To the OP if you are still out there:

Wading through the nonsense, a few PPs have given helpful advice. You have to look honestly at your own reasons for not going. None of us truly know how difficult your 1 year old is, how helpful your DH is or isn't, how much this kind of trip would be fun for your older child, or how cool/helpful your friends are.

Some people find having time alone in a new place to be a godsend. Other people would be miserable alone with the baby in a strange house while everyone else was elsewhere having fun. Some people wouldn't mind having schedules disrupted, some people would, and often for valid reasons. Some friends are cool and helpful, some are not. Some people love to vacation in new places, some people prefer to be at home or travel to see family. Some people prefer a week at home with no work or other obligations to recharge.

The point its, you need to think about what it is that really makes you not want to go and be honest with your DH about it. If you are open to DH taking the older child without you and you think the friends would be cool about it, you could stay home with the baby. If your DH can step up and truly co-parent, could you consider giving it a try?

In the end, it's your family taking the vacation and you need to find the compromise that will work best for your family.

Ignore all the DCUM nastiness trying to tell you that what they do is the only way.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow. I’m a pp from the first page.

How is this 12 pages?!

Because this is DCUM and nobody misses a chance to pile on an OP. It's very sad to those of us who open a thread prepared to try and give actual, helpful advice in a nice manner. Those posts can be found if you look carefully, but you have to weed through posts from parents trying to make themselves feel superior by beating on someone else first.

The reason it is long is YOU. 90% of pps agree that this is not hard and that her DH is right. But, you are persisting in trying to prove the majority evil and wrong. Dcum loves to pilesure, be you are dcum, and piling on all the people who think it is a pretty good idea and that all her excuses are lame. Once you stop posting, the thread will disappear.

WTF? I didn't even post until this last page. Who do you think you are talking to? You realize these are all anonymous posts from multiple people over several days, right?

And I stand by my PP: there are people on both sides of this argument who have posted respectful, helpful replies but far more on both sides of the argument who have posted nasty, judgmental replies.

I guess we know which type you are.

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Anonymous wrote:I’d also go. But then we were/are the type of family that never really slowed down for the baby. I would hate for my older kid to miss out on fun times.

This. I can't imagine completely missing out on life for years because of naps.

I've known people like you. You have an easy kid who will nap anywhere and look askance at others who don't drag their kids all over kingdom come because they have kids who don't nap just anywhere and need their sleep.

I don't begrudge you you're fun, but stop with the judgment and keep your yap shut.

DP. People that go out have all kind of babies, some a screamers, some are quiet. Isn't it funny how nobody understands your martyrdom of a fussy baby?! Methinks your baby is just a baby and it is YOU who trained your baby to only sleep in the crib, just like non martyr mom that takes her baby everywhere trained her baby to sleep in a stroller. You are just incompetent and probably a first time mom. It is not the kids are are inflexible it is the parents. Bit of a narcissistic mommy complex, I would guess on your part. How else can you be a martyr if your baby was super easy??

I don't have a difficult baby and I'm not a martyr. My kids are in ES and were easy.

I just know the types like you... basically judgy jerks. You just proved it with your nasty post.

If I am a judgy jerk, you must be seeing yourself in me! You are weirdly vested in OP not taking her baby anywhere. Perhaps your kids were easy, but you are certifiably high strung as a kite on a string!

You sound like a defensive teenager who has just been called out for her inappropriate behavior. It is so amusing when someone who is flying off the handle with insults such as yourself then makes nonsensical assertions about other PPs being weirdly invested in a thread. My original post wasn't even directed at you (if you truly are a DP) and yet you had to enter the ring, punches flying.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow. I’m a pp from the first page.

How is this 12 pages?!

Because this is DCUM and nobody misses a chance to pile on an OP. It's very sad to those of us who open a thread prepared to try and give actual, helpful advice in a nice manner. Those posts can be found if you look carefully, but you have to weed through posts from parents trying to make themselves feel superior by beating on someone else first.

The reason it is long is YOU. 90% of pps agree that this is not hard and that her DH is right. But, you are persisting in trying to prove the majority evil and wrong. Dcum loves to pilesure, be you are dcum, and piling on all the people who think it is a pretty good idea and that all her excuses are lame. Once you stop posting, the thread will disappear.

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Anonymous wrote:I’d also go. But then we were/are the type of family that never really slowed down for the baby. I would hate for my older kid to miss out on fun times.

This. I can't imagine completely missing out on life for years because of naps.

I've known people like you. You have an easy kid who will nap anywhere and look askance at others who don't drag their kids all over kingdom come because they have kids who don't nap just anywhere and need their sleep.

I don't begrudge you you're fun, but stop with the judgment and keep your yap shut.

DP. People that go out have all kind of babies, some a screamers, some are quiet. Isn't it funny how nobody understands your martyrdom of a fussy baby?! Methinks your baby is just a baby and it is YOU who trained your baby to only sleep in the crib, just like non martyr mom that takes her baby everywhere trained her baby to sleep in a stroller. You are just incompetent and probably a first time mom. It is not the kids are are inflexible it is the parents. Bit of a narcissistic mommy complex, I would guess on your part. How else can you be a martyr if your baby was super easy??

I don't have a difficult baby and I'm not a martyr. My kids are in ES and were easy.

I just know the types like you... basically judgy jerks. You just proved it with your nasty post.

If I am a judgy jerk, you must be seeing yourself in me! You are weirdly vested in OP not taking her baby anywhere. Perhaps your kids were easy, but you are certifiably high strung as a kite on a string!

Anonymous wrote:Wow. I’m a pp from the first page.

How is this 12 pages?!

Because this is DCUM and nobody misses a chance to pile on an OP. It's very sad to those of us who open a thread prepared to try and give actual, helpful advice in a nice manner. Those posts can be found if you look carefully, but you have to weed through posts from parents trying to make themselves feel superior by beating on someone else first.

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Anonymous wrote:I’d also go. But then we were/are the type of family that never really slowed down for the baby. I would hate for my older kid to miss out on fun times.

This. I can't imagine completely missing out on life for years because of naps.

I've known people like you. You have an easy kid who will nap anywhere and look askance at others who don't drag their kids all over kingdom come because they have kids who don't nap just anywhere and need their sleep.

I don't begrudge you you're fun, but stop with the judgment and keep your yap shut.

DP. People that go out have all kind of babies, some a screamers, some are quiet. Isn't it funny how nobody understands your martyrdom of a fussy baby?! Methinks your baby is just a baby and it is YOU who trained your baby to only sleep in the crib, just like non martyr mom that takes her baby everywhere trained her baby to sleep in a stroller. You are just incompetent and probably a first time mom. It is not the kids are are inflexible it is the parents. Bit of a narcissistic mommy complex, I would guess on your part. How else can you be a martyr if your baby was super easy??

I don't have a difficult baby and I'm not a martyr. My kids are in ES and were easy.

I just know the types like you... basically judgy jerks. You just proved it with your nasty post.

Anonymous wrote:You don't forget about what babies need when your kids magically turn 4!
My youngest is in school and i now babies need naps, to eat at random times, have tantrums, etc.
If i invited a friend with a baby i would know and expect that the baby's needs would come first.
Who are you people who would ditch friends just because they have a baby? If the friends didn't want them there they wouldn't have invited them. It sounds like this is the first invite they received. Why now if they weren't actually wanted?

OP just doesn't want to go and is making up every excuse in the book. First the baby needs to eat. Then it needs to sleep. But not just sleep anywhere, no. It needs super dark, super quiet, super NON Maine, non fun type sleep.

Seriously. Just say to DH "Listen, this does not sound fun and I don't want to go". There. Unfair to your poor kids to be the reasons why you can't do fun things. They are not the problem, OP is.

You don't know OP, you don't know her kid, you don't know how supportive her DH is....etc.

People like you are the problem. You think you know everything based on your own, limited experiences, feel free to generalize to all others based only on your limited experience and lack any tact.

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Anonymous wrote:I’d also go. But then we were/are the type of family that never really slowed down for the baby. I would hate for my older kid to miss out on fun times.

This. I can't imagine completely missing out on life for years because of naps.

I've known people like you. You have an easy kid who will nap anywhere and look askance at others who don't drag their kids all over kingdom come because they have kids who don't nap just anywhere and need their sleep.

I don't begrudge you you're fun, but stop with the judgment and keep your yap shut.

DP. People that go out have all kind of babies, some a screamers, some are quiet. Isn't it funny how nobody understands your martyrdom of a fussy baby?! Methinks your baby is just a baby and it is YOU who trained your baby to only sleep in the crib, just like non martyr mom that takes her baby everywhere trained her baby to sleep in a stroller. You are just incompetent and probably a first time mom. It is not the kids are are inflexible it is the parents. Bit of a narcissistic mommy complex, I would guess on your part. How else can you be a martyr if your baby was super easy??

Wow. I’m a pp from the first page.

How is this 12 pages?!

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Anonymous wrote:I’d also go. But then we were/are the type of family that never really slowed down for the baby. I would hate for my older kid to miss out on fun times.

This. I can't imagine completely missing out on life for years because of naps.

I've known people like you. You have an easy kid who will nap anywhere and look askance at others who don't drag their kids all over kingdom come because they have kids who don't nap just anywhere and need their sleep.

I don't begrudge you you're fun, but stop with the judgment and keep your yap shut.

I really think this all boils down to who has a husband who coparents and who doesn’t.

Anonymous wrote:I’d go in a heartbeat. AND I’d work it out very explicitly with my spouse: Odd numbered days, I take the day nap coverage and you take the bedtime coverage. Even number days, you take the nap coverage and I take the bedtime. Make sure he signs off on that—no “Yeah, yeah we’ll figure it out when we get there...” Sign off before you go. Of course you may need to adjust when you get there. But that’s different than figuring it out there.

yeah and pack some books if you can pack a portable hammock or something so you can still have a vacation even if you're stuck covering naps

Traveling with kids to another home in another state is just not that hard people.

And yes, I think it’s maybe two posters who are riding the anti-vacation with kids wave. Everyone else is normal. Let’s drop this thread - OP will do what she wants to do (or not) and those other parents can stay home.

A silver lining of this thread is that it’s inspired me to plan a trip to Maine at the end of August with our one and a half year old - I can’t wait!

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Anonymous wrote:Maine is perfect for a one year old. Does dB nap in a stroller or on a blanket? Honestly go, eat lobster rolls, take walks, sit on the beach with a book and napping baby. Sounds like heaven.

agree. just let your 1 year old sleep in a stroller. go enjoy

Page 4 OP indicated her baby won’t nap in a stroller. Then sancti-mommy came in and patted herself on the back because she trained her kids how. Please keep up!