different threads.

Frankly, based on how nasty you are in all of your posts I can’t blame your wife for not wanting your d@ck anywhere near her.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^ they also blatantly lie about the state of their marriage and how much sex they are really getting at home.. it’s the fake sob story to commiserate and get laid.

It's generally not a lie when a married man says his wife does not want sex. Why do you think most married men are constantly on the prowl? Like you said, they are not looking for conversation or relationship just sex. A husband who gets that (sex) with his wife has no reason to deal with other women expecting conversation or romantic gestures from him.

What makes you think that, in the history of woman-kind, a man's admission that "not even my wife will f-k me" is an effective panty-wetting line?

so many wrong statements here. BTW, these men are lying no matter what kind of mind gymnastic you are going on in your head. It's wrong.

Wait: you are seriously claiming that most married men are getting a normal/sufficient amount of sex at home (with wife)?
HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA !!
That loud whooshing sound was all your credibility leaving the forum.

Anonymous wrote:^+100

A cheater I know said AP started using “love” and he would answer “me too”. He said he would say it to keep the arrangement going. He wanted to have his cake and eat it too, but never had deep level feelings for AP. He deeply loved his wife and kids and ended up losing them when wife found out. Lost an entire life and family for some middle-aged, close to menopause p@ssy and be admittedly says “not that great sex anyways.” Pathetic sad story and he is miserable now. Wife, btw, is thriving. He never thought he would get caught and I think he banked on his wife never leaving him. His wife was hilarious, attractive, successful and I know they had a wild sex life in their marriage, threesomes, etc pre-kids.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^ they also blatantly lie about the state of their marriage and how much sex they are really getting at home.. it’s the fake sob story to commiserate and get laid.

It's generally not a lie when a married man says his wife does not want sex. Why do you think most married men are constantly on the prowl? Like you said, they are not looking for conversation or relationship just sex. A husband who gets that (sex) with his wife has no reason to deal with other women expecting conversation or romantic gestures from him.

What makes you think that, in the history of woman-kind, a man's admission that "not even my wife will f-k me" is an effective panty-wetting line?

so many wrong statements here. BTW, these men are lying no matter what kind of mind gymnastic you are going on in your head. It's wrong.