Anonymous wrote:Since women’s bathrooms have doors on the stalls, why would anyone care about a young boy in there with his mother.

Anonymous wrote:8 ish but honestly I don’t really care that much in a restroom. I mostly feel bad for older boys in there, they are probably dying of embarrassment. And have one of those nervous wreck paranoid mothers.

But for the love of all things holy, no boys over the age of 5 in the changing room at the pool. It’s rude and they stare.

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Anonymous wrote:A few reasons why:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ADF1YlYyiSA

https://www.news4jax.com/news/2015/08/22/man-arrested-in-mcdonalds-bathroom-assault-2/

https://komonews.com/news/local/young-boy-sexually-assaulted-in-restaurant-bathroom

https://www.foxnews.com/us/sex-offender-who-tried-to-infect-kids-with-hiv-accused-in-attack-on-oregon-boy

https://www.jacksonville.com/article/20150821/NEWS/801251611

Another more recent

https://www.nydailynews.com/news/crime/ny-man-rapes-girl-inside-mcdonalds-bathroom-in-oklahoma-20190719-y5aoxylwlbarnhrmggqp5o7zza-story.html

Again, these things happen to adults as well.

Does your husband bring his mommy every time he has to go pee at a restaurant?

Anonymous wrote:A few reasons why:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ADF1YlYyiSA

https://www.news4jax.com/news/2015/08/22/man-arrested-in-mcdonalds-bathroom-assault-2/

https://komonews.com/news/local/young-boy-sexually-assaulted-in-restaurant-bathroom

https://www.foxnews.com/us/sex-offender-who-tried-to-infect-kids-with-hiv-accused-in-attack-on-oregon-boy

https://www.jacksonville.com/article/20150821/NEWS/801251611

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A few reasons why:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ADF1YlYyiSA

https://www.news4jax.com/news/2015/08/22/man-arrested-in-mcdonalds-bathroom-assault-2/

https://komonews.com/news/local/young-boy-sexually-assaulted-in-restaurant-bathroom

https://www.foxnews.com/us/sex-offender-who-tried-to-infect-kids-with-hiv-accused-in-attack-on-oregon-boy

https://www.jacksonville.com/article/20150821/NEWS/801251611

Another more recent

https://www.nydailynews.com/news/crime/ny-man-rapes-girl-inside-mcdonalds-bathroom-in-oklahoma-20190719-y5aoxylwlbarnhrmggqp5o7zza-story.html

Anonymous wrote:A few reasons why:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ADF1YlYyiSA

https://www.news4jax.com/news/2015/08/22/man-arrested-in-mcdonalds-bathroom-assault-2/

https://komonews.com/news/local/young-boy-sexually-assaulted-in-restaurant-bathroom

https://www.foxnews.com/us/sex-offender-who-tried-to-infect-kids-with-hiv-accused-in-attack-on-oregon-boy

https://www.jacksonville.com/article/20150821/NEWS/801251611

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Anonymous wrote:8 ish but honestly I don’t really care that much in a restroom. I mostly feel bad for older boys in there, they are probably dying of embarrassment. And have one of those nervous wreck paranoid mothers.

But for the love of all things holy, no boys over the age of 5 in the changing room at the pool. It’s rude and they stare.

They don't stare.

Anonymous wrote:8 ish but honestly I don’t really care that much in a restroom. I mostly feel bad for older boys in there, they are probably dying of embarrassment. And have one of those nervous wreck paranoid mothers.

But for the love of all things holy, no boys over the age of 5 in the changing room at the pool. It’s rude and they stare.

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Anonymous wrote:My son just turned 9. He still goes with me when we are somewhere with large public restrooms or if, say, we are at a restaurant with dark bathrooms down a long hall that freak him out. We use a family restroom if there is one available. There was recently a case of a boy getting touched in the men’s room of a place we frequent and, unfortunately, we live in a dense urban neighborhood with lots of homeless and drug use. I’m even somewhat uncomfortable even using the women’s room on occasion.

Why risk something happening to my kid just because some random woman might possibly “look at me” because my son is in the women’s room with me? I’ll just look back.

As he gets older and more confident it will change, of course, but for now he’s with me.

Does he stay right with you the whole time?

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Anonymous wrote:I stopped around age 8 if it was a place like a restaurant with multiple exits, Penn station, an airport etc. I really don't care about looks from other moms. No way I'd allow a 4 year old into a mens room alone.

I would never let my 8 year old into a bathroom a penn station alone! I have a 9 year old, and it’s case by case.

The Penn Station men's room at a normal hour is really crowded, bustling with a mix of people. A 9 year old would be fine. Figuring out how the motion-activated water faucet works is the biggest issue.

I wouldn't do that in a million years.

Anonymous wrote:Mom of 3 here, with 2 boys. I'm bringing my boys into the ladies room for the foreseeable future, probably until 8 or 9, maybe a bit later depending on the circumstances. Ten is probably too old, although in a sketchy situation I'd still do that.

In any other situation, I wouldn't let my undressing and vulnerable child be around random unknown strangers who may or may not be in various stages of undress, all behind closed doors, so I'm not doing it in this situation either.

As for people being uncomfortable with it or whatever, they just need to get over it. People have been doing the same thing for decades, and the concept of gender seems to be pretty fluid these days anyway. If someone who has lived as a man for 30 years can decide tomorrow that they identify as female and then are allowed to use the womens' bathrooms then my young child is allowed in too.

My benchmark is whether my child would be able to encounter a predator by themselves and handle it appropriately (including not being traumatized by the process). That's my concern, not what anyone else thinks.

Anonymous wrote:By 5 or 6, he was using the men's room. Maybe not at a busy train station but at most typical bathrooms in restaurants and malls and public places. He is a boy, he knows he is a boy - I find it weird their are posters who consider their kids genderless and sexless because they are children. My boys are males and they use male restrooms.

I find it weird when I see an older boy in the women's locker rooms or bathrooms but I realize it isn't the kids fault. They have weird parents. Just like the 'my kids are kids - they aren't male or female, they have no sex or gender' posters on here. Weird people out there. The kid can't choose or control their weird parents so I as an adult can go somewhere else or ask the child to turn around if they are gawking at me (yes, I did that at a swimming pool locker room when a boy who looked 8-10 was staring at me changing). If I see any kid, male ore female peering through the cracks in the door, I will ask them to move. I had one kid (about 4-5) crawl under the stall once in a public bathroom. I told him that was rude and to leave immediately and that we don't watch people go to the bathroom.

Kids don't choose their parents. I educate where I can if there is a situation involving me so at least the kids have heard another perspective.