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Anonymous wrote:There is a theory I have heard that I completely believe as they enter my 40s. Women that are objectively thin at this age are either a) genetically small. Look at their mothers and sisters. Or b) disordered.

or c) work hard at it (not the same thing as disordered)

Again, difference between fit and thin.

Women who are THIN as they age are a) or b) pretty much without fail. Exercise does not make you thin.

Not true. I know plenty of women who exercise hard (say 1 hour 4x/week)and do active stuff with families (hiking, swimming) and do not diet, just focus on eating healthfully in a sustainable way (lots of fruits and veggies, little junk food, desserts as an occasional treat rather than a daily thing). They are both thin and fit. There is nothing disordered about that, that's called a healthy, active lifestyle.

Healthy lifestyles are great. I'd also bet their parents and siblings are thin.

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Anonymous wrote:There is a theory I have heard that I completely believe as they enter my 40s. Women that are objectively thin at this age are either a) genetically small. Look at their mothers and sisters. Or b) disordered.

or c) work hard at it (not the same thing as disordered)

Again, difference between fit and thin.

Women who are THIN as they age are a) or b) pretty much without fail. Exercise does not make you thin.

Not true. I know plenty of women who exercise hard (say 1 hour 4x/week)and do active stuff with families (hiking, swimming) and do not diet, just focus on eating healthfully in a sustainable way (lots of fruits and veggies, little junk food, desserts as an occasional treat rather than a daily thing). They are both thin and fit. There is nothing disordered about that, that's called a healthy, active lifestyle.

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Fat person here. This. All day long. I don’t love being fat, I doubt anyone does. But I am so f$#&*%g tired of being looked down on, or ignored, or treated like a second class citizen because people assume I’m lazy, or dumb or whatever else (cue the aholes who will respond to this with those exact comments). Losing weight for me is really, really hard, because I hate going to the gym, have two small children, and yes, I don’t want to spend my life starving myself and working out that I hate just to please society. And I have two young girls that I don’t want to subject to body shaming or make self conscious of their own bodies. My mother obsessed about weight and being fat her whole life, and it has imprinted itself on my brain in negative talk. I do NOT want my daughters dealing with that. So yeah, I have learned to accept my body, teach them that women are beautiful at any size, it’s what’s inside that counts, and anyone who says otherwise can go pound sand.

So you are not lazy but you hate the gym, don't like to exercise, find it too hard to watch what you eat and blame your mom for your current size?

Stop being obnoxious. You know that’s not what she said, but you just twisted it so you can imply she’s lazy. I do not understand why people feel the need to be such bitches to people they do not know.

PP isn't being obnoxious. It's literally what the other PP said. She said she isn't lazy, but then said:

"I hate going to the gym"

"I don't want to spend my life starving myself" (hint: the majority of people don't need to starve themselves to attain a healthy weight -- yes I know SOME do, but not most)

"My mother was obsessed about weight and being fat and it has imprinted itself on my brain" -- blaming her mom

Newsflash: being healthy and working out isn't going to imprint negative, body-shaming crap on your daughters. In fact, it's an excellent example to show them.

All true. And your daughters will likely be overweight too and not because it's generic, because they are learning your habits. Not that that is the worse thing in the world, but it is as if you know your girls will be overweight and you are preparing them for that instead of trying to change the trajectory and teach them good habits and healthy lifestyle

And how is that your problem? You and PP are fat shaming her.

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Anonymous[b wrote:]Do women with special needs kids really love their children?[/b]

Do people with bad marriages really think they're 'stronger' for it?

How in the world did you make this jump...

Anonymous wrote:I was a naturally thin person who was quick to judge overweight people as lazy. Then menopause hit. Now I’m 20 pounds over my ideal weight. I no longer judge!

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Anonymous wrote:There is a theory I have heard that I completely believe as they enter my 40s. Women that are objectively thin at this age are either a) genetically small. Look at their mothers and sisters. Or b) disordered.

or c) work hard at it (not the same thing as disordered)

Again, difference between fit and thin.

Women who are THIN as they age are a) or b) pretty much without fail. Exercise does not make you thin.

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Fat person here. This. All day long. I don’t love being fat, I doubt anyone does. But I am so f$#&*%g tired of being looked down on, or ignored, or treated like a second class citizen because people assume I’m lazy, or dumb or whatever else (cue the aholes who will respond to this with those exact comments). Losing weight for me is really, really hard, because I hate going to the gym, have two small children, and yes, I don’t want to spend my life starving myself and working out that I hate just to please society. And I have two young girls that I don’t want to subject to body shaming or make self conscious of their own bodies. My mother obsessed about weight and being fat her whole life, and it has imprinted itself on my brain in negative talk. I do NOT want my daughters dealing with that. So yeah, I have learned to accept my body, teach them that women are beautiful at any size, it’s what’s inside that counts, and anyone who says otherwise can go pound sand.

So you are not lazy but you hate the gym, don't like to exercise, find it too hard to watch what you eat and blame your mom for your current size?

Stop being obnoxious. You know that’s not what she said, but you just twisted it so you can imply she’s lazy. I do not understand why people feel the need to be such bitches to people they do not know.

Well, she did say that she hates going to the gym. So do I, but for health reasons, everyone needs some physical activity on a daily basis. It is lazy to use the "I don't like the gym" excuse.

Exactly. Most people don't always want to go to the gym. I would rather eat a massive Chipotle burrito for lunch (my weakness) than what I brought (fruit, yogurt, and a cream cheese & jelly sandwich) but I eat it because it's healthier. As adults, we sometimes have to do things we don't like.

Oh and before anyone attacks me -- I have a little kid too, and I work FT (as does DH). I don't have much time in my day, but I still make time for certain things.

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Fat person here. This. All day long. I don’t love being fat, I doubt anyone does. But I am so f$#&*%g tired of being looked down on, or ignored, or treated like a second class citizen because people assume I’m lazy, or dumb or whatever else (cue the aholes who will respond to this with those exact comments). Losing weight for me is really, really hard, because I hate going to the gym, have two small children, and yes, I don’t want to spend my life starving myself and working out that I hate just to please society. And I have two young girls that I don’t want to subject to body shaming or make self conscious of their own bodies. My mother obsessed about weight and being fat her whole life, and it has imprinted itself on my brain in negative talk. I do NOT want my daughters dealing with that. So yeah, I have learned to accept my body, teach them that women are beautiful at any size, it’s what’s inside that counts, and anyone who says otherwise can go pound sand.

So you are not lazy but you hate the gym, don't like to exercise, find it too hard to watch what you eat and blame your mom for your current size?

Stop being obnoxious. You know that’s not what she said, but you just twisted it so you can imply she’s lazy. I do not understand why people feel the need to be such bitches to people they do not know.

PP isn't being obnoxious. It's literally what the other PP said. She said she isn't lazy, but then said:

"I hate going to the gym"

"I don't want to spend my life starving myself" (hint: the majority of people don't need to starve themselves to attain a healthy weight -- yes I know SOME do, but not most)

"My mother was obsessed about weight and being fat and it has imprinted itself on my brain" -- blaming her mom

Newsflash: being healthy and working out isn't going to imprint negative, body-shaming crap on your daughters. In fact, it's an excellent example to show them.

All true. And your daughters will likely be overweight too and not because it's generic, because they are learning your habits. Not that that is the worse thing in the world, but it is as if you know your girls will be overweight and you are preparing them for that instead of trying to change the trajectory and teach them good habits and healthy lifestyle

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Fat person here. This. All day long. I don’t love being fat, I doubt anyone does. But I am so f$#&*%g tired of being looked down on, or ignored, or treated like a second class citizen because people assume I’m lazy, or dumb or whatever else (cue the aholes who will respond to this with those exact comments). Losing weight for me is really, really hard, because I hate going to the gym, have two small children, and yes, I don’t want to spend my life starving myself and working out that I hate just to please society. And I have two young girls that I don’t want to subject to body shaming or make self conscious of their own bodies. My mother obsessed about weight and being fat her whole life, and it has imprinted itself on my brain in negative talk. I do NOT want my daughters dealing with that. So yeah, I have learned to accept my body, teach them that women are beautiful at any size, it’s what’s inside that counts, and anyone who says otherwise can go pound sand.

So you are not lazy but you hate the gym, don't like to exercise, find it too hard to watch what you eat and blame your mom for your current size?

Stop being obnoxious. You know that’s not what she said, but you just twisted it so you can imply she’s lazy. I do not understand why people feel the need to be such bitches to people they do not know.

PP isn't being obnoxious. It's literally what the other PP said. She said she isn't lazy, but then said:

"I hate going to the gym"

"I don't want to spend my life starving myself" (hint: the majority of people don't need to starve themselves to attain a healthy weight -- yes I know SOME do, but not most)

"My mother was obsessed about weight and being fat and it has imprinted itself on my brain" -- blaming her mom

Newsflash: being healthy and working out isn't going to imprint negative, body-shaming crap on your daughters. In fact, it's an excellent example to show them.

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Anonymous wrote:There is a theory I have heard that I completely believe as they enter my 40s. Women that are objectively thin at this age are either a) genetically small. Look at their mothers and sisters. Or b) disordered.

or c) work hard at it (not the same thing as disordered)

Again, difference between fit and thin.

Women who are THIN as they age are a) or b) pretty much without fail. Exercise does not make you thin.

True. I am 42 - 4'11" and have weighed 95-105 lbs my entire adulthood. I eat whatever I want and never step foot in a gym. I try to gain weight and just can't. I eat awfully - McDonalds when I am rushed. I even have a toned stomach and have no idea how....it's not like abs for days, but it's flat as can be. I am also in the worst shape of my life....I can't run for 2 minutes without being winded. I have a friend who would be considered "big bone girl" (I actually hate that term). She is 190lbs and can run circles around me. She is so fit, but a lot of people just see her a a big girl, and she gets a lot of nasty comments too.

Bottom line....people suck.

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Anonymous wrote:There is a theory I have heard that I completely believe as they enter my 40s. Women that are objectively thin at this age are either a) genetically small. Look at their mothers and sisters. Or b) disordered.

or c) work hard at it (not the same thing as disordered)

Again, difference between fit and thin.

Women who are THIN as they age are a) or b) pretty much without fail. Exercise does not make you thin.

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Fat person here. This. All day long. I don’t love being fat, I doubt anyone does. But I am so f$#&*%g tired of being looked down on, or ignored, or treated like a second class citizen because people assume I’m lazy, or dumb or whatever else (cue the aholes who will respond to this with those exact comments). Losing weight for me is really, really hard, because I hate going to the gym, have two small children, and yes, I don’t want to spend my life starving myself and working out that I hate just to please society. And I have two young girls that I don’t want to subject to body shaming or make self conscious of their own bodies. My mother obsessed about weight and being fat her whole life, and it has imprinted itself on my brain in negative talk. I do NOT want my daughters dealing with that. So yeah, I have learned to accept my body, teach them that women are beautiful at any size, it’s what’s inside that counts, and anyone who says otherwise can go pound sand.

So you are not lazy but you hate the gym, don't like to exercise, find it too hard to watch what you eat and blame your mom for your current size?

Stop being obnoxious. You know that’s not what she said, but you just twisted it so you can imply she’s lazy. I do not understand why people feel the need to be such bitches to people they do not know.

Well, she did say that she hates going to the gym. So do I, but for health reasons, everyone needs some physical activity on a daily basis. It is lazy to use the "I don't like the gym" excuse.